How can I overcome this kind of parents?I've been teaching for more than 15 years.I never encounter with thiskind of irritating attitude.
2007-03-20 18:31:40 · 9 answers · asked by Ruth Naomi 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
What a surprise: wealthy people are irritating.
So now you have a choice: stay as a purchased person and keep your mouth shut, or go back to the irritating public system as a free soul.
2007-03-20 18:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by will_o_the_west 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean; I taught at a private school for 5 years before taking a year off. I'm in a public school now and am so much happier. (I had 5 years of experience when I started at the school.) Are you in Rio Rancho, NM??? LOL
One cause is that they think because they paid for it, parents can dictate how you teach. I understand that parents have the right to a quality education; that is why they must choose carefully and be sure that the school is the best fit for their child and the school's teaching philosophy.
IMHO, it is administration's responsibility to set the tone:
- The teachers here have earned their credentials and should be treated with respect. (Parents are valid partners in education but do not have the professional background or experience in many academic/behavioral issues.)
- This is not "buffet" style education; you cannot pick and choose how you want things taught. If you have a legitimate concern, do so in a civil way. Demands are not allowed. (Like the students, you have rules to follow as well. If you don't like this school, you can take your money elsewhere.)
- Parents are not allowed to escalate a situation unless it has been discussed with the teacher first. If a solution cannot be reached, only then will it be brought for consideration with administration. (Don't go crying to the dean of students or principal to get your way, ya big baby!)
- Parents are welcome to volunteer with the proper background checks and confidentiality statements in order. If they are in breach of this agreement, they will no longer have the priviledge of helping at our school. (Parent gossip is VERY detrimental to school community.)
I could go on and on... I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown; I actually lost almost 15 lbs. the last quarter I was there. (I started at 115 and am only 5'1"!) The breaking point was when a parent began to circulate a letter that other parents could prove were total and complete lies. This situation was really devisive.
In a situation like this, you have to develop a thick skin and decide which battles are worth the effort. The things that were in my favor? I adhered to CYA (cover your -ss) and kept documentation. If a parent wanted "special consideration", my answer was that I could not do so out of fairness to other students and families. (I had a parent that wanted my lesson plans TWO WEEKS IN ADVANCE so she could prepare her daughter who was "struggling". Lady, if you'd help her with homework and she would turn it in, it would have made a big difference.)
I also had a parent who was also a teacher at the school walk right in and interrupt my class because she wanted to ***** and whine about her daughter's math grade... I firmly asked her to leave and that I would be open to conference immediately after school... "I'm going to tell the principal that you won't talk to me!" Go ahead, see if I care...
I feel that there should be a clear demarcation as to what parents are allowed to ask for in this type of setting. Even in public school, I set up these boundaries. The problem is having an administrator that is willing to stand up for you.
Sorry to vent... feel free to vent to me!
santan_cat@yahoo.com
Take care,
Mon :-)
2007-03-21 03:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by santan_cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I teach in a first school and lots of the parents are irritating. How does your head deals with these parents. The head at my school give no support to staff and actively acknowledges the irritating parent and tries to befriend them. The head has no social skills and is afraid of the empty threats that parents make. The school is finding it difficult to keep order.
Sometimes you try as hard as you can , but sometimes you feel you are fighting a losing battle. It's probably time to move on.
2007-03-21 02:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lolipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im an elementary school teacher at a public school and believe me private or public some parents could get on your last nerve. They just want the best for their children and thats understandable but some just want to bring you down. No job is easy and teaching is sure a challenging one. Im sure your doing a great job, especially since you have alot of experience. Keep doing what your doing, class is almost over :-).
2007-03-22 18:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by mary pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the parents of the , Little- Font- Leroy school kids pay good money to bully you. And you just sit there with an s - eating grin kissing there asses because it's you job.
2007-03-21 01:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by caciansf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take into consideration that they pay for their child's education out of their own pocket, so it is normal for them to be overly concerned about what is going on with their studies and what the future may hold for them. Public school student's parents show concern for their childrens education, but they don't take into consideration what they are paying for because their checks aren't made out directly to the school. Just be patient with these parents send out weekly newsletters - let them know what the plan is for the kids. Keeping them informed/educated will help keep them happy.
2007-03-21 01:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOu might wanna try to get along with em. If doesn't go so well just quit and get a new job. That's what i would do.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 01:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not much you can do but just go with the flow.
And could you describe "irritating" like how and what do they do?
2007-03-21 01:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya there a bunch of weirdos
2007-03-21 01:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋