My dad was messin around with my brother's friend from the basketball team's mom. Then all of a sudden he decides to leave. Come april my parents would have been together for 18 years. He has cheated and just hurt her throughout the whole marriage, I don't know why she just leave him, but she said it is because me and my three siblings. I told her to get over it and that it is not worth it, but he even admitted to her that he has a girlfriend and has taken her and her sister out on dates. I am mad because he spends more time with her four kids than his own blood. He rarley calls, and when he does he just calls my mom out of her name. He promises to see us, but never does, he is always out with her. My mom is espically a lot prettier than what she is. I told my mom that she needs to find someone else, but they are still married right now. This is not the first time he has cheated on my mom, but the 8th time.
2007-03-20 14:53:05 · 12 answers · asked by Tyese 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to go see a lawyer about divorcing this creep! He needs to learn how to treat women. Don't worry, most of the time if you cheated once, you will cheat again. The same way he did your mom, the same way he will end up doing his new girlfriend. And when he realize he messed up something good, it will be too late. Amd make sure if he comes crawling back to your mom, tell her to be strong and not to take him back. She does not need that in her life. She can do much better. Tell her to hold her head up and get out there into the dating world again and find her a nice, respectful, caring, and all the other good things, man!
Good Luck!
And I hope I helped.
2007-03-20 15:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, your mom definitely needs to get rid of your dad and take care of things like child support, because the way things are going, he's obviously not going to be there for your family if things become rocky financially.
**However** the most important thing you can do for your mom is to not blame her and to be supportive. This doesn't mean that you can't tell her how you feel or try to get her to find a life of her own. But don't pressure her into doing something she's not ready for and just let her know all the time how much you love her. Also, if you or your siblings are still in school, then make sure that your schoolwork and stuff is going well...
2007-03-20 22:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right she should divorce him and then find someone better. I'm sorry you dad is as lousy a father as he is a husband and I think you should tell him what he is doing to his family. Maybe if he realizes that you won't put up with what your mom has and that he will lose you if he doesn't at least start being a better father, he may not stop cheating but he may start treating you and your siblings better. At the very least he won't be able to say that he didn't know the effect it was having on you all.
I hope you and your family can find some happiness.
2007-03-21 01:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer. And I do not believe your mom doesn't leave him because of 'the kids'. She doesnot know any better ( 18 years is a long time). I also believe that for many woman the problem is money. They sacrifice themself so that there kids can live in there house, have nice things, buy nice clothes etc.. Do not judge your mother, help her, talk to her, be nice to her she is going throug hell, so she needs to know her kids love her no matter what, remember you will also be a parent one day.
Your father is making the biggest mistake of his life!! Mark my words. As the years go by and so will his looks (?) and charm (?) he will realize that he threw away the best that has ever happened to him, his devoted wife and his unique children. Do not get angry let it go, anger will only hurt you along the way.
I know it's hard but it will get better in time.
What helped me and my children was prayer. We prayed every night for strength, peace and yes for there father not for him to come back, but to bless him. Remember, your father is YOUR father no matter how many stepkids he decides to have, You and your siblings are his kids.
Good Luck and God bless
2007-03-20 22:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by melly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 different set of issues here. One set is the desicions your mom is making upset you and the other set is the issues you have with your dad. you need to explain both clearly to your mom and let her know that she staying with your father is not doing anygood for you, so in hind sight her staying wiht him cause of the kids is not working. Your dad you need to confront him with those issues. Your mom can help you thru but ultimately bring them to him. Good luck.
2007-03-20 22:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by D B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother is very insecure about herself. She needs to think more of herself than she does. She needs to contact a lawyer, get a thearpist, or find some kind of support group to help convience her of what is goin on. I am sorry for you kids!! Your daddy will regret this one day. What goes around comes around!!
2007-03-20 22:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is a very brave and unselfish person. You and your siblings should be giving your mother all the support that you can right now, because her heart is probably breaking inside.
2007-03-20 22:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs a wake up call
tell her to let go and move on
its not worth the humiliation and embarrasment
you have to remind her does she want seconds
she sounds as if she cant let go after all those years
she needs another man in her life - try and introduce a good looking one to her - she may just change her mind
2007-03-20 21:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very obvious that you love your mom very much and are very protective of her. It is also obvious that you are very angry with your dad, so it may be hard for you to accept this but.... Stay out of grown folks business. Deal with your feeling about your father and let your mother handle her business with her husband.
2007-03-20 21:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to put his clothes on the porch and sue him for child support.
2007-03-20 21:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋