I have a few great friends and some of those happen to be my boyfriend, a brother and a co-worker. Back in the day, it seemed I had tons of friends. While I am not beat up about growing up and loosing friends, I can not seem to understand how to make new close friends, especially other woman with the same interests as myself. I would love to hang out with some new interesting people, but how?
2007-03-20 15:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by Reblecka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am glad to know I am not the only one with this situation. I kind of figured that with age, maturity sets in and you just grow wiser to most peoples stupidity. I do plan on taking a few classes classes for elementary education, but even in college it took a long time to make friends from classes. I think females intimidate me a bit, as I have never been much of a girly girl. I would like to meet females with communication skills and interests in hiking, biking or something outdoor. Guess I will just have to take the jump and get out there. Does any one else find it depressing?
2007-03-20 16:21:05 · update #1
I think what happens is that people get really caught up in their families and careers, leaving little time for friends.
I find that I see my friends very little , but I make an effort to communicate in order to let them know that they are important to me.
It is one of those things that happens, people move, have responsibilities and those friends that were a daily part of your life no longer are simply due to circumstance.
Meeting new people may seem intimidating, but it is always a good thing to challenge yourself, no matter what age you are. That is what makes you a vital and interesting person, and therefore, people will want to know you.
Join a gym or adult education class in an area that interests you, you should find people with similar interests who don't just want to sit home watching TV.
It really is just a matter of putting yourself out there. Be involved in life and your life will be involved.
2007-03-20 16:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found myself doing the same thing. In high school I had a ton of friends and once it was over you realize who your "true" friends are. When I went to college I had great girl friends that I still talk to today but they dont live by me anymore. I finally started taking more classes and realized that I had a lot of interest with those people and I am building a few more friendships. I especially saw when I hang out with my bf and his friends girlfriends I am almost depressed because I have nothing in common with them.
2007-03-20 15:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can personally relate to your situation. When I was younger I had friends galore, now that Im older those friends have dwindled down to a close few. The underlying reason being maturity. As I matured, I started basing my friendships on quality-not quanity. So don't let the number of friends or lack there of bother you. If the friends you do have are dependable, supportive, and compliment you be thankful. True friends are a rare find. :)
2007-03-20 16:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by MissFireandRescue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your prob goes with growing old..as you grow old you find new things you like and old things you don't like doing anymore..like bar hopping, watching mopvies with friends, hanging around with friends just wasting time et al...and then theres the "work" things w/c keeps you from having a "life".. . suffice to say, yes its possible we'd end up with little friends as we grow old...but then depends on what you like now you could still meet friends... with more means than you know.. like here in yahoo, chatting...or maybe join a discussion group...the KEY is make time.. give yourself 5-6 hours a week to just go out (alone or not) mall maybe...or ask a co worker for weekend drink. or an hour a day to chat ...whatever works easily with your schedule and budget. believ me.. i've been there;)
2007-03-20 16:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by chronically Rejected 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take a class in something that interests you. I take a pottery class and have made a lot of nice friends there.
2007-03-20 15:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is this, the older you get, you find out who your real friends are. You grow up and sometimes you grow apart.
2007-03-20 16:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as we get older we get wiser. we can tell who is a real friend or a fake. We are getting older, we dont need the BS.
2007-03-20 15:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Genia F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋