i lust for a bunch of attractive men. i have never cheated. but do imagine it from time to time. i don't want to cheat, but all these lustings for attractive males makes me nervouse that i may cave under temptation, should it arise.
please understand that i turely love my husband.
2007-03-20 19:09:06 · 15 answers · asked by laura t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As someone who once cheated I say this. Fantasies are very normal in fact if u and your hubby talked openly and honestly you would find that he has fantasies of his own. However I am worried that you r concerned it could go further. To me that is a good sign that if u were put in the right situation something very well could happen.
Acknowledge your feelings when you have them. Then Remember all the reasons why you love your husband. Do NOT stew on any faults you may have in your relationship!!! This will only intensify the lust-full feeling u r having. Remember no matter how much someone else may seem desirable they too have faults. At least you know what your husbands are.
If you have no fear that anything will ever happen then have fun. Use your imagination. Sometimes a good fantasy is all we need to spice things up a bit.
2007-03-20 19:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by angel s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Sounds like maybe you are young and newly wed and not ready for that deep of commitment. Although you may love your husband your just not ready to settle down completely. And now is the time you ahve to decide if you can stop lusting after other men and be satisfied with your husband. If NOT then you may consider a divorce!
2007-03-20 19:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry its pretty normal...you are one of the Sexually hyperactive types. Ok there is only one solution to your problem. Stop your thoughts when they begin to get into lustful ideas. You have to control what your mind thinks and you can control it if you desire to. Its tough initally but its possible...you can tune your mind not to imagine or fantacise about other men...if you feel attracted to some other men...its not wrong...but if you begin imagining things ...than it is. SO do not imagine anything!! Thats the only solution..... i do the same thing. I never let my mind wander or imagine wrong things ...
2007-03-20 19:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Someday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get it together I'm sure you're not a teenage schoolgirl, If you truly love your husband like you say you do than you could never cheat on him even if one of the men you find yourself lusting over was to approach you because the guilt of that would tear you up inside... but really you are a grown adult women who is happily married stop worrying about the attractive men you see and focus that attention on the man you love.
2007-03-20 19:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with looking at a hot guy. We're all human beings with desires, yearnings, and fantasies. It's not a big deal. Just don't put yourself in a situation where a sexual fantasy could become reality. Otherwise, there will be hell to pay.
2007-03-21 04:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God, our Creator designed us as sexual beings. To deny this is to insult life itself.
Sexuality is the most wondrous physical trait of mankind.
That said, we are spiritual beings, and so, can't attain serenity until we achieve a balance and harmony between our sexual urges and our spiritual hunger.
If you ever are able to confide with your beloved husband with sincerity, (as you should), then you'll do well to honor his ego, and assure him with words and actions that you are his alone, regardless of your imagined yearnings.
If honest, he'll give you relief, as he shares the fact that he, too admires and privately enjoys the curves and proportions of other females.
False pretence is the norm, and this explains the vacuity of intimacy and trust, in most relationships.
Honesty and concern for the feelings of the other will bring you to a closeness unfound by those who protect their actual self with secrecy.
Become one with your mate, in every way. You'll be amazed at how it improves your tenderness when you melt in bed together.
Nothing is as refreshing as rest. No soul can rest that is always acting. When the "religious" get this simple reality, Christ will be present, in and between them.
Be real. It works so well.
Enjoy!
2007-03-20 19:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife had the same problem. We eventually started swinging so she could play with whomever she wanted. Of course, I got to play with other women then, it's only fair.
We had a great time and met a lot of nice people. We have outgrown that now though.
2007-03-21 07:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In that case you will not do anything..Remember what Jimmy Carter said , "I have sinned for I have lust in my heart."
Why are you dissastisfied is what I would ask. Just make your own sex life more stimulating and act out some fantasies.
YOu chose to be married now choose to be adult.
2007-03-20 19:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by commonsense2265 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this's a very bad habit as u said u really love ur hubby n yet u still want to sex with other men.this's very dishonest to ur hubby.u just think in the opposit way,do u like ur hubby sex with other ladies?sure u don't like it,right?think twice b4 u do it as there's no share here n there after marriage.take care.
2007-03-20 19:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋