what is the best way to come out?

Answer 1

The advice I’m about to offer is purely hypothesized. There is no cast-iron rule in which you must follow when deciding to “come out”. I’m assuming that you’re a wholly mature individual and have thought-out almost all the possible out-comes of such a delicate situation. With that, I’ll say:

The best way "to come out" is to first examine the people that exist within your social network. This includes family, as well as friends. There are very many ways to do this, but I would say one of the most effective would be, from time to time, in your discourse with them, generate subjects that relate to homosexuality. (Almost any theme will do: Homosexuality in minority-communities, ‘The Churches’ general view on it, or even projectional topics, such as “I feel this person might gay”). And since anything involving “The Gay Culture” is a red-hot topic, these days, it’s sure to get these people talking…

And so begins your “coming out” mechanisms. Once you begin to talk to the people you know, about this topic, quietly gauge their responses and reactions. The ones that project the most positive feedback, I would come-out to, shortly thereafter. On the contrary, the ones that react vehemently, and have no qualms about exhibiting their dislike of sexuality different from their own, you should be slightly more hesitant in revealing to them your sexual-orientation. That is, if you’re at all interested in keeping their friendship (personally speaking, I wouldn’t be, but … to each his own). Then, of course, there’s the family aspect, too – where you’re concern might not be keeping their friendship, exactly, but not creating a domestic life that is otherwise undesirable. You should bear that in mind, too.

Discovering your unique sexuality can be a bumpy road; reporting your findings to other can be an even bumpier one. I hate that there isn’t a magical formula that every gay man and woman can use, to make coming out just right. However, if you’re prudent about it, and aren’t willing to let the stubbornness of others continue to repress you any further … that’ll be all the magic you need.

Happy Coming-out Season!! Take care, buddy.

Answer 2

I think doing at family holidays are relevant get togethers IS NOT the place to come out.

I think one of the best ways to do it is gradually..but if you want to exit the closet all at once, then call a meeting either with your family or friends or both and do it that way.

I wish I could tell you that it will be easy and that everyone will embrace you with open arms. As hip and as happening as I thought Cher was, when her daughter Chastity came out, Cher went nuts. I was very surprised by her negative reaction.

There will be tears...some angst...confusion on the part of those who thought "they knew you better". What you must make family and friends understand is that you are gay...the lifestyle you live will be gay, but it's not the basis of your life. Like heterosexuality isn't the main reason for living, homosexuality won't be either. By that, I mean that your life won't change, really ...family and friends are important...Christmas and/or Hannukah still matter. You'll still vote, pay taxes....worry about the economy. It won't all be about sex.

I think that's where straight people get confused. They think that being gay suddenly means being sexually depraved and essentially playing musical beds. Sure there are those that have perpetuated the myth, but it's hardly across the board and indicative of all gay men and women.

The same way with promiscuous breeders.

Go figure..

Anyway, good luck and be happy with YOUR life.

Answer 3

(Please disregard the answers of ignorants before me)

For me it worked like this: first i told my closest friends (i had no problem with this in fact most were quite supporting), of course, i did it one at a time, usually it gets pretty awkward for a couple of days, but everything should be fine. Girls tend to take it better initially than guys, btw.

Then, with this support base, you can start coming out to other people (just the people that really mind knowing, you don't have to go around shouting that youre gay, cuz many people don't want to know anyway).

Usually parents and family are the most difficult, but by now you should be quite more confident. Give them time, eventually they will adapt.

Good luck, go at a pace you0're comfortable with, discuss it earnestly and confidently. Don't get discouraged, people eventually come round to the fact that your sexuality should not change in any way the person that they know and love.

Answer 4

Do what you want and tell who u want if your friends cant accept it then i guess they were never ur true friends then I lost alot of friends when I came out of the closet but youll make new friends that will accept you for who you are just give it time and everything will be ok when i came out to my parents my mom was ok with it and my dad said I dont approve of it and I told him to ******* deal with it its my life I'll do what I damn well please and to this day my dad and I still talk well I hope I helped you out

Answer 5

Tell those who will love and support you... Ignore the ignorant mother-------s. Not everyone has to know, or needs to know

Answer 6

Get cuaght with a big wad O of *** on your face at the dinner table. That should be a great way to show your mom your a gay and that she f*cked up.

Answer 7

Never bang the door you may want to go out !!!

Answer 8

just start showing it more & be open about it no matter whos around you.

Answer 9

Tell your boss so you get fired. Tell your Dad so you get disowned and disinherited. Go out and tell ALL your friends so they can find out the kind of fudgepacker you really are. What the hell, take out a front page ad in the LA Times. All you gay guys are rich!

Answer 10

If you are a girl, suck another girl up, If you are a guy suck another guy down (if you know what I mean)!