I'm currently seperated and my divorce is in process. Ive known this guy at work for about 4 years. I know we both have had the hots for each other since we both met. Several co-workers had told me that he admires me. When we work together him and I see eye to eye in a dreamy sort of way. But he has been in a relationship and I have just ended mine. He is now leaving the company and moving on. I want to have an affair with him with no strings attached I think he'll go for it. Should I?
2007-03-20 17:52:28 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know you may disagree with me, but if I were in your shoes the answer would be no. As hot and as much chemistry you two think you have, it's not healthy for either one of you. It's not like if you do this, it will make him stay permanently besides you are still legally married. If he wanted you, he would wait for you and not take off. I think you are worth more than just a one night fling. Once you are a free woman, you can have the pick of the litter. Right now though, you should use the time to reflect on yourself. Be strong!!
2007-03-20 18:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by angelcake2301 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're totally lacking in dignity, pride or self esteem then go for it. However, if you have an ounce of self preservation instinct you will not put yourself or someone that you have an attraction to into a position that will more often than not end in some really tremendous emotional angst. It always amazes me when someone says they're having a no strings attached physical relations that implies that they can rise from coupling and be totally unaffected by the experience. That being true what happened to their humanity. It's human nature to care and that means all kinds of strings and knots and bows etc.
2007-03-21 00:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no you should not do this , you are going through a divorce
your self, he with someone else, you need to get your act
together and move on. if he want a relationship with you]
down the road then maybe you can get together if he
not with the other person; think about one thing you are
not just hurting one person but there are others here as
well. how would you feel if the table were turn and it was
you on the end of the the stick.
2007-03-21 00:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, There is no such thing as "no strings attached". Someone will get hurt. Take care of yourself and the people that you share your life with. Remember the golden rule. Treat others in the same manner that you would like to be treated.
2007-03-21 01:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Luna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
r u mad? this is for the first time that i have known that a lady wants a relationship w/o strings. actually u r so much in love with this person that u wanna have him by hook or crook (not a gud thing). admiring is different and when u start living with the same person it means something else. u have never bothered to look towards his bad qualities and so doesnt he but once u start living together u might end up again wat u r disposing now.
And above all he is already in a relationship , do u want to make the both of them suffer coz of u only?? dont do this please.
2007-03-21 01:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by nice_lady559 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is in a relationship and that is your only barrier. If his relationship is on the verge of ending, yes, go for it. But don't break up his just because yours is done. You both need to be single for a relationship with him to work.
2007-03-21 00:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you set soemone up (his girlfriend) for such a hard downfall. That is such a selfish thing to do. No do not, your on the rebound and need time to sort things out.
Please think really seriously before you do anythign silly.
2007-03-21 00:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a good idea at all.
Affairs can get VERY messy and I'd hate for you to get hurt along the way...
All in all though, it is up to you.
2007-03-21 00:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is living with his gf then hell no you shouldn't. How would you feel if it was done to you. Let him be and find a SINGLE man to have " no strings attached" sex with. Why be a home wrecker ?
2007-03-21 01:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the most selfish thing Ive ever heard.
How could you knowingly do that to another female?,...................or a innocent child?
Breaking up a family.....no good will ever come it it.
Go and find someone of you own!!!
2007-03-21 02:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋