we have basically combined our assets and i sort of feel stuck, do you think he is leading me on????
2007-03-20 15:08:38 · 23 answers · asked by debbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he was living with his wife I would tend to think he could be leading you on.....Hes living with you.....and while he hasnt signed that dotted line, he has made a commitment to you. You are living as man and wife, even though you havent gotten married. If you think something is going on with the ex, then you should start to worry. You loved and trusted him enough to combine your assetts, then love him enough to know that he didnt start living with you to lead you on. Its a pretty big move, and if he was leading you on, he would be living by himself, or with his ex and having you on the side...that would be leading you on. What do you think though? Do you think hes leading you on? If you do, then its not because he hasnt married you, its because of something else...you are feeling unsure for a reason. If its just the fact that he wont marry you, but is treating you like his wife in every sense, then, no, he is not leading you on.
2007-03-20 15:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so without knowing more of the details i couldn't say if he is leading you on... what i will say is that you have basically given him the benefits of marriage without him having to make the committment... i know you've probably heard the saying about why buy milk when you get the cow for free.. well right now you are the cow.. now i'm not saying give him an ultimatium or pressure him into the whole marriage thing but i am saying that right now it doesn't seem like he has a reason to be motivated into the marriage.. have you expressed that you feel led on? perhaps there is more to do with timing and the ex situation than even you are aware of? talk to him but above all don't pressure him... good luck
2007-03-20 15:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Combining assets is never good if your not married. Even then you should combine assets equally, keep the rest in your personal account.
I can't answer your question, but give him 6 months to get it right or drop him.
2007-03-20 15:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nort 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful! Think about it, why would a guy be in a hurry to get married if he basically already has a wife at home?
I tell my friends all the time, dont be wife until you stand in front of the preacher and take your vows. If y'all are already living together, paying the bills together, sharing a bed, there is NO reason to wait. You are basically already married.
If he doesnt set a date, get the heck outta there! We all know the saying about the cow and the milk and yadda yadda, but its so true. There is no reason to buy the cow if you get the milk for free, and theres no reason to marry someone who already acts and lives as a wife.
Good luck, and I wish you the best! =)
2007-03-20 15:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by independent101 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two people living togeather but not married
means no obligation is in place to combine any
assests, and you say he still has issues with his x
after you and him are togeather for one year. That
alone should show you a red flag. When you are
absolutely sure and after you are married then I
would think of combining assests. Unless you are
100percent sure now that he will be with you and
marry you as he said then you should know not to
get your 100percent life involved with him of your
assests. Good luck.
2007-03-20 15:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if I were you I would be a little bit leery of putting any liquid assets on the table that he could abscond with. I read about the con men every so often who show up on the scene, sweep a woman off her feet and while she is star struck, they clean out her savings and take off.
2007-03-20 15:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by don n 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how long you wait. If you think you can't wait any longer, I suggest getting your share of the assets out and move out. Move on to another chapter of your life. Then again, if you think you can wait, then ask him if he has sorted things out so that both of you can get married. Get him to talk about and so you will know where you stand.
2007-03-20 15:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be patient for your own good. more than 60% of all second marriages that take place within the first 5 yrs of the first marriage end. Let him work it out. My fiance promised to marry me 4 years ago. we are now setting the plans. I have been divorced for almost 6 years. sit down with him and talk to him about how you feel. but be informed know some of the facts and be understanding. If you can do this you will find the answers your looking for.
2007-03-20 15:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by D B 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If they are already divorced, there is nothing stopping him from marring you (now) i think what ever problems there may be( if any) can be worked out even after you are married. That is what marriage is, working throw the tough times. I think he may be blowing blew smoke at you. Just tell him, lets get married and ( we ) can deal with what ever problems there may be like other married couple do. If he declines marriage at this time, quit contributing. You may find yourself out with nothing but your clothes on your back. This has happened to others.
2007-03-20 21:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by shyone 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hope your not a rebound. Why is it taking a year to straighten out with the ex? I would split finances til your married
2007-03-20 15:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋