every so offen me and my boyfiend would have an off day and start saying things we dont remember what even even said to the other person (like 5 mins later). The other person would would get mad and not give it up (mostly him) being mad. (it was all most over for us tonight)
since we started dating about a year ago (going on 11 months) since day one of us dating my mother has said i could only see him one a week either on a friday after he is off of work or on saturday. (im 21 and he is 29)
I resently just got a job (a week ago after about a year of not having one). I can tell that my parents are now some what more lean with me.
So my question(s) is 1. how can i not make my boyfriend mad (so it not over between us). 2. how can i see more offen then about once a week.
2007-03-20 18:07:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okey well for one thing the best thing to do when your in a fight with your bf is jus to talk...me and my bf fight all the time an hes usually mad at me for the same reason your bfs mad at you lol...so i would just tell him that i love him and that im srry for whatever i said and that i didnt mean it..an hopefully he can look past it...jus tell him that its normal for you guys to fight over small things like that but to get over it..is what you both need to work on...or mostly him...buh as for the other question lol im turnin 20 an i tell my parents im goin to work...but i actually go see my bf...honestly thats the only thing i can tell you...parents are crazy...but you cant let them run your life...goodluck
2007-03-20 18:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21? You still let your parents tell you what to do? Wow that is amazing, it is time for you to get some guts and take a big jump into independence. As long as you are responsible and sensible you should have been making your own decisions three years ago. Explain to your parents in a respectful way how you are feeling and what you are going to do. As far as how not to make him mad that is something you have to figure out. If he is 29 and still playing the I'm not talking to you until I'm not mad anymore that is just silly. Communication and honesty is the key. And if the two of you can not explain to each other what the problem is this relationship is not going to work.
2007-03-28 12:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by someadvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship there is no answer to as how not to anger the other, we will always be upset about something the other says or does and vice versa until the relationship has been in progress for many years. We are always learning something of our partners. If you are looking to not anger him, think of why that is, if you simply think that you have to be perfect for his sake, thats bad, if he cannot accapt that you are your own person and have your own ideas and thoughts then he's in for a very rude awakening when it comes to females and himself...There are ways to avoid situations, true, but the best things to learn are "Agree to Disagree", "Communication", "Loyalty", "RESPECT" and "FUN". We all have our own thoughts and emotions; except for people who are very empathetic and can read minds and feel others emotions, but that's rare.... If it urks you that much, try to figure out what it is that he's upset about, or ask him, and if he says nothing or that he'll be fine, he's lying, becuase as you said, he stays that way for hours, and he shouldnt be lying anyways if he wants a real relationship... When guys say it's nothing and they are fine after a few minutes, then it's fine, but if they stay angered for hours then he's got problems of some sort and is lying... As to how you can see him more often, plan things with him, set times an all that. Relationships are full of arguements, it's just learning how to handle them in an appropriate manner to where it is healthy and able to be benifited from, it's how we learn... Good luck and Best wishes...
2007-03-27 08:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by elsuicidareydecorazones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sugar, but only you can answer that pair of questions. It seems to me that there's more fighting then loving, not exactly a cool way to get it together. Maybe a joint venture together along the beach, or trail, where-ever you two can feel alone with each other, and just talk truth, even if it may annoy or hurt. Truth is Truth ! Once it is established in a relationship, it's really hard to lose it. Good Luck and God Bless !!
2007-03-26 13:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzypetshop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im only 18 and been with my bf for 4 years now and have a daughter together. We have always have our off day ever realationship does. But what you need to ask your self id what are you fight about. I and my bf say stuff we dont ever mean to each other at times. we also have had alot of problems with my family cause they dont like him. all that much but been through rough and great times. Your 21 right well you mom can't tell ya what to do its your life. thats how my mom got in the middle of my bf and i but we made it and still are since we just seprated but now im moving in with him. we have always lived together 2 months after getting togther and still making it.. wow huh..lol when you guys get mad at each other make it into a joke and laugh... he doesnt stop just tell him what is this going to do just make it worse. Let work on things to make this work out what do i and you need to do to meet in the middle. So it can work.
goodluck i hope this helped ya!
2007-03-21 01:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by kristy_n_tx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last I knew A female can leave home to be on her own as long as she has a place to stay. You are 21, DO YOU NEED YOUR MOMS PERMISSION TO DRINK,BUY YOUR OWN CLOTHES, are you allowed to vote? Lets get real, your mom is a control freak. Maybe shr should get a life for herself. If you do not want your boyfriend to be mad, start acting like an adult, make your own decisions, Get an apartment together, you can see him anytime then.
2007-03-28 13:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by franksr57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you are feeling. You are of age, maybe you should think about getting a place of your own or with a friend, but never forget that your parents have set rules because they love you and don't want you to get hurt or get off track. Be honest with everyone - including your parents. People hit maturity at different ages ....
2007-03-21 01:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hello"! you are "21"
Here in America you are consider an Adult at 18 years of age. Which means you can make decision on your own. You need to show your parents that you are an adult and then maybe your boyfriend will treat you like one.
2007-03-21 01:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by rock on 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one.....to stop conflict to and get to the bottom of what the real issue is and then the conflict cycle will finish. If you don't sort the conflict out you will forever be fighting.
with seeing him more than once a week, learn good time management
2007-03-28 17:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't ever be afraid of your guy or gal getting mad if this is a strong relationship you will be fine and about your parents allowing come on you are 21 move out and take control of your own life.
2007-03-28 15:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by pj m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋