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Question

This is not designed to offend anyone.

Every foreigner married to a native filipina seem to have some degree of suspicion to it.
It could be obvious when you see a 70 year old man with a 23 year old pretty filipina.
There are different cases where a filipina never felt loved until she met a foreigner.

Do you think that there are some possible sincere & loving marriages between filipina and foreigner husband?

Alll filipina DO NOT think the same way.

I admit that my question did not have clarity after proof reading it. I screwed up.

My reason for posting this question:

SOME filipino men were commenting on the filipina's intention of marriage to a foreigner for money and security in previous topics several days ago.

SOME (not all) filipino men have so much to say about foreigners married to filipina women.

My question meant:
Do some filipino men always think that the filipina's love is not sincere being married to a foreigner?

Honestly, I really don't care what they think, I just want to put the question out there for folks like FILAMUSA.

TO: justmemi
The 4 M's was easy to figure out. I got that already.
I have some experience to know what that is.( Smile)

Answer 1

I think your question is a very good one.

To a reasonable person, there are foreign men to Fil. women marriages that turn out great and there are other such marriages that don't turn out great. The reasons for each are countless.

In my opinion, a good kano-to-pinay marriage is composed of two people who consider each other as EQUAL partners in the union--just like it is done in the West. Every kano to pinay couple I know who has survived the initial 10 year period (got kids and home) strongly follow the aforementioned tenet. The man treats the Pinay woman the same way he treats an American woman.

However, On Y/A Philippines (with the exception of you Big P) I read questions and answers from other American men, who seek or are attached to pinays, that contain clear references to their desire or requirement that "their women" to be subservient to them. I believe the term one kano used was that their wives should "SUBMIT TO THEM". In other words, there is an undercurrent of a master-servant relationship type at play. To me, these are the unions that are eventually doomed.

Why? Because as most kanos would tell you after several years of marriage to a pinay, pinays are usually not the weak-willed and gullible women that most kanos initially believe them to be. After marriage and return to the USA, a point in time in the future will occur when the woman will suddenly rise up, seemingly out of character, and assert her rights against the man. By that time, she would already have been naturalized and possibly working/earning income (empowered). In essence, a time will come when she will start acting like any other American woman. When this happens, to save the marriage, the man must succumb to her demands or be given walking papers. That is the reality.

Arguably, there are kanos seeking pinay brides for all the wrong reasons (fueled by their bigot-based misconceptions about pinays), and pinays seeking kanos in the same vein as well (for obvious monetary gain). I think you and your wife are excluded Big P--but admittedly I cannot say the same for others.

Answer 2

This question comes up a lot, Why ?. When an older filipino man marries a young filipina, No one questions that marriage so why question the marriage of an older foriegner and a young filipina ?
My wifes Grandfather who is filipino and was in his 70's , married a young filipina of about 15 or 16 years old. Everyone seemed to think this was a normal relationship Why ?
I think there are just to many people using double standards here.
Could it be that filipina's prefere foriegn men because their own filipino men are cheats and cant be trusted to be faithful. Could it be that they want a man that will help them to have a decent life instead of lay around drinking and chasing women all day while the wife works her *** off in the market for only a few peso per day ?

Answer 3

this is not just filipinas... its all third world country. its the same situation for them because they think its the best way out of poverty. its like finding a dollar in the floor, you'd keep it right! opportunity is hard to come by in their country. and my answer is NOT at the time when they get married but love gets build up. and these foreigners wouldnt go there if they know that it ll never work. because believe it or not there is a lot of cases where they really became inlove to each other. and friends tell friends advices and the next thing you know theyre on the plane meeting their soon to be wife...

Answer 4

well, it is all about what they can get from the old man.. it so sad & sickening that these young pinays are out there using marriage as a way to scam these old foreign men old enough to be their father or grandfather. Marriage is a sacred vows and should be taken with sanctity. I knew one pinay she is 18 years old and the american man was 60 years old. The two got engaged in just 3 days, the same 3 days they meet online. Within 3 months of corresponding online, the old man flew to the Philippines, and married the 18 year old.. Now, even the blind man can see it what the 18 year old is up to..

Answer 5

I guess NO.. but it depends..Some filipina really do care a lot.. even they have age difference.. How do you know he is 70 and the filipina is 23? Some people just look matured or young in some ways..

People are just the same no matter where country she came from, we can not judge someone unless you prove something..

Lets talk about the founder of playboy magazine? He is too old but he has wife that is younger than him.. big age difference..
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Answer 6

Am I correct in presuming that you are suspicious of a 70 yr old male being with a 23 yr old Filipina?
I think the age difference here is too great and I don't think "love" has anything to do with it. To tell you the truth I have been on the plane going back home and seeing some of these married couples--it just doesn't look right to me--my opinion.
You asked "Do you think that there are some possible sincere & loving marriages between filipina and foreigner husband?" My answer has to be a big NO................................
I think that there are MANY!
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Ronald I: phedophiles, no matter what nationality, are an addomination on mankind just as the parents, who put their children in the situation, are an insult to parenthood. They should all burn in hell.

Answer 7

Each person have their own perception.
For me, as a Filipina---
Honestly, I'm against that kind of big age gap in marriage like the guy is 50-up & the girl is too young for his age but we have no rights to judge those people coz we really cannot tell what's going on between them.
----------whatever initial investment you make in a relationship with your husband/wife (as if I'm married already.. LOL!) the energy (that's created) will spread through your life & will be carried over to the children. So I can say (to those who are married or getting married with a foreigner/ expat) you must build a good foundation with your husband or your wife as your initial investment, in order to teach [by example] proper values to your kids.
----------"Acceptance": Accept your wife/ husband, accept the children God would bless you with & accept your new life.
(--,)

Answer 8

I don't think it's your problem if they choose to get into a marriage life because of love, money , visa or whatever excuse they have. The answer above me thinks that she is not one of them.
She is also materialistic since she have a filipino blood running in her veins. We should mind our own business & stop meddling with those people's lives.

Answer 9

I believe there can be, it would be bad of us to think negatively in situations of the heart.. Yes there are men out there that go to the Philippines to get a mail order bride, but we all have to realise that these young women are desperate to get out of their own country so they resort to whatever they can.. But there is in fact genuine loving heart felt relationships between foreign men and Filipino women..just to confirm this, my step father went over to the Philippines and met a lovely women who was a teacher, they were both involved in some christian organisation, they also corresponded for awhile before they decide they could no longer be apart.. My step father went over there and married her then they both returned to Australia together, and are living happily, unfortunately she no longer works as a teacher as her qualifications are not recognised here, but she has adjusted very well, both of them are very much in love..The only difference with this situation is that my step father is 60 and his new wife is 55, so you see there are genuine people out there looking for their one true soul mate, even if they are way over the other-side of the world..

Answer 10

well i think your question had cross the boundary.So what its not your problem if he's 70 and she's 23.if you want you can marry a 70 year old women, i dont care. you should have ask the what 's problem with old americans and english phedophile who sexually abused kids

Answer 11

i don't think a negative aspect to a filipina women who are marrying like you. you should be thankful to them because of the way they care for you. it is part of business in life. i really appriciated what they do, not just a money but a responsiblity.

good luck!