how bad does it hurt giving birth?

Question

I have just finshed school and my fiance wants a baby..but i am soooo scared. I heard people say it hurts so bad and others say they didnt feel a thing. If I have natural what does it feel like and if i have a epidural what does it feel like? I really want a baby but pain really scares me.

Answer 1

sweetie if you are already that scared then 1 word comes to mind Epidural. Natural hurts and it hurts like h*ll, but once that baby is in your arms you forget it and would (and more than likely will) do it again for the joy that the baby brings you.But here is the plus side of it you will get to feel the natural side of it from 1-5 (dilating) and if you can't tolerate it then ask for the epidural( no harm at all asking for it), but they won't give it until you are dilated 5 centimeters.But if it's to much from 1-5 they will give you some other med's to help take the edge off from thing's, good luck and best wishes

Answer 2

From what I've heard, yes it hurts. I am 21 weeks pregnant. I know that I will feel pain, but I can't wait until my little girl gets here. It also varies from woman to woman. I would say though that since women do it all the time, the pain is not so unbearable most do not want any. I can't wait until my little one gets here. I already know she will be the apple in her daddies eyes and the best thing that ever happened in our lives. I thought getting married to my hubby was the best thing in my life. That was until we found out we were pregnant. We have been trying six years. Fear is natural and believe me when I tell you I have occasional fears, but it is so worth it knowing that all the pain I have went through will go away, but my precious daughter will be in my arms. My mom had eight children. 7 of my siblings have two or more children. Most have been natural births (with few getting epidurals) and no cesareans were needed. My mom didn't have any meds. I would find some friends who have been pregnant and are pregnant that can talk with you about joys and other things in pregnancy. We just want our baby girl out and here. In the end it is you and your fiancee decision. What I can tell you is I know the contractions will be painful (or extremely) to some degree. I cannot tell you what, but there are epidurals and things that help with the pain as well. I would get some books and study up. I love reading where my little one is at in development and saw 3D ultrasound. She yawned and then sucked her thumb and it was one of the most amazing things my hubby and I ever have seen. I guess for me it's just something that has to happen, but I am not scared like before pregnant for some reason. I guess seeing your baby just puts things into perspective. :) Sorry, I know I'm a little sentimental, but I can't wait.

Answer 3

It really depends on the woman and the pregnancy. With my first daughter, the contractions were merely uncomfortable and then I got an epidural and felt nothing at all. With my youngest daughter I was induced and I had a bad(but rare) reaction to the medication which put my uterus into hyperstimulation(basically one long contraction that did not let up). I nearly fell in love with the anestheologist that time...lol.

Regardless of the pain, the important thing is the baby. When you have that beautiful bundle in your arms you just know it's worth it and you'd do it all over again if you had to. Also remember that women have been having babies for a long, long time. If they can do it, so can you! A woman's body is created perfectly to have babies. And epidurals are a miracle...lol

Go for it! Trust me, you won't be sorry. Good luck and I wish you the best!

Answer 4

Yes it hurts, of course it does, but think of the outcome- a beautiful baby! I had my first naturally and my second with an epidural. But do you think I would had my second if I didn't think it was totally worth it? I knew what the pain was going to be like but I was not scared because I knew what my reward would be. But If you just got out of school maybe you should wait anyway- get married enjoy each others company and later settle down and have a baby. Just don't be scared of the pain- you can have the epidural and not feel anything if you'd like.good luck :)

Answer 5

With my first child the contractions hurt really bad, got an epidural didn't feel a thing she came out with no problems. My second child I was induced with pitocin contractions hurt like hell, got an epidural after 6 centimeters didn't feel a thing. My third child I didn't have any contractions at all, I was induced given pitocin and I had a pain free birth. My fourth child I was induced, had my membranes stripped, a little uncomfortable, broke my water, and was giving pitocin, I had never felt pain like that in my entire life, too late to get an epidural had my son naturally and I never want to experience that again. Giving birth hurts alot but you get through it I did four times.

Answer 6

Even with an epidural, it will hurt like a mf! Pain management is meant to ease discomfort, but without any sensation you won't know when to push! But don't worry, after its over, you forget the pain (and maybe soon you'll want to go through it again!). Always try for that vaginal birth, if you don't mind my advice. C-Sections are really trendy right now but they are brutal! As a nurse extern on a labor & delivery floor I've helped in many a C-Sect, and those doctors are pulling on your skin like they're playing tug rope. Not to scare you or anything! But just try to keep in mind, unless it is contraindicated for your condition, go for vaginal. It's a much easier recovery!!! Don't forget to discuss the money aspect of raising a child with your fiance. The pain of a chronically empty wallet sometimes hurts a little more than the pain of the birth itself!Good luck!

Answer 7

i have given birth naturally 4 times with no epidural or pain relief, and it hurts so bad that i couldn't even describe it to you cause i could tell you it is the worst pain you'll ever feel, but that would be hard for you to imagine. Anyhow labour sucks but go for an epidural, either way you end up with a beautiful baby! HAVE FUN!!!

Answer 8

It's particularly now not as unhealthy as everybody makes it out to be... With a anguish scale of 10 being the maximum Labor: five out of 10 The Last 20 Minutes of Labor: eight out of 10 The Actual Birth, Between Pushes: 6 out of 10 The Actual Birth, During Pushes: zero out of 10 ----(pushing littoraly stops ALL the anguish) So ya now not that unhealthy. By some distance the worst side is supplying the placenta afterwards.

Answer 9

It hurst yes, but every person has a different perception of pain. I had an epi and all you feel is the needle. It suck becuase your having contractions and have to stay completley still. After the epi i felt nothing and got some rest which i needed becuase i was actually sick with a bad cold during labor believe it or not. Then for pushing they turned the epi off and i felt everything again. On a scale of one to ten, its about a good 9.

Answer 10

i had an epidural and i didn't feel anything. the only time i kinda felt something was when they said don't push. my friend had her baby naturally and she said she wouldn't do it again and she was stupid for doing it in the first place. so, its up to you and how much pain you can handle. but the epidural is great!