My boyfriend of a year will not listen to the word marriage. He gets upset when I talk about it or anything else like buying furniture. We are both 20 and halfway through our degrees in college. Will he ever want to marry me?
2007-03-20 16:07:00 · 19 answers · asked by Becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My boyfriend of a year will not listen to the word marriage. He gets upset when I talk about it or anything else like buying furniture. We are both 20 and halfway through our degrees in college. I'm also scared because I will be completely imfertile before I'm 30/ My dreams of having my own children may be crushed. Will he ever want to marry me?
2007-03-20 16:21:44 · update #1
It all depends up on his expectations. I mean ask yourself this question, does he really like you? Does he show affection? Or does he show affection to get something (Please don't get me wrong, I don't mean any dis-respect at all). If he does truly care than he might be scared of something, he might be scared that it might not work out or maybe other psychological issues, some of my friends didn't want to get married due to their parents breaking up and it left some scars in them. If that's the case you need to prove to him or gain his trust. If that's not the case then all have to say is he is not that interested in you and if you really want someone to be tied up with find someone else that will.
Also don't forget your still at school I would focus on school because these thoghts will grow and it will affect your studies. Once you finish and settle for a job, I would think about marriage then.
2007-03-20 16:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd focus on something other than the idea of marriage at this point in your life. Marriage with this person will either be right or not. Either way, this relationship may provide you with opportunity to learn how to care for another person in a spiritual sense.
Too many times, people are focused on an end result rather than learning from the opportunity of being with another person.
It's possible that you will marry this person, but you will miss out on a lot of other things if you obsess on this. After another two years, you may have grown in a different direction.
Give yourself and your partner some breathing room. You'll either grow together or apart.
2007-03-20 16:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Skeptic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably, if you stop going on about marriage. You're only 20 and halfway through your degrees. Get your degrees finished and get out into the workforce into good jobs before you even contemplate marriage. Don't be in a rush, you'll only end up in tears.
2007-03-20 16:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get married too early now-a-days. Don't rush anything and just focus on getting your degree. That's the only thing you should worry about. If the guy doesn't make you happy, cut things off and find someone else, or no one. Wait until you have a great job. Believe me, you won't have any trouble finding someone to marry when you have a good head on your shoulders and a great job. It goes a long way. Good luck.
2007-03-20 16:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Josh P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know men arnt mature till they get to the age (around) 25 i think he has alot to learn and is scared of the comittment but in my opinion you should wait!! i have been married for 2 1/2 years and i am still learning new things about my hubby i married at age 18 its hard and its nothing to rush into. Be the real you in front of you or else things when married wil be much harder. make the best out of dating the roses,cards,take lots of pictures, have fun while it last. !!! :) p.s if it was meant to be you guys will survive many wonderful years later down the road good luck!!
2007-03-20 16:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl your scaring the man and I don't blame him you guys are way too young to even talk about moving in together. I say enjoy the time you have together enjoy your careers at least for some time and then you can wait and see if he's willing to make a commitment. If not you can kick him to the curb. but now I say leave that boy alone let him finish his school at least!!
2007-03-20 16:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by blackmamba81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually
2007-03-20 16:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by shawinder B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I wouldn't say dumb him necessarily...Marriage is something that some people see as a prison closing in, marriage brings a lot of things that some people dont want to deal with. When you guys are out of college then he might want to deal with all the difficulties of marriage.
2007-03-20 16:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, with the way the media is portraying marriage these days, its probably doubtful.
Another thing - you are still young. Give it some time, and definitely ask if he thinks he will EVER marry you. If he doesn't see that happening at all, you might have to leave him. The final decision is yours. :\
2007-03-20 16:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by nerveserver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both 20, that is a bit young too get married, maybe in a few years he will be ready, right now enjoy being young
2007-03-20 16:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋