her not making me maid of honor is very understandable and acceptable, but why would she not make me bridesmaid?
we have been so close. we have cried in each other's arms. we share our problems, joys and grieves with each other...
and what makes me feel even weirder is she chose one of the girls from bridegroom's family to be one of the bridesmaids.
That doesnt even sound fair... lol
I know I am acting all immature, but i have been really close to both the bride and the bridegroom... I feel weird just being a guest.
I was almost considering not going to her wedding, but then I am not sure.
I'm single and so are the other bridesmaids she chose.
Trust me, I really want to be there for my girl, but it's her bridesmaids other than the groom's family member are reallyyy close friends with me. but they would still rub it in...
see where i am coming from? I dont want to face her bridesmaids there.....
2007-03-20 18:29:07 · 5 answers · asked by rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know that right now you are not feeling so good about the way things are going. the one thing that you have to realize is that if you are truly her friend you will do what ever it is she asks of you weather its to be in or out of her wedding. this is her day!!!! and sometimes you have to put your feelings to the side for a true friend. have you asked her why she chose not to put you in the wedding???? maybe what she really needs from you right now is to be just what you have always been her friend she might need to talk to you but you will never know if you don't ask. and for the ones who you think will try and "rub it in your face" maybe they are not the kind of friends you need. be there for her because you may need her to be there for you later. another thing she may have chose the other girl to keep her hubby to be happy!!!
2007-03-20 18:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Taiasha M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Paleeeeeeeeeze! How incredibly immature and thoughtless!
This is her decision you were not turned down for star search you were invited to a wedding as a guest. You really need to understand social situations there are a limited number of bridesmaids she had reasons and social pressures for making the choices that she did.
You could help make this a very happy day for her by not acting like a spoiled child because you were not chosen. Not fair!!! Not fair is thinking that because you are friends that you have "the right" to be a participant in the ceremony.
Now just grow up a bit and realize that this is a sacrament and that she is about to commit herself to the love of her life for all time and you have been invited to attend and witness this union.
The happiest people in the world make a practice of being happy with what they have and not making a big case about what they think they deserve.
Unfortunately we do see where you are coming from and it is not a place of emotional, or spiritual strength don't disrespect yourself by loosing your dignity over this. Put on a nice dress and attend the wedding of your dear friend and be a lady about it.
2007-03-20 18:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's ok.. you dont have any reason to get mad... maybe her groom is the one who chose the bridesmaids and he chose those he know more than the way he knows you... maybe your friend have something bigger for you... you're her closest friend, why would she forget you?? of course she wont forget you...
dont be shy to go in the wedding.. at least they invited you... its more embarassing if they didtn invited you and you just go there out of the blue...
Actually that much better... even though your not a bridesmaid atleast your close to them, not like other people... think of it, if ur a bridesmaid, you dont have so many things to do, even though its an honor...
that's ok.. the most important is you and your friend are still friends even though she married someone...
2007-03-20 18:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by cute_kuxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try not to be selfish. this is not your wedding, it is your friend's. support her and ask her if she needs anything from you to help.
2007-03-20 19:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her!
2007-03-20 18:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by Deanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋