How would your Parents feel if you married someone of a diffrrent race or ethnic background?

Question

FOR THAT MATTER WOULD THEY APPROVE OF YOU DATING SOMEONE OF A DIFFRENT RACE, RELIGION OR CLASS. I AM ABLACK MAN AND I RECENTLY POSED THIS QUESTION TO MY PARENTS AND I WAS A LITTLE SUPRISED AT THEIR ANSWER SINCE THEY HAVE ALWAYS TAUGHT ME TO TREAT EVERYONE EQUALLY.

Answer 1

My mom wouldn't care, but I think my dad might be a little put off. I think in the end they would accept the person based on their personality. There have been plenty of white guys and hispanic guys that my parents either loved or hated. It was them as a person. My best friend is black and my parents offered their house for her to move in at a bad time. They LOVE HER!! And so do I! She rocks!

Answer 2

Well, in the case of my parents, they would have to turn over in their graves if they have any reaction at all. Sadly, they probably would. Now, would you like to know what I'd say if my grands told me that? I'd tell them there is still a social stigma against it and there will be until we are so intermixed that we are all the same color. I have a friend who's son is Caucasian, American Indian, Korean, and Black. He is the most beautiful child you can imagine but he gets a lot of crap at school because you can see the Korean more than anything and he's the only Asian in the rural school. The other races are well represented so I doubt if they get as much he does. Sad, isn't it?

Answer 3

I am embarrassed to even say this but no, I don't think my parents would approve of me dating someone of a different race or religion. I don't really think that class would matter as much to them. I am not AT ALL prejudice! I would not think a thing about dating someone of the other race, religion or class! I am married to a white man but that just happen to be who I fell in love with. Had I fell in love with a black man, I would have married him. God made us all. I wish I could get that through my parents thick, hillbilly heads...lol!

Answer 4

My parent's couldn't care less about the race or ethnic background, and neither can I. The only thing my parents would object to is a different religion. I would also. I am a Christian, but I guess it's not really a religion. It's considered a relationship....but anywho, I wouldn't marry or even date someone who is not a Christian.

Answer 5

I have always been taught to treat everyone equally, also. I also know that religion or class probally wouldn't have much of an effect on them. But race would throw them into screaming meme's. They believe everyone should stick to their own race. Their opinion and I say its their opinion not mine. They think its just making your life miserable due to all the illiterate remarks you would have to put up with. And the children do not fit in anyplace.

Answer 6

My parents have always told me that they personally would not have a problem with it. But they always stress the idea that while THEY wouldn't care, we live in a society where others do see a problem with it. They especially bring up the fact that I live in what's seen as the South (although like 20 minutes from DC) and that if I lived in a place in New England, there might not be as much discrimination against biracial couples.

Answer 7

It is no big deal. Two people of different race, class or religion marrying each other has been happening all the time and the success or failure of these mixed marriages largely depend on the parties involved.

Answer 8

I am European and have been living for 14 years in Hong Kong. Its hard to date locals (when you are a woman at least, because all men, chinese or white want chinese women!). Anyhow, I dated a chinese guy for about 1 year and he wanted to marry me. My mom didnt seem to have a problem with it at all. In the end, we didnt marry (different points of view on life, but are still very close friends).

Am currently dating an Israeli, and now, same thing. But my mom seems a bit more concerned. Same for my grandma. Lots of yelling and screaming from her. More talking with my mom. She is scared, not because he is Jewish, but because of the issues over there. It is a hard decision to make. His parents only asked if I was Jewish (am not), but he seems to be making his own decision in loving me. It is a relationship with is strenous for both sides. Both sides have expectations about how marriage should be (religion, no religion, kids education...) and if both sides are capable of making compromise (which you are willing to make, with no resentment) and coming to an understanding, then love should be stronger. I never truly believed in the power of love...but he makes me feel good, makes me see that things can be worked out...

Your parents need to see that you are a grown man now, and you should be able to make your own choices with the education they gave you. They will still have influence on you for a long time, but now it is your decisions. I know my mom will always take me in and care for me, whatever happens (good decision or bad decision), thats why parents are there. They give you the tools to survive in life, now you have to use them the best you can.

Answer 9

Personally, my parents dont care the race or religion, just as long as they like the person. Some people just have different feelings about that type of situation

Answer 10

Well...my parents would have opposed hard before marriage but would have settled and would have compromised to the situation at hand...after marriage. This was their way of saying..."We don't like that our son/daughter gets married to someone from different background and you will have difficulties adjusting to it but if you are so stubborn about it, well it's your decision at the end. To us, it's all the same."