My husband was overseas on bussiness. Me and my 4 children were there with him for 6 months we came back to the u.s and he contuined overseas for 6 more months my husband was still paying for all the bills giving money for his children. I found a job so my mom decided she would watch my children for me. She went and got temporary custody behind our backs we were not even notified. now my husband has came back we went to try to get the kids than we found out she had temporary custody by stating my husbsnd anbanded them because she was watching them for 8 months and he did not contact her to check on them but he was calling me to see how there were doing.. So my question really is if he did not contact her personally in the 8 months is that abandoment?
2007-03-20 16:10:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not on his part -- but what kind of contact did you maintain with your mother while this was happening? If you weren't maintaining regular contact with her it was abandonment on your part.
2007-03-20 16:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.
You would be shocked at how many Grandma's go through empty nest syndrome and will go to any length to have a child of their own again.
This is an extreme case and I must start by saying I am extremely sorry for your stress.
You and your husband need to go to court.
Take all the supporting documentation that you have with you.
Phone records, banks statements that can show the money he sent, a note from his and your employer to show that you were both working and Grandma was just babysitting.
It does not make sense that she would get custody unless you were both out of town and had not contact with her at all.
Did you leave the children with her overnight?
Was she providing primary care?
Where you or your children living there.
If she has presented a false claim to the court she will be in serious trouble.
Put all emotions aside and go and get your kids back.
What is so wrong with society today, that parents cannot rely on the support of their parents or in-laws while they go out to earn a living.
The days of surviving on a single parent income are gone for most.
I again offer my sympathies for the stress this has caused you.
Good luck
but no time for being nice, get your kids back a.s.a.p
2007-03-20 23:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by makeda m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say it is abandonment - it is more irresponsible parenting
besides didnt you both (parents) have full time commited jobs plus the father being overseas
she sounds like a well and true ***** - she is trying to say to you that she doesnt like the father by the sounds of it and using this as an excuse - and probably for the $$$$ for children these days on welfare
you could always oppose the order to state your reasons
2007-03-20 23:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, shame on her for such a terrible betrayal of your family! No court would uphold such a ludicrous thing, many fathers have to go away to work for months, in the army, on the rigs, etc., and don't necessarily get to call home at all, or only at weird hours when people are in bed...
you stayed in contact with them, right? your only real worry will be what to do about your mother.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 23:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes in the states, if you do not contact the person who has your children to check on them, to talk to the kids, it is considered abandoment. Get a lawyer.
2007-03-20 23:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, someone can't just go to court and get custody of your children without you knowing, that would be like lawfull kidnapping
and who cares if your husband called or not, you were there right? so what exactly are you not saying here
2007-03-20 23:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband did not abandon, but if you left your children and didnt go back to see them or give them support then you are considered as abandonment.
2007-03-20 23:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure there is much more to the story. My question is where were you? Your kids moved in with their grandmother? Werent you in the same town? Like I said there is more to the story but to answer your question I would say that it sounds like both of you abandoned them.
2007-03-20 23:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be something missing here...Go to the courthouse and find out how you were served...then go into court and say you were improperly served...although...i dont understand where you were and were you visting your children living with them...etc...
this is hard to answer there are holes...
2007-03-20 23:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has a good excuse.
i find you a bit hard to believe.
sounds more like you abandoned the kids with your mom and now are having a hard time fessing up.
2007-03-20 23:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋