.....I prefer black men but my dad is really racist and said he would kick me out if he saw me with one. It's not my fault I'm attracted to black men, they're just too sexy!!!
How can I convince my dad to let me love who I want ??!!?!?
2007-03-20 15:00:55 · 16 answers · asked by Brandy Belle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
He's probably too set in his ways to change. As long as you're living under his roof, you have to abide by his rules.
2007-03-20 15:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are still living under your dad's roof you have to go with his way of thinking. When you live under your own roof you can think for yourself. I suggest you get a job and move out. If you are still in high school then right after graduation get a job and move. In the mean time go along with dad. Sorry, I know this is not what you wanted to hear. But.... you're not going to change your dad. It is a losing battle to even try.
2007-03-20 22:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous answer but I would add that you should move on out. Once out you may make you're own evaluations of those whom you date and make your own decisions. This is a wide open country, don't drill yourself down to an attitude that only involves what you've seen yourself. Keep an open mind and think about how you see your future. Christmas, 2025. Are you on the outs or are you in there sipping hot chocolate?
2007-03-20 22:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by bubbasmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to do this. Since your dad is nearing 40, and is still racist enough to believe "color matters", it is beyond your ability to convince him otherwise. He will need some kind of epiphany for that kind of change.
Your father has the right to regulate who comes into his own home, even with you as an adult living in his house. You may associate with anyone you please on your own time, away from home, but HE gets to regulate who comes over to HIS house.
When you have a place of your own, you may do the same.
If you don't like your dad telling you who you can see on your own time, move out. Then you can take a stand on what you believe, when he is not providing for you.
2007-03-20 22:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you cant, if he is racist then nothing will change his mind. Ever thought of maybe finding your own place so that way you can have more freedom to date who you want without getticg kicked out of home.... I understand his racist but would he seriously kick his own daughter out of the house just because of who she is dating?? If so i feel really really sorry for oyu and i hope you can sort something out!
Good luck :)
2007-03-20 22:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you give us more info about your father? How do you expect us 2 make snap-judgements w/o that?
......unless you're just having a bad dream...
Are your parents divorced? You might need some sort of counseling.
It's his house, so it's his rules.
PS-From the answer you gave to Dr. D three questions ago, your "plight" (story now) sounds & seems like hogwash.
2007-03-20 22:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
like your going to listen to your dad anyways you are going to grab who ever your dad does not like but whom ever your taking risks with think about if you really want to be with that person do you really love that person or do you just shack with them cause your dad says no your dad wants the best for you and you know noone will ever be good enought for his daughter cause im shure your special to him do you truly love those people or is a quick shag make up your mind anyone can give you a quick shag but does the other person feel the same about you what are you thinking what im saying is is there a special twinkle in there eye or is it what
2007-03-20 22:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by peter w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately since you do live with your dad, he can tell you who to date, when to come home, etc. Maybe if you offer to pay him rent he will relent on some rules. Try that and see if that helps any. If not, I suggest moving out to an apartment. Sorry that he is bull-headed, he needs to move to the 21st century. =(
2007-03-20 22:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by atlantagal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Under his roof you follow his rules dear. If you know it bothers him so much at least show some respect and wait until you move out to go black.
2007-03-20 22:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Steelhead 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
his house his rules get your own house you can do what you want till then quit complaining. he loves you and gave you shelter even though you are old enough to be on your own. he set rules because you do live in his home and out of respect you should abide by them if you do not agree with them .
2007-03-20 22:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋