The love of my life is getting married, we had a wonderful relationship, he was everything to me, we even tought about getting married, but we broke up when I decided to move to another country to keep studying and we realized our lives were going in opposite directions, we kept in touch and after 5 years I came back to my homeland country
When I got here we saw each other a couple of times, and we've kissed several times and he've confessed me that he still love me, but I got here too late, 'cause he has given his word to someone, he's getting married in two weeks and I am invited, 'cause we're still friends.
I haven't told him I love him too because I don't want to ruine this for him, I know he cares about her, and he has planned his life with her, and maybe she's the right one for him, she's the kind of girl he deserves and needs to establish a family, but It's not easy for me at all and I don't know if back off is the right choice, if he gets married I'll live for good!!!!
2007-03-20 17:50:10 · 12 answers · asked by _Miss Sunshine_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok my question is... should I do everything in my power to stop that wedding?
or should I just back off?
2007-03-20 18:02:31 · update #1
JUST FOR THE RECORD... We were friends before we got involved, He invited me 'cause we both agreed to break up and we've still being friends since then.
2007-03-20 19:00:34 · update #2
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
This is not about you. They have worked to establish a relationship where you have not. To disrupt it now would be the most selfish thing you could do. If he felt the same about you, he would have worked on getting you, but he didn't. You have no choice but to respect their choices and decisions.
If you aren't confident that you can keep your mouth shut at the wedding then develop a bladder infection or something and excuse yourself from attendance.
2007-03-20 18:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad situation and I feel your sadness but
if you love him you will let him go ,he has made up his mind he's getting married to someone else
and if he loved you he would have waited.
Why would he even invite you to the wedding if you and him had planned to get married and had a realationship ,it makes no sense to me.Unless
he was so hurt when you left that he is know in someway trying to get back at you!
Tell him you can not attend the wedding if he asks why then maybe you should tell him the truth.
If he does get married then it was probably not ment to be between you and him.
2007-03-20 18:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by selma b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can change in 5 years, especially when you are young. Both of you may have fond and strong memories of the love you shared 5 years ago and think you still love each other, but who's to say if it could really work out now? I'm sure both of you have matured in different ways. If it were meant to be, then he wouldn't have been attached when you returned. Things happen for a reason.
My advice is to skip the wedding. Don't go. His bride deserves his undivided attention on their special day.
2007-03-20 18:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that i'll and that the relationship i'm in would be marriage, which will quickly be our next step after a powerful 4 greater years of relationship....and don't challenge by means of the time you comprehend it i'll meet somebody you like which will bring about dedication and marriage!
2016-12-19 10:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i was in relationship for 3 and half yrs ... and me and my ex broke up cuz things just werent working out ... he is now marrid and his wife is 4 months pregnant ... and he is happy !.... believe me just step back because if u truly love him all u shud care about is him being happy in his life .... and if still u wanna stop the wedding plzz speak to him and tell him how u feel before u make any other decisions cuz he might not be able to go along with u even if u want him to
2007-03-20 18:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make choices in life and the choices lead to consequences. You chose to break up with him and move away to a different country for five years. This does sound judge mental, but if you really loved him, you would have stayed. You blew it.
Put yourself in his fiance's shoes.
Would you want someone who was against your wedding to be around your fiance or at the ceremony?
Please don't go to the wedding and please sever all contact with him. You need to move on and they need to begin their happy life together.
2007-03-20 21:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If he still loves you, I don't understand why he's getting married to this other someone.. But I do understand what your going through.. I would found out what his real feelings are, and if he is REALLY in love with you, and if your REALLY in love with him, then I would let him know your feelings. If he tells you that he's going to still wed. with this other someone no matter what, then all you can really do is wish him for happiness and give them support.. This is a touchy situation and this is only my suggestion, you never know what may happen and all you can do is try. When it comes to love you need to be totally honest, other wise your only cheating yourself.. I hope all goes well, and good luck!
2007-03-20 18:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not really asking a question but rather telling your story. That said, I think you should sever all ties to this man. It's very hard to be true friends with someone you once planned to marry.
2007-03-20 17:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by BlackSea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm SO sorry that's a hard question . but what can you do ? I'm lucky my ex has come back into my life I'm soo happy for this . maybe he is the one for me he has a gf and he and i have kissed and another things i hope a pry this man is for me
2007-03-20 17:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you know what you need to do, if he really truely love you
and want to be with you.then he would dot he right thing and
be honest with her and call off the wedding. but if you feel
that it too much dont go to the wedding. .
2007-03-20 18:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋