4 WHITE MEN ONLY PLEASE!!!!! i'm wondering why this is the case and why not us..No Stupid or racists answers

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I ve noticed that Most of the white guys i ve met prefer African to African American girls. I'm wondering why this is the case.I now realize that it's not the black thing but i don't understand. I ve African friends that i hung out with, all the african girls i know & i ve met are dating & some married to successful white American men.I don't mean to sound like a B but i'm beautiful & lighter in complexion than all my african friends. I do understand that African girls are good, thats why i prefer than as my friends but my do white guys always leave me out. whenever we go out as a group of friends, the white guys after talking to us will always ask for phone numbers of the african girls & leave us the african american girls out. I mean they do talk to us but thats it. they always seem to be more interested in the african girls.some African Americans say, you can bet that whenever you see a white man with a black woman, 90% of the time the woman is african.WHY.i'm attracted to white men

Please do not misunderstand me, I’m not saying my African friends are ugly or that they are black as charcoal. I actually think they are pretty; they are not as dark as some Africans. I’m also not saying that me being lighter makes me better. I have learned a lot from them, like they do not go to the usual black dance clubs that most of us African American go to. They prefer to go to lounges where most of the men there are educated and are successful or in a good career. Why can’t I attract an educated white guy as my African friends do? I have had white guys approach me but they have been black wannabes that dress and act like K Fed (Britney Spears husband). I do not want that kind of a white guy. I’m in college. Since I started hanging out with these girls, I realized that white guys are not as racist as people may want us to believe. Is there something that you white guys don’t like about African American girls. I need serious answers only please!!!. I do not want to hear ****

I'm talking to or about the white men that date black women. I do not want to hear from some1 telling me to “love my own race” I can’t help who I’m attracted to.

Is it the accent? I ve been introduced to the sophisticated parties & dinners by these girls because of the men they date. I don’t dress “ghetto” any more because my friends told me it’s a turn off for these guys.but still they don’t date me & my other two African American girls. I can’t help but be jealousy sometimes of my friends..What am I doing wrong…what is it?Before i was never attracted to white because i didn't like what i saw but now i ve been introduced to a high class of white guys that look good, educated with great careers that i didn't even know they existed but on T.V. I like the way they carry themselves and how they treat my friends. I don't really sound ghetto. I like their lifestyle,something about these guys sets them apart from the COMMON white guy.I like what & i want one.

Answer 1

DON'T WORRY SO DAMN MUCH...UNDUE STRESS
COME ON NOW, YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT WANT YOU BUT WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES. THERE IS IS IS IS IS....RELAX
ENJOY KEEP SETTING GOALS AND COMPLETE THEM
AND SOMEWHERE IN THAT YOU WILL BE FOUND.

P.S. JUST TRY TO IGNORE SOME OF THEM FOR A BIT.
I NEVER EVER WOULD BELIEVE THAT WORKS BUT IT DOES AND FAST TOO KIND OF FUNNY!

Answer 2

I'm African and I'm married to an educated white man who has introduced to a life that i never even thought was possible. SO I MUST be one of those african girls. Listen all this stuff that people say that educated white men don't date black girls is the biggest lie. I have come to learn that when it comes to the educated and high class white men, their society actually embraces something different. Only the so called "Rednecks" "white trash"and whites from the south will discriminate.

But i must say that i have noticed to that in my husband society, those that date interracially do prefer black girls that are not African American. His friends have asked me to introduce them to African girls and specifically not to African American...

You know what i will ask them one day...I actually have never faced or experienced racism.

I believe you will find one just don't send them the vibes that you want money..Remember these are smart guys..watch how you dress and talk. You as their g/friend are a representative of who they are and if you takes you to country clubs, it can be very intimidating so learn from your African girls how they dress and how they behave and than you will find a successful white man that is ready to show you off

BUT do not be after them for the wrong reasons because it will not last

ANY OTHER THING we african girls do not throw ourselves at guys..we do not even try most of the times. Be a lady and carry yoursef with class and sophistification. Remember "you are what you attract". So if you want successful guys look the part. Men are no difficult to get ....

Answer 3

I suppose you have got to seem on the variations among you and your African peers. I comprehend the entire "ghetto" factor. I am Black and now not honey gentle however i am getting a lot more awareness off White guys than others despite the fact that I dont act or sound like ther "ghetto" persons(t ypical sensible i imply). In the tip of the day I think the cause you stated your dermis color used to be considering the fact that it often will get you some distance with Black guys. In my enjoy White men both love very ethnic, proficient proud females, or Halle Berry crossover kind who can mixture in White locations (Although men are all diff to some degree). If you assert you was "ghetto" it doesnt make a lot change considering the fact that its a found out factor and is a lot more than garments and hair. Black adolescence ghetto tradition has methods of jogging, speaking, watching at persons to assignment authority in general. Theyll be capable to look it from a mile off. If they're good proficient and positive as you assert they wont like special matters.

Answer 4

I am sorry but I had to answer your question even though I am not a white guy.... I think it is the group you run with and thats why it seems to be the majority in your world. Everyone has a preference in a potential mate and maybe the people you are around tend to prefer African American women. You can't generalize any race so to say most white guys prefer Black women is an opinion. Some may prefer Latinas, Asians, Caucasians or any other race of person. (though if your main criteria for a mate is race you are limiting the possibilities for yourself)


ahhhhhhh.... just re-read the question!!!! African as opposed to African American! I thought you were white and were wondering why they prefered your African American friends! My previous answer still applies but now I must add that it maybe the way the African women were raised that makes their personality, values, character or another trait stand out to them? Good luck finding your man!

Answer 5

From my experience, African Americans and white Americans socialize very little. Few would admit to being racists, yet fundamentally racism is behind it (on both sides). Put simply, we like to be with people who are like us.

Africans who live in or visit the United States have little in common with African Americans. The cultures they are
coming from are fundamentally different. Perhaps it is that difference that makes many of them uncomfortable with African Americans. It is easier to fit in with people who are not so alike on the surface.

When I lived in Senegal, I met very dark-skinned people and rather light-skinned people. Generalizations are almost always proven incorrect.

Many of the white men you meet may be intimidated by you or other African American women. I know I struck out when I tried to date African American women. Perhaps you should be the bold one and ask a guy out.

I suggest you do not look for a man based on his race or ethnic background. Just be yourself.

Answer 6

I can't speak for anyone else,but a guess might be attitude.Men like to be catered too,and perhaps the culture your friends come from is more submissive or more eager to please.American women in general,no matter the race,tend to be more cynical and domineering than other cultures.More outspoken and in all honesty,high maintenance.Women who appreciate the time and energy you expend on them will garner more attention.Perhaps the men you are around have become jaded and are seeking a woman with a different perspective.All conjecture,but plausible in my opinion.I would highly doubt that skin tone is very relevant.Good luck,hope you find someone to fulfill your desires.

Answer 7

I don't think that the generalization is valid. Inter-racial relations are becoming more common, and that does not bother me.

Answer 8

I belive you answerd your own question

Answer 9

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