I'm an introvert and I really want to change it but how???

Question

I'm a 1st year BSN student. I have few friends. I find it hard to trust others and I've realizerd I'm an introvert. I just thought that it is the reason why people misinterprets me to much. how am going to change my persona...
I try to be nice yet I appear to be some sort of snabbish, geek and hot-tempered lass.

Answer 1

My definition of introversion is cognitive in nature, not relating to sociability. And I don’t believe you can change it. But that doesn’t matter. Because what you are talking about is really your behavior, which isn’t related, well, it isn’t a one to one correlation.

You want to learn, based on what you said , to:
Trust other people
Be better understood
Not snobbish or hot-tempered

Those are all behavioral and you can take them on at a time.

Trust, I had a big problem for a long time trusting people. Learn to trust people for what they know best, themselves. You may still chose to make yourself the final arbiter of what they say is right or wrong for you, or is true to false. But, they know the way they act, or the way they think they act. They know what they believe, even if you disagree. They know what they think is true, even if they are wrong. You need to learn that to them that is right. You may notice everything they say is wrong, and learn not to trust their opinions on a subject, and that is fine.

It is a risk to trust someone to do something, but sometime you have to get anything done. Be aware of the risk, accept it, manage it. If you have cause not to trust someone don’t, but otherwise if you want to work with them you are going to have to trust them to some degree. If you were paying attention to what they say about themselves, you should know what to trust them on.

Being understood, this takes time and conscious effort to develop. If you are an introvert, which is sounds you really are, you probably have all your thoughts and feelings and ideas organized against themselves, rather than anything external. So often you won’t be able to describe what you are thinking outside that context. You will have to spend time learning how to describe your thoughts, and also spend time working on getting a better understanding of words and what they really mean to other people. Also, pay close attention to what people say and make sure you understand what they say, not what you think they are saying. That causes a lot of problems.

Snobbish/hot-tempered. This is hard to say, those could be caused my things. Probably compensation for an insecurity. Work on your self-confidence, accept that you can’t control what other people think and that being an introvert that your ideas, while no less valid, are coming from a unique frame of reference that not everyone is going to understand or agree with. Think of all the times you’ve been wrong, and that should help break that. I used to be like that, and used my errors to teach myself I’m not always right. And it has made me a lot smarter person.

Answer 2

I don't know you at all, so please excuse me if these ideas are inappropriate for you. There are three things I would consider:

- If you have difficulty with the rules of the game, then look for a book called "People Skills" by Bolton.

- If it is due to fear, then I'd try to find a spiritual basis for your life rather than the material world promoted on TV. Learning how to love in a spiritual sense can make all the difference in the world.

- I understand that people with depression who are treated with Prozac have been able to make huge changes. If it's anxiety you might consult a professional and consider some congative therapy.

Again, I apologize if none of these ideas are appropriate for you.

Answer 3

I'm an introvert myself, and I sometimes wished I was more outgoing, but I am what I am.

Some of the positives of being an introvert is not having to make small talk, your friends are really your friends, you can work alone, usually we can read body language well, and listen well.

Smile more, and ask questions that will help you open up.

Answer 4

Well I think you just lack confidence. Just be you, socialize, start a conversation and don't ne overly conscious about how to impress the people you're dealing with. Start a smart talk, be natural and you're on it..

Goodluck!

Answer 5

Take martial arts. It will make you a badass. Worked for me, I used to be a geek.

Answer 6

Stop spending time reflecting on your problems because it will only increase your self-consciousness and make your introversion worse.