I fantasize about men about doing it w/ them, but I've been dating women and flirting w/ them. I'm a virgin and want to know what the heck I am! So, am I gay, straight, or bi? and please don't answer that it's wrong to be gay or anything cause' I don't really care and it just shows how you can't read.
2007-03-20 15:18:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
being confused is normal. i think u should try both, then u'll know. if u like them both then lucky u. gay, straight or bi is just label. the importnant thing is u happy with who you are. dont pretend what u're not
2007-03-20 15:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by confused and loving it 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I strongly agree with Bloody K. Whatever opinion anyone else has is irrelevant, as is whatever label someone else decides to stick on you.
I would add that it's not that uncommon for men to have fantasies about other men, and it doesn't necessarily mean they are gay or bi or whatever. Many "straight" men have them and never act on them.
As one of the wise lesbians pointed out in another question, sexuality seems to be shades of gray rather than black and white. Having fantasies about men and never actually having a sexual experience with them is probably something like 90% straight, 10% bi/gay/whatever.
Of course, few straight guys would ever admit to having fantasies like these, so you never hear about it.
Just remember that whatever you're going through and however it turns out what you are experiencing isn't abnormal, no matter how many others might try to tell you differently.
2007-03-20 15:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Corestar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight
2016-03-29 09:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you could be bi-curious. It may not even be that you are actually attracted to men even though you fantasize about them. It may be that you are just more comfortable with them and feel like you can be yourself when your with them. If thats the case then thats just wanting that sense of compassion with someone it doesn't make you gay. If all else fails you could try kissing a guy first to see how you feel. If you like it and take it farther then you are bi. Hope this helps. P.S. I had the same problem just the oppositte (I'm female) and I'm still kind of confused i think the best way to find out is to just test the waters... Good Luck
2007-03-20 15:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by BrwnEyedPlayette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who are you turned on by more? The women you date or the men you fantasize about? I suggest trying to be with a guy or real and see what you think
2007-03-20 16:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of straight men in this world who have experimented with homosexuality. This happens to most men. They may not admit it but there is science to back up these claims. If you feel the need to experiment with your sexuality that is a decision only to be decided on by you. Experimenting is 100% normal. Just be SMART and SAFE!
2007-03-20 15:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by scvboi82 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a bisexual, but I think if you have sex with both genders first then you might be able to come to a conclusion. As for your virginity--that is something that is special--make sure you are ready to have sex first and a little secret--sex isn't the be all..it takes practice and exploration on your part. As you get more experience you will see that sex can be an enjoyable expereince for both you and your partner (male or female).
2007-03-20 15:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that you think about sexuality as a spectrum: on one end is 'completely straight' and on the other, 'completely gay' ... there is a lot of grey area inbetween. Stay open minded and explore - don't put pressure on yourself to come up with a finite label for who you are.
2007-03-20 15:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by hannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a break into dating women and focus on yourself for a while. You are the only person that could find out.
2007-03-20 15:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Boy if ur asking this question this means ur both and u r for sure gay. I dont think there is a straight guy out there that would ask this question. u r gay and ur bi u like girls too. theres notting wrong with that. go ahead and try dating a gay guy. dont b scared just do it u'll feel much more better knowing wut u r.
2007-03-20 15:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by anna_r_3 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋