What's oyur take on Teenage pregnacy?

Question

Where I go to school there are so many pergnant girls around it's crazy. They act like it's okay too!! What is happening to today's generation? They are having kids like you eat and drink. what signals is that sending to the future generations/

I'm not judging people I'm just saying that these kids aren't thinking. like my friend katie who gave up Her baby to her sisiter because she wasn't able to take care of her. now she is preganant again and She thinks her man is going to stick around. She thinks they are going to live happily ever after. And if we are talking about the same boyfriend that's nevre going to happen. Plus she is cheating on him with 2 other guys.

Answer 1

Well and good encouraging girls who become pregnant to stay in school and keep their babies and all but what they should be focusing on is DISCOURAGING THEM FROM BECOMING PREGNANT.

Having respect for themselves and their bodies.

That having unprotected sex with boys is risky at best, and can land you in all kinds of trouble that will have a far reaching, irreversable impact on their lives. That they DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE SEX to be loved, or to show their love.

Sleeping with boys at such a young age is a dumb dumb dumb thing to do.

Yes, I know there's the odd teenage girl out there who "really loves him" and is lucky to have a supportive boyfriend and a supportive family who is willing to pay their way for them until they get organised but they are the exception, not the rule, and shouldn't be held up there as an example of what can happen.

More often than not the reality is far, far different. Get them to watch a few episodes of Maury sometime.

Answer 2

That's strange, because all the statistics being thrown about these days indicate that teenage pregnancy is on the decline, not the upswing. However, it could seem there are more pregnant girls around than there used to be because rather than leave school, or hide away, the girls are encouraged to stay in school and keep their babies.

Whilst that is an admirable goal, discouraging teenage pregancies should be a higher prioritiy - supporting teenage mothers should be seen as the exception rather than the rule, as it sends a message that it's okay to have sex and if you get pregnant that will be fine, you just continue through school and life will be great.

The sad fact is that for every "success story" teenage mother there will be a bucketload of not so successful mothers whose lives will not be an easy ride for them or their babies. Even though they love their kids a lot, very, very few teenage mothers, if you ask them years down the track, would go through it all again, or recommend that girls have babies as teenagers.

Kids who have no real expereince of real life have a very limited ability to plan ahead, or imagine their lives in years to come.

I don't agree that it's "okay" though, to go ahead and have a child while you are still no more than a child, in this day and age when there are so many more options and opportunities in life than there have ever been for women.

In addition, pregnancy and childbirth for adolescents is a much higher risk than it is for a fully grown, fully developed women in her 20's, a fact that is never really made clear to a lot of teenage girls.

Having sex at such a young age is not such a hot idea in general, pregnancy being such an obvious side effect. They think it's a pretty grown-up thing to do and they are totally ready for all the risks and responsibilities of a sexual relationship but 99% of the time they are not.

Answer 3

no matter what you say or do it going to happen. in our community we have 32 Senior pregnant or they have a child! we don't have day care here!!To be honest i am watching a 4 month old now for my 17 year old cousin! If They don't go to school in my town the court systems steps in and they learn real quick!! Most the time parents step in and help here!! But a daycare in school is the dumbest thing i have ever heard of!! They are just babying the mother of the baby!! Here drop out rates are low, so i don't know where you are from, but wow is all i can say!

Answer 4

It is a lose-lose situation 90% of the time. Children are born to mothers not old enough & not mature enough to properly care for them & raise them into responsible adults. The arguement of they are mature is defeated by the fact that they are pregnant as a teenager showing immaturity or stupidity. Ifor the record, we are not talking about raped or abused teenagers - that is another question) The mothers themselves will either miss out on the fun of being a teenager or the repsonsiblity of being a good mother. I think it is rare you can be both. It is not the repsonsiblty of the Grandmothers to raise another generation.
It was hard to raise my children & give them all they needed. I felt neglected at times & I was an married adult with a spouse to share the responsibilty with.
You are right it sends all sorts of wrong messages.

Answer 5

I got pregnant when I was 16. It wasn't on purpose and I was devastated to say the least. I had the mind set that most teenagers have-"It won't happen to me". I wish I had listened to people when they told me to wait for marriage to have sex but I was naive and didn't. My daughter is 4 now and lives with her Dad's parents (not by my choice). I never get to see her. I wish there was a way to get these kids to understand that having kids is a life changing thing and they need to quit acting like it's easy. It's not cool and it steals your adolescence. I don't want to sound hypocritical but I think teenage pregnancy & parenthood is NOT a good thing. It's hard on everyone involved. Teenagers need to consider not just themselves but their family and the possibility of a baby before they have sex. I bet if they could experience what it's like to be a parent without actually having to become one a lot of these girls would practice abstinence. I wish I would've.

Answer 6

i have a four and half week old baby and i think they are mad if they dont think babies are hard work - they require a lot of attention. They will miss the opportunity to have a career and travel and i tend to think most of them are stupid and or lazy and think this is an easy way out.

Sadly i think there is a large portion of these girls that are not fit to be mothers and that some do it for the welfare benefits - i think they should be in school learning about sex ed instead of out having sex.

Of course there are exceptions to this rule but mostly i think these girls should grow up first.

Answer 7

I was a teenage mom. My son is now 15. I tell him everyday that the path I took is not the ideal situation for any teenager or the baby. I don't ever regret having him, but I do regret all of the things that could have been better for him had he been born after I became an adult. I gave up everything for him, he became my number 1. I did not continue my post secondary education or career until he went to school. It scares me to death that he could follow in my foot steps. I only pray that I have raised him with better values.

Answer 8

My best friend was a pegnant teen and she came out ok shes still with her b/f who is now her hubby theyve been together for 6 yrs.and recently had another child 4 yrs later from the first....they have theyre own home...cars and he works and supports her....they both finshed highschool and are working on contiuing ther educations!! im not saying its ok by any means cuz its hard very hard i remember all the stuf she went thru it was hard for me as her best friend....and sometimes things do turn out ok if u have a great support system!!..it just depends on the situation and the people who are around you/...i really believe that depends on ur surrounds alot, good luck and best wishes

Answer 9

I had my first daughter when I was 18 y/o. I wasn't in high school anymore, but it was still tough. I love my daughter more than anything of course, but I certainly wouldn't recommend pregnancy at such a young age. I was on my own and not living with my parents, so the burden didn't fall on them. I was lucky that my bf(now husband) stuck around. I so easily could have been pregnant and alone and at that age it would have been terrifying. I really think the bigger question is what are we teaching our daughters? I know that statistically my daughter is more likely to become a teenage mother herself, but I am determined not to let that happen. I want both my daughters to know that they are worth more than that. They have more to offer ppl than sex....something I wasn't taught. We really need to encourage our daughters to become strong, intelligent, educated, confident young women.

Answer 10

Look girl the only reason there pregnant its because they dont use protection and because they arent dumb enough to have an obortion. Do u rather c them pregnant or having babies die all the time just because of 1or many nights of pleasure. Im pretty sure that when that day comes to u. U wont have the heart to kill ur baby u'll keep it like all them girls out there at ur skool. Having a baby is not a bad thing its a beautiful thing. God never said there was perfect age to make a baby. U cant judge people for being pregnant thats there problem. It shoudlnt bother u. Just dont do it urself if it bothers u that much. And let all them girls be. There young but they aint stupid if they were they would of kill there babies. But they decide they wanted to b responsible for there actions. So instead of asking y there getting pregnant ask how can girls out there not be responsible for there actions and have obortions.