my wife is not happy living with my family?

Question

my wife asked me to move out lots of times but i really want to live wit my parents forever to help them. I have a younger sis whom is 20 yr old and of course she'll get married, i also want my sis to stay wit us forever. My wife said she doesn't have privacy , my sis comes to our bedroom too much, and her bf takes our 6 mon old baby out of her sight without a word. I agree I love my family a lot and still ask for their opinion and approval on what i'm doing. I was necgliecting my wife feelings through out her pregnancy, she told me she was tired and i didn't believe her etc...she was going back and forth so her mother can take care of her. I can't move out bcus it's my responsibily to take care of my paarents. wat do u think?

my parents are working, dad 54 and mom 46. i paid off my dad's car, take them to shopping and put out money to buy our mobile home. i want to have a big family, my parents , sis ,daughter and wife

my parents want me to live wit them forever too. They would be sad and think that i'm neglecting them

Answer 1

let me be very honest. you suck as a husband. how are you living with not just your "family" but your entire FAMILY. there are ways to support your parents and not live in their house. listen to your wife. taking your CHILD without consent is plain disrespect. you need to let go of your entire family and concentrate on the new family that you have created. you can still see your family that you grew up with, but please don't ruin the new family that you have now. it's not fair to your wife. it's not fair to your child. and it's not fair to yourself. you can't live with your parents forever, learn to let go, and become a better husband and dad.

Answer 2

I'm going to give you a little advice about women. They need to have their own place, where they feel like they are in charge of the home and family. Your wife can't have that, living with your parents. It's nice that you are close to your parents, but they sound like they are doing fine. They are young and working. Now is the time to make a new family with your wife. Your wife shouldn't have to put up with your sister always in your bedroom, and the boyfriend taking the baby is a little scary. If you value your marriage, you will get your own place. You can still see your parents, but they don't need your daily care. Your wife and child do. Good luck!

Answer 3

You know, when it comes to starting your own family, its for life and you can't change it. If your wife is unhappy you will be too and this will never end. You have to let go of apron strings to your parents and I am not saying forget them or do nothing for them I am just saying your wife is now First in your life and your child second and your parents/family third. That is the way it is. I respect you for having such consideration with yourself and parents but your parents know that you have to live your own life. I would suggest to move out with the wife and be there for your parents after you have dealt with your family wife children, they should be first and i am not kidding if you continue this way you will loose your family. Wife and kids are your immediate family all siblings and parents come after you have looked after your immediate family. Parents will understand they were young once. Talk to the parent that supports your family and ask them what to do, do not make the mistake of putting parents first because that is wrong, wife and kids come first, then parents, if you don't understand this then you have a problem. I love my parents too, and it doesn't mean I don't love them, it means that i have obligations that come first and when I have time, I deal with my parents trying to help them out. trust me you could be headed towards loosing your wife and kids, what do you really want? Take care Heather

Answer 4

I really do feel your pain, I do. I moved out and felt horrible. I wanted to take care of my parents, even though they are only in their 50's and still mobile, but I helped out a lot when I lived there and I wanted to make sure they were going to be ok.

Your wife is right. Your wife is your family now. I know it sucks to hear that because your family will always be your family, but you really do need to move out. You can be in the same town, just not in their basement! Go over there every week, maybe not every day, but a couple of times a week as long as it's not taking too much time away from your wife. Slowly wean yourself away from your parents. I'm not saying don't go over at all, but your wife and child need you, you are a husband, and a father now, not just a son.

As for asking for their approval and opinions, you can, but don't take it to heart, your wife will resent your parents if there is too much advice given. Listen to your heart and stick to your convictions. Your parents are not gonna think you abandoned them, you have your own family now, and they must be your first priority. Email me if you need to talk. Good luck!

Answer 5

Either you want to be part of your family or you want a marriage, you can't have both. Your wife is right. If I were married to a man like you I would have packed up and moved out a long time ago. You can take care of your family and be a part of your family, but you have to do it while living in your own home, right now your are nothing more than a momma's boy, and not fit to be a husband.

Answer 6

I think you better figure out if your thier son or her husband. Your parents are probably ready to have there time alone, you know that great time parents get AFTER the kids are grown and MOVE OUT.. I know I enjoy having my kids around but I love my peace and quit and my privacy. Your wife deserves a place to call her own and if you were a MAN you would provide for your family meaning your wife and child.Not feel you have to stay with mommy.. Let go of the apron strings and step up to the plate you took her to be your wife not to be another one of your parents children get your own place.

Answer 7

While it's admirable that you want to take care of your parents, your main responsibility is to your wife and the family you've made with her. Her opinion should be the most important to you. You can help your parents without living with them and expecting your sister to also live at home after she is married is unrealistic and any man she marries should not accept that arrangement either. You need to check your priorities and do what's best for you and your wife.

Answer 8

I honestly think you should not have gotten married. Your first responsibility is to your wife, but just because you put her first does not mean that you have to neglect your family. Can you afford to build a new wing on the home or maybe a small building on the premises? You should be saving money living with all those people otherwise I wouldnt be suggesting it. Take what your wife says seriously or you may lose her.

Answer 9

GROW UP!!!
Your parents have a life, your just wanting to stay because MOMMY'S little boy can have her to hold him when wife is angry!

I said grow up, but maybe you should instead grow a SET!
Your wife is going to find someone else if you don't move them out now!
Your sister crossed the line and you need to inform her so.

Answer 10

how much care do your parents need? Are they disabled? Can you live close by and hire some help. Your 20 year old sister can help wether she gets married or not, you do. Your wife is right, find some way to move out

Answer 11

Dude, this is messed up. You need to honor your wife. You are way too tied up in your family of origin and it would drive me insane. This should have been discussed before you got married. FOR SURE, the baby should not be taken around by someone your wife does not trust. You CAN move out. You need to GROW UP.