How can a person honestly say/think that by allowing gay marriage, the sanctity of the institution of marriage

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will be ruined? The astronomical rates of divorce, adultery and domestic violence pretty much speak for themselves that marriage is no longer the sacred right it once may have been. I just don't understand how people can say with a straight face that this blessed union will somehow be ruined if gay people are allowed to marry. Any thoughts on the subject? Thanks. Sorry about the awkward phrasing of my question, I couldn't figure out a better way to say it.

I understand and agree that "marriage" in the eyes of the church should be regulated by the church. The idea of domestic partnerships for all couples makes much more sense to me, and it actually goes along with a separation of church and state. As it is right now there are only a few states that offer any type of civil union or domestic partnership, that is so messed up.

What does the right to "marriage" have to do with a public sex life? I'm pretty sure that getting married doesn't mean you invite the world into your bedroom.

I am getting some really good answers here, but boy there are some strange ones. There is no logic to some peoples thought process. What on earth does same sex marriage have to do with brothers marrying brothers and sisters marrying sisters. If that is true of gay marriage, then same sex marriage should be illegal because sisters and brothers may marry. Honestly, I appreciate all different types of answers, but please use some common sense and say things based in reality.

Answer 1

I don't care who marries. Sooner or late people will marry their cats. I promise you that will happen o honestly who cares who marries who. It's all fake anyway. I make lots of money...She gives up lots of honey...She does this, I do that
BULLCRAP! That's exactly why I don't wanna be married!

Answer 2

At this point, I could quote the New Testament regarding marriage.

Technically, marriage is a contract where a man has many wives. Only the man can enter this contract and only a man can divorce.

Our form of marriage is Roman, one man, one women. This is the form the Christian church took.

Having said that, let talk specifically about marriage and same sex marriages. Marriage has a civil and optionally a religious part. The marriage license is exactly that: A civil document from the state. The religious part is carried out by a religion.

Now what about same sex marriage? The civil is again dependent on the state, so that state must allow same sex marriage. More over for the religious portion, the religion must allow same sex marriage.

It is the state and the religion that determine same sex marriage. The state must first allow same sex marriage. The religion must allow same sex marriages. First state then church.

Answer 3

First, there are two seperate issues which are bound up in the current definition of "marriage," and they are:

1) The LEGAL definition of "marriage," which is a contract bestowing certain rights and responsibilities upon the participants.

2) The RELIGIOUS definition of "marriage," which is not a State Sanctioned but instituted by Religion.

Personally, I think a separation of these two definitions is going to be required before homosexual unions can achieve the same legal status as current-day marriage. If the Government gets out of the "marriage" business altogether, and simply recognizes "domestic partnerships" for both heterosexuals and homosexuals, it will go a long way to equal rights under the law for homosexuals.

"Marriage" should be strictly religious, letting each religion decide who they allow to join in the "holy bonds."

Howevever, the state should offer me the option of having "Civil Unions" with whomever I wish, and not call one "marriage" an the other "almost marriage."

And a homosexual union is only "blessed" if your "God" blesses it - the God of the Bible, the Kohran, and the Torah does NOT.

Answer 4

I think that the Christian society hurts their cause by standing in the way of this. By demanding that others cannot get married, ie adults, they erode their own religious freedoms. Marriage was never a Biblical only thing. People all over the world have been getting married without a biblical context for centuries, as long as anyone can know. So no, I do not think that my Christian brothers have it right, I think they should get out of the 'morals' buisness. They should preach the Gospel, and leave the rest up to God, if they really believe in Him.

Answer 5

If homosexual marriage is eroding the sanctity of the institute of marriage, then non-christian marriages had been eroding it for years and years.... I am married and I am an atheist, does that imply my marriage additionally spits in gods face? What is humorous, is there are homosexual individuals who're nonetheless religious Christians.

Answer 6

Bottom line is that marriage whether it be gay or straight is a bunch of BS. People should not get tax breaks because of it and tax breaks should only be given to people that can make it through 7 years of a formal union. After the 7 years they should be allowed to marry. Your barking down the wrong tree with me, I can not support 2 guys having sex with each other and getting married. I am not one to judge, but I think if they choose this lifestyle they need to keep it in their bedroom as should all people keep their sex lives out of public.

Answer 7

Although I am opposed to gay marriage, I find it quite ironic that the government should be involved in the RELIGIOUS institution of marriage. There is no law compelling anyone- straight or otherwise- to get a state marrigae license. People do so only out of ignorance (you give up many rights by entering into a overnment sanctioned marriage) and to obtain the "benefits" offered in exchange for making such concessions. I worship God, and God never ordained any marriage other than that between a man and a woman/women. The issue is really about who is your God- the state...or God. I think normal people should avoid entering into government sanctioned marriages....but let the queers enter into them if they wish...since they are actually giving up some of their rights by doing so...and coming further under the jurisdiction of the government.

Answer 8

I believe your opinions were expressed in an eloquent manner. Without going into a litany of justifications from my faith, all I can express myself is that we are all accountable for each decision we make in our lives. In many cases, that includes marriages, divorces, and relationships. I can't cast a judgment on any man or woman's choice to marry or not to marry, whether gay or straight. I'm not in a position to judge anyone for what they do. I believe in the separation of Church and State in the US. That's a solid principle that our democracy is based upon. The decision to marry for gays can either be a political or religious-based. Personally, I believe that whatever another group does has little or no bearing on me or my life or my faith. Since I see no conflicts, you have my blessing to do as you deem appropriate to maintain happiness in your life.

Answer 9

I support marriage, gay and straight. I support it for it's ideals and its responsibilities. I support its strengthening capabilities. There are straight people who abuse it, refuse it, and disillusion others on it. There are straight people who hold to it tightly for a lifetime, who see it for its charms, its pains, its tears and smiles, and who go into only half-way. There are those who have to renew it everyday, some who renew it every second, others who trash it after a few hours. They renew promises to themselves, their partners, and their communities. I would like to see gay couples, adult and consenting, get that same chance. The chance to enjoy that freedom, that exquisite acceptance, publicly and privately, both without shame.

Good Luck To All Who Are Trying For It. And Blessings as well.

Answer 10

I'm gay. I'm married. I'm Canadian. It's no big deal up hear.....But after the disgraceful mess that the straight population has made of their precious state of matrimony---I don't know how they have any right to advise anyone on marriage principles.

Answer 11

Honesty, commitment and love is sanctimonious.
Marriage is a religious ceremony that should not be recognized by government at all.
Only a civil union, like a business partnership should be considered by government.
The religious can be very sanctimonious though...not in a good way :)