I'm depressed at school because I am constantly harassed and have no friends. I am stuck with the reputation that I am annoying, and even though I have worked on that forever and I have defiantly improved it I am stuck with it. I have no friends and no one wants to talk to me. I skateboard and I come to school being called a poser. I've tried everything, therapy, threats, everything. Along with that my home life sucks because everyone is out to get me and my church life is,amazing, bad too.
Bullies will harass me and every day they not only find my weak points but push me farther. Someone gave them my cell number and now I'm getting prank calls. They won't let up even when I fire the best of comebacks from the internet.
I'm also interested in a girl but she wants nothing to do with me and knows that I'm a creep. I see her every day but she ignores me like I'm not there. That has always been a problem and always will be.
I have no clue what to do! Could someone give me some advice?
2007-03-20 15:57:12 · 8 answers · asked by Luke K (www.lukeishere.com) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A reputation is the hardest thign you can lose. If you are popular you will always be popular, like wise is your unpopular you will be unpopular. All you can do is not go down to their childish games. If they bug you ,just walk away and dont care. Dont put importance to what they say or do to you becuse then, that will make them feel important. People like to feel important and will do about anything to feel that way, even bullie people as long as they feel important.
I dont know what kind of religion you are but, try to look for God more he will guide you and you will feel better.
Allso when they prank call you and its blocked or private dont answer its best you dont deal with it. Or call the company and change your number and make sure that only people that you know and really do care for you know your number. BE careful with your personal things.
This girls you like, if she treats you like crap then she isnt wort it then. You need to find someone that will like you for who you are and what you are. She has to be the person you know you can talk to openly and know that she will never critize you. If she is ignoring you.... then you really have to move on and realize that she isnt the girl for you.
If you want to make friends you make the first step in making friends. Talk to people that You dont know and you will figure out thta they will start to like you for you. Talk to people be more social and have fun. If people cant realize that you can be a great person then screw all of them and be happy with yourself.
Hope this helps. If it does great if it doesnt i tried i hope it helps.
2007-03-20 16:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cristalite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you do about your situation? It, believe it or not, depends on how old you are. If you are in your teens the answer is not easy; it involves getting a kind of detachment that you might not be ready to practice yet. You will have to develop a thicker skin; do the people who torment you pay your bills? As a teen, you may put alot of stock in people's opinion of you but when it comes down to it, 95% of the people who are jerks to you will turn out to be losers later in life. The most popular people when I went to school are now the most popular drunks, drug-addicts and losers. I feel bad when I run into them because they are just so pathetic. Ignoring people that have that much power over you is hard, nigh on impossible but for your own good it must be done. Make a list of the things that you want to change in your life and see where you can make improvements. Don't like your school? See about a transfer. Don't like your church? Go to another one. Home life sucks? Do activities outside the home that will take up your time. Feel you don't have any friends? Find the ones that feel the way you do and hang out with them. Someone's got your cell number? Change it. Intrested in a girl that doesn't know you exist? Well, that may always be the case. Become more comfortable in your skin. All problems have a solution if you are willing to work on them for you happiness, not to make someone else happy. You could try fighting back but the best solution is to show everyone that you are above their petty bullshit and live the life you want.
2007-03-20 16:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you could change schools? It's very easy to block everyone one but certain people on your cell phone & email. Firing back only lets them know they are getting to you. Have your parents go with you to talk to your school counselor, if that doesn't help your principle, if that doesn't work the superintendent at the board of education.My son had the same kind of problems he ended up in a mental hospital for 2 weeks because of it, you really need a good counselor. My son found out most of it was exaggerated in his head because it just kept repeating in his head. You may need medication to help you cope with this situation, but if there is anyway you can go to a different school you may want to try that. For now do your best to ignore them, & don't speak to them or threaten them just avoid them & ignore them.Why do you call yourself a creep? That bothers me. Do you have problems controlling what you do? Do yourself a favor go to the dbsa website. www.dbsalliance.org & take the test there, also go to the Zoloft website & take all the test they have www.zoloft.com & see if that helps you figure out what to discuss with your counselor. What can it hurt. Maybe you will find better ways to cope with your problems. Maybe you will find a way out of the situation. Heres hoping you can find a way to cope with this situation. Stay strong.
2007-03-20 18:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem and you know what? screw them...i am one of those ppl that can't help but wonder what is wrong w/ me...and i do care what others think, but one of these days it won't matter b/c they'll be on their own. you'll be already used to it, and they'll be plagued...it kinda turns around=] and i know that has to make you smile...they are screwed! ha..
i have a bad rep and everything, and i know that i deserve it b/c tho i make good grades i suck at living muh life...but that doesn't matter..i have a few good friends...listen, w/ the phone calls, change ur number or call them back...when they make fun of you, just play mind games...much simpler...it gets fun after a while..you won't even miss being liked...promise =] besides...it is their loss not yours
2007-03-20 17:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lozer [[RawrRawrHerbivore]] 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what religion you are but I'll tell you i will be praying for you( everyone needs help from god.) i don't know where you live either. if you live near San Fransisco, you are welcome in my church we have a lot of fun things. try to change your looks and don't look like you have been hurt by the things stupid guys do to you. act like you don't care. I can be your friend, and there is many people who care about you too. talk to your parents about this, it will help. you skateboard which is really cool. i hope you like rock too. just try not to drag too much attention. if you sometimes feel like fighting someone, do it because it will help. Forget about that girl, if she cant notice you, then she doesn't deserve you. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-03-20 16:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kevinemy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it seems like everywhere you go , you have that problem, are you sure your not imaging it . you must be doing something wrong. and change your phone number, why have a phone if you don't have friends, and your home life stinks. does not make sense to me. but good luck. I hope things change for you.
2007-03-20 16:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having a better attitude would work wonders.
2007-03-20 16:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could move to another state and start over.
2007-03-20 16:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋