2007-03-20 15:33:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No its not selfish, if that what you want then do it. there are a lot of other people who don't get married and children , or they get married and don't want to have children, that is all up to you. and there is nothing selfish about it.
2007-03-20 15:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to get married or have children, I think NOT getting married and having children is the least selfish thing you can do. Caving to societal pressures and dragging someone into an unwanted marriage/family... now THAT would be selfish. Look at NJ ex-Governor, McGreevey. I think he is about as selfish as selfish gets. A closeted gay man who marries not once, but twice, and brings children into a family that was doomed from the start. He would have been better to take a "life partner" and adopt. Basically, you need to be true to yourself. If marriage and children don't interest you, don't pretend they do. You'll only hurt innocent people in the process.
2007-03-20 15:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet November 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking if it is selfish? Did someone tell you that you are selfish? This is your "life" choice. Society has programmed itself to think that is what people do. Have you have life experiences so far to make you think that marriage and children might not be a good fit? example: parents divorce, rebound relationships, not found the right one yet? All of these and so many other factors condition our thinking.
After spending years in an unhappy marriage and having a child...out of the mouths of babes..."mom at least you did a lot of learning in marriage....life learning" yes I learned a lot about life and I am far from finished
I NEVER regret having a child ...as many would say as I would... my life is wonderful and he has made my world a better place...I learn from my child everyday...he is everything to me..I love him and would move mountains and arrange stars for him if I could
I used to say to friends..."you cant spend your life alone" now I say as an adult it is your life and you can either take control of it or let it run itself into the ground. You are the one accountable for your actions... who benefits and who loses...YOU!
I am now with the love of my life ... and yes he truly is my friend, lover and soulmate...and knowing him has made my life totally complete...True love... I didnt think this would ever be possible...when it does YOU KNOW and CHERISH every moment and enjoy loving and being loved
2007-03-20 16:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by hkitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not selfish. It would be selfish to get married and to have children if you didn't want them. Now that would be selfish
2007-03-20 15:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! sorry for yelling, but too many people out there are having kids when they aren't fit to care for a goldfish.
if you do not want to have children or get married that is your choice and don't let anyone dissuade you. it is your life and you have the right to do as you please providing it is within the law etc. etc.
there is nothing worse than being the child of someone who didn't want you........so spare any child that feeling.
as for marriage, it seems most people don't want marriage anymore. i am not sure why, but again, if it isn't for you then don't be pushed into it. and if you are so very sure of your decision then see your doctor and have a vasectomy. that way you won't be having any 'happy little accidents' that would require a wedding.
good luck with your decision and enjoy life, however you choose to live it.
2007-03-20 15:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur w/some 1 that wants those things, then yes and no?!?! If your with someone that wants that, then you need to find someone that wants what you want...which is "just a relationship" (nothing more or less). And she needs to find some one that wants something a little more serious. But if you are straight forward with her, from the beginning and she knows what you want then...she has the option of sticking around or moving on. HONESTY...plz!!
2007-03-20 15:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all....in fact if you are not REALLY ready for marriage and children it is the responsible thing to do by NOT getting married.
2007-03-20 15:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not selfish it's a life style choice.
2007-03-20 15:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not selfish. Its your life and you choose to live it ,,whatever makes you happy.
2007-03-20 15:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is something you dont want to do than you dont have to so no its not selfish
2007-03-20 16:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋