my son is 13 and diagnosised with autism and mild to moderate mental retardation. He is now is starting to get.......curious, for lack of a better word. His level of understanding is hard to determine. How do i explain to him what is happening? He gets freaked out when he wakes in the morning and has an erection that won't go away. I've tried to explain what is "right and wrong" when it comes to boundries with girls but he doesn't fully understand. I panic everytime he's around a girl. He keeps asking to see there belly and then asks for a hug. (Not Good) I don't know what to do or say! Help me please and suggestions or advise would help me greatly!! Thanks in advance.
2007-03-20 16:22:44 · 6 answers · asked by Tisha 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
Speak with the school psychologist/behaviorist. Believe it or not there are several vidoes out there for just this situation! You can choose ones that discuss in basic terms what is happening with your son and why or one of the more graphic videos that will help him figure out how to relieve the discomfort of the endless erection...which you use is guided solely by your personal beliefs and your son's readiness levels. Also, if you live in an area with good autism services in general, you can check around for support group for developmentally disabled teens. These groups are put together to help the kids learn how to socialize not only with one another but how to treat and approach members of the opposite sex. Finally, if you do find a group attached to a therapist or clinic, talk with them. Many therapists who work with developmentally delayed adults and teens will have lots of good advice on how to handle sexuality. Hope some of these help...
Another Mom of an autistic son on the brink of sexual awareness...
2007-03-21 00:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 13 yr old son. He is high functioning autistic with cognitive delays. we have been working with him for several years to keep his hands to himself, because he has a problem with that. When he starts to reach for someone, I use to say to him Hands! that was my key word to him, and he would stop. I had a behaviorist come into the home and work with my son. we taught him to shake other people's hands. He can do this more now, however, kids do not really get why he reaches out to shake your hand. I would also tell my son if he asks something inappropriate to someone, I'd say to him, that is not OK to say. Tell him in short, simple, concrete words what is acceptable and what is not. Tell him when the situation arises. You have to be consistent and patient too.
As with waking up with an erection, I would let daddy handle that one. seriously, eplain to your child that he is going to be ok and it happens to all boys his age, and that he is growing up so his body is changing.
2007-03-20 20:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He gets an erection in the morning because he needs to go to the toilet. This has nothing to do with sex. After he has visisted the toilet the erection will go. You need to do two things regards inappropriate behaviour to girls. First tell him to say something more acceptable eg you're very pretty and secondly tell the girls to correct him if he behaves inappropriately ie that is not the right thing to say. Give him a script of what is an acceptable thing to say
2007-03-21 10:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by pedrostarr 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you tried using social stories with him about girls? Social stories are a good way to help him understand the "right" and "wrong" way to talk with girls. For example, a social story might say something like "When I see a girl that I know and like, I will ask her how she is doing." Try to phrase it in a positive way - "I will" instead of "I won't". Ask his teacher if he/she has any social stories about social interactions between boys and girls.
Also ask the teacher if he/she has a curriculum about puberty. There are several commercial ones that are specifically for children with disabilities.
Feel free to e-mail me at lonely_girl3_98@yahoo.com - I might be able to send you some social stories about this.
2007-03-21 11:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by lonely_girl3_98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i had an answer for you....how do you feel about masterbation? do you think he understands that...? good luck
2007-03-20 20:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_b40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋