i love myhusband and kids but i would love to be single agian like nothin ever happened what should i do?

Question

i want to live a single free life sometimes but....then agian i love them dearly im confused

Answer 1

You're living in a dream. You can jump from one guy to another guy and chase that first date feeling all the time, it will get old. If you think you'll find another guy to sweep you off your feet, your husband did that years ago. Any new exciting handsome guy will also get old just like what you have. So go watch a nice movie live your fantasy in it and kiss your loving husband for staying with you.

Answer 2

You probley settled down with him and had kids with him rather young. Well, I think its a little too late to want to be free of all responsibilities and single. But if you are unhappy, save up your money and move out WITH your kids. The thing is you have to understand that, when we have children, we give up a lot. You don't want to have to face your kids 20 years later, because of abandonment issues. It sounds like your depressed and your hating your life. And to say "I would love to be single again like nothing ever happend", well..what about those kids? Kids are smart, they will come to learn and find out how you feel if they see their mother depressed. And will feel unwanted. Most women who get pregnant by accident, or planned it, regardless...NEVER regreted having their children. Having children has actually helped a lot of people become a better person. Remember, don't stay with someone, just because you have their children. One day, those children will grow up and move out, and you and your husband will be alone. And if you don't have that love there already, then think about why are you hanging on to this relationship?

Answer 3

Talk to as many single people you can find... you will find that its a really sucky life being single. I have a single friend that keeps me married with her dating stories. I thought about doing the same thing as you until I started to talk to single people and found out what the dating world is like these days... Now when I think of dating again, I think STD'S and AIDS.
Always remember that the grass is never greener on the other side.

Answer 4

Play wife swap?? Get seperate bank accounts, get new friends and go enjoy time with them. But to leave a perfectly good marrige cause your bored, right. Were women always this bored in relationships, I guess the only thing that kept divorce low, was pre womens movement. No offence, it's a fact. Women may have always felt like this, but only recently were they able to act upon it. The acceptance in society of being divorced, and the ability to support yourselves. And most of all, really believing that your hapiness is above all else.

signed Creepy Guy;

Answer 5

this is because you are remembering the life you had before them. Freedom, adventure, hectic living, basically you miss your younger life (no offence). If i was you i would go on a holiday just by yourself, for a break, half way through it you will probobly end up missign your husband and children so much that you will never want to go away again.

I hope this helps.

Answer 6

that's the adults pastime to love little ones unconditionally whilst they're becoming and discovering. They make errors, in specific circumstances they're huge errors. the only way they might learn how to love unconditionally is throughout the occasion that's set by utilising their mom and father. So definite that's unfair to ask them to love unconditionally, because of the fact they have not had a gamble to benefit a thank you to do it yet. yet once you do it, they'll at last the thank you to do it. Then they are going to be geared up to do it for their little ones sometime. that's the main important difficulty of unconditional love.

Answer 7

Watcha gonna do when the new wears off and the old shines through? You will regret giving up your family life. It may take a couple of years but it will hit you hard and you will have to carry that with you till the end.

Answer 8

these are normal feelings that I think all mothers and wives go through, in a society that is self absorbed it is getting more and more common to "just do it", "go ahead and get that divorce, sure the kids will be messed in the head and they will probably get divorced too, but, do what you want to do" and I think if you look at current issues and problems in today's society, it is something we should get away from, you made a commitment to your husband and now your children and you need to honor it, by you honoring your commitment you will give more to your husband and children by simply walking away and living the way you want to, you simply need some "time off", ask your husband to let you go on a weekend trip with a friend of yours or take a day to travel somewhere scenic, it will refresh you and help you understand that what you really need to do and what you really want to do is to stay with them!

Answer 9

you have made a lifetime commitment to them....you cant go back know....i understand how you feel but you have to know that if you walk out on them it will effect their personalities in the long run...you can be single and still have kids, you will just have them every other week. Nobody can tell you what to do you just have to follow you heart, you should know what best for you and your family, and if you don't it will come to you....just don't make any sudden decisions.....GOOD LUCK i wish the best for you.

Answer 10

Those feelings are not so unusual but you do need to decide what is more important to you. I'm sure you'll chose your family. Everybody wants to be free and single again every now and then but then we count our blessings and do another load of laundry :-)