I am having some hormone problems and do not want sex. It's not that I am to tired, I just don't think it's all that important for my survival. Maybe it has to do w/ our fertility problems too. We have been together 4 yrs now and have 2 children, both from previous relationship. I know it's important to him but I don't feel sexy even when I try. He is so good to me and deserves my attention but I just don't feel like it. What advice has the therapist shared w/ you?
2007-03-20 14:54:48 · 7 answers · asked by LUCY 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you speak with your OB-Gyn DR? Try that then go to a sex therapist. You need to feel sexy about yourself. Us woman have our love life on the back burner. We are to busy taking care of our family that we tend to forget our own needs and wants. We sometimes feel guilty if we do think about something we want. Why don't you try being spontaneous, go to the VIP store together, get some movies , try new things. I was told once by a Christian sex therapist, to take time after the kids are in bed , Go take a nice hot bath with candles, a sexy scented bath soap , soft music, get dolled up with a sexy night gown, fix your hair up put a little edible lipstick., some sweet perfume. By doing that you are mentally and physically preparing yourself for a great evening ,or get some KY warming gel give each other some nice massages. Shut the phone off, try and get a babysitter or go to a motel. Try and fantize about how you want to touch your spouse and what you want him to do to you.
2007-03-20 15:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by spanishfly9582 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A sex therapist deals with behavioural issues and how to change them in order to get the most out of sex.....he teaches you how to relax, to trust, and to just let yourself feel. In your case, it is not behavioural, so I doubt whether a sex therapist could help you. You have a hormonal imbalance, which is totally beyond your control. You need to go and speak to your doctor about this and he/she can either work towards fixing this imbalance and/or give you something that will increase your sex drive. While, I am no expert on this subject, I did hear a little while back that there is a pill for women to increase their sex drive....a viagra for women. Talk to your doctor....a sex therapist wont help. He needs to correct the imbalance....its a physical condition, not an emotional one.
You obviously love your husband very much and that is the first step...the second step is to speak to your doctor.
Good luck
2007-03-20 22:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally have never been to a sex therapist but i would go if i needed help with things so i suggest you do so if you feel the need to go. It may help you out alot. You may also want to talk to a doctor as they may be able to help you as well. It may be an emotional disorder or something as well that maybe even medication may help. Good luck to you and i hope things get better for you and your sex life soon. Vitamins may even help even out your moods as well. An obgyn may be able to help with things as well... I have to agree with the other person on here... Try the doctor first before trying sex therapy.
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2007-03-20 22:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I haven't been to a therapists yet. My doctor gave me a testosterone cream. I had no sex drive at all. It helps.
2007-03-20 21:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,well i haven't been to one but i think it would be wise for you to go. Men need IT or they may go somewhere else to get their fix and that would not be good for your relationship. Trust me i know my husband and i are going thru that very thing and we are going to a counselor but just haven't been yet it just happened a couple days ago!
2007-03-20 22:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yep the back seat of my 57 Chevy
2007-03-20 21:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
tell him to put on a mask - think its someone else
2007-03-20 22:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋