will my daughter remember when she is 3 that i would get after her at 14 months?

Question

she sounds like she is already in her terrible twos...lol..she might be advanced..i know its crazy to say that but she goes very wild like a two yr old...please help

I get after my 14 month old cause she is very terrible...will she remember me getting after her if I stop..?
i feel bad getting after her its like she dont love me anymore...she likes my mom more than me she doesnt come with me anymore..i want to stop getting after her cause i want her love back again she is 15 months old will she love me again im getting really depressed too ..cause i have a 10 day old son and i dont know what to do if she hates me..please what should i do? i feel like crap at times...i know she is just too small to get after at but she needs dicipline..i think i get so stressed and i start to cry..

Answer 1

It is quite normal for a one-year-old to act like she's already hit the "terrible twos." She does not hate you - you're just learning why parents sometime say "this hurts me more than it hurts you."
You need to correct your child to keep her safe. She might not like it at that moment, but you are giving her something better than if you just gave in to her every whim- a sense of limitations and respect.

At 14 months, though, I'd say pick your battles carefully. (Does it really matter if you let her wear the red pj's instead of the yellow ones?)

Also, I'm not sure how you "get after" her, but prevention goes a long way. Rather than putting her in a place where you have to tell her "no" all the time, try to set up a toddler-friendly environment for her to explore on her own without getting hurt. (Maybe close off an area of the room so she can safely play with her toys, climb pillows, etc.)

She loves you and she knows you care. Your mom is just able to give her undivided attention, so she likes hanging out with her right now. (A 10-day-old requires a LOT of attention!) Don't stress about it. If you think it'll help, let your mom watch your son for a little while so that you can spend some one-on-one time with your daughter.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Don't be discouraged... It is really hard having two babies so close together, I know that from experience... Try to remember that at 15 months, she is still very young. Don't expect too much out of her. Yes, at 15 months, they can already be acting like terrible twos. But also, consider that she is trying to adjust to having a new brother. It is hard to understand when you're only 15 months old why mommy isn't able to give 100% of her attention to just her anymore, and is caring for someone else. Try to love on her and give her attention as much as you can. You are both trying to adjust. She's probably acting out because she's not used to the new baby. Maybe have your mom take care of the baby for a couple hours so you can spend time with just her. I understand how stressful it can be. You might be having a touch of postpartum depression, too. If it gets too bad you might want to call your doctor.

Answer 3

She probably won't remember it. My first memory is when I was 18 months old. Most people don't have any memories of their life before they were 2.
It probably just seems like she loves your mom more because your mom probably spoils her (thats what grandparents are for). But you're her mom-of course she loves you. My daughter likes going to my mom a lot too but if she falls down and bumps her head or something the first person she comes running to is me. You're right-a kid needs discipline. But remember she's only 14 months old and if she's acting up she probably doesnt know any better. Try to be calm with her.
My daughter is 19 months old and is going through that terrible two stage also. Whenever I feel like I cant take her tantrums anymore, I just take a step back and breathe and remind myself I love my daughter more than anything else in the world. Then I just put her in her time out chair and try to stay sane until she calms down. She usually calms down in 5-10 mins.

Answer 4

Loving discipline is the best gift you can give your child. She needs direction and guidance if she is to become a responsible adult. However, please notice I used the phrase loving discipline which does not in any way involve whacking or yelling. When we resort to handling matters like this it's usually impulsive with no forethought or reasoning, therefore, how can it be loving. And often times these methods don't work anyway. So my advise to you would be to first calm down when she becomes mischievous (which is almost always at this age), take a deep breath and remove her from whatever it is she is doing. She will probably kick and scream at the top of her lungs. Just let her. You walk away the moment you know she is physically okay and don't be an audience to her temper tantrum. Once she realizes she is not getting your attention these tantrums and bad behavior will stop. It's not going to be easy for you to do this. It requires consistency and a lot of time and patience. If you nip it in the bud now everyone including her will be much more at peace. And do give her lots of positive one on one attention. Read books to her, talk to her and sing to her as often as you can. Tell her continually how special she is and how much you love her. I do wish your family the best. Parenting is definitely a challenge but by you asking for advise tells me you're well on your way to becoming a good one. Actually you're probably much better than you give yourself credit for. :)

Answer 5

Ohhhhh it's ok... she's probably expressing worry over the new addition. That's one of the ways kids show that there stressed. The problem is not that she hates you, she loves you and is jealous of the time you spend with the baby. Be patient remember she's only a baby too and try to spend extra special mommy time with her only. A fourteen month old doesn't really know the difference between right and wrong and she may not remember but it will have an effect.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to say but it may be that you're going through some post partum maybe? You have to remember that to a child, especially at that age, mom is like God to them...what I mean is that they love mom and the world essentially is YOU. Now the reason why I say that you may be going through some post-partum is that at that age, they're really not terrible. They are little balls of energy that are exploring the world with new eyes and you may just be in a form of depression that you think that she's being terrible. Also feeling like they don't love you is another sign, I felt that way after I had my son and was diagnosed with post-partum depression. Another thing you have to realize is that most kids love love love their grandma's and grandpa's...they are the ones who spoil them rotten and most of the time they don't punish them either. This is why they are so drawn to grandparents, that doesn't mean that she doesn't love you, it just means that grandma is doing what she's supposed to do with her grandchild...spoil them. =) You may want to go talk to you doctor about how your feeling and they'll determine whether or not your feelings are normal or something else. Don't think "oh that's not me" because I did and was miserable for a long time till I just came out with it to my Dr. and she told me what I was going through and prescribed medication for me. Hope this helps, good luck to you and go give that child a big hug and kiss.

To answer your question...I can't because I couldn't tell you what a 14 month old can remember, like I said above...they are like sponges and soak up everything so she may remember and block it out. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

A lot of kids go through a stage where they act like "I don't love my mommy/daddy anymore". I went through it, my sister and brother went through it and now my 16month old cousin is going through it.

All you can do is keep showing her you love her. This doesn't mean to let her get away with everything and spoil her. Yes all young kids need a certain amount of discipline. She may not remember everthing when she is older but, it will have an effect on her future one way or another.

I'm sure your doing a great job with her! Try not to worry. She'll come around before you know it!

Answer 8

Discipline is needed from the time the baby takes it's first breath until you die. If you want her to get in the habit of doing the things you describe as awful stop reprimanding her. If you want her to grow up to be someone that will not deter your neighbors from walking by your house for fear of having to interact with her then keep it up. Just remember to praise her when she does good. Even the smallest things to a child if they are praised they will repeat. Also studies show that infants don't remember specifics about their lives until after three years old. But habits hang forever.

Answer 9

Your daughter is not going to remember when she was reprimanded for naughty behavior at 14-15 months. I'm sure she loves you very much. She may be acting out a little because of the new baby. Try to make sure she gets lots of good attention from you (stories, cuddling, playing with her etc.) so she doesn't try to get your attention by doing bad things. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's a lot of work having 2 babies to care for. Take care of yourself too!

Answer 10

Think of yourself... what do you remember before the age of 5?? You MIGHT have one or two memories, other than that, you probably don't remember anything about your first five years of life. So keep that in mind when dealing with your child. Don't stress too much, your baby is going to love you no matter what. Also, if she is big enough to get into mischief then she is big enough to have mama get on to her. Good luck.