He has been telling me how dissatisfied he is with his marriage -- and is thinking about leaving his wife. He and I have spending more time together...but just as friends...Yesterday, we spent 5 hours together and today, he came over my apartment to help me set my tv up. So, am I naive to think we are just friends...or is it possible that even though we're just spending time together, he might be interested in me romantically?
Now, he has been in marital counseling, and I have tried to suggest things that would get him and his wife back together. He says he knows they can't continue their marriage and the relationship is at its end. That being said, does that change anything?
2007-03-20 14:01:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a woman (good question)
2007-03-20 14:07:16 · update #1
He definitely wants to partake of your trouser treasures.
If you're looking for great sex, go for it. But don't expect him to be ready to commit to another long-term relationship right after ending his marriage.
And whatever you do, don't forget the condoms!
2007-03-20 14:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand that he is your best friend. Kind of, after he married I don't think he should still remain best friends. His BEST FRIEND should have always been his wife. Also, I don't think you should intervene any of his marital issues. What will happen is if he's lying to you because their is some attraction between the two of you; Karma is real. You wouldn't want to start a relationship in the future and the same thing happen to you. On the other hand, if the two of them work things out, you would have been the one giving some negative advice probably. This could damage your Friendship with him. Good Luck and remember there a marriage is between two people. Stay Back
2007-03-20 21:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by mommyX4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on now, you're a woman and he is your
best friend(married) as you said and you know
good and well you and him like each other more
than best friends. So with that being said since he
is a MARRIED man best friends do not intefere
with someone that is having marital problems, that
is left up to the wife and husband and marriage
counselors. Have respect for him and for your-
self and let him resolve his issues, then you can
do as you please with him after he is divorced if
in fact that is what he is going to do. Be a true
woman, leave the married man alone, and wait
your turn when he gets divorced. You are a woman
a weak link for this man as he will always turn to
you for second pleasure.
2007-03-20 21:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even if he didn't start out having romantic feelings for you, he has them now. It started out just as a friendhship, but you're becoming the wife he doesn't have. If you want that (and you're not married), just make sure it really is over with his wife, and go for it. If not, let him know you're not interested. It could be that he's sabatoging any hope of his marriage working because he's now in love with you. It really does happen, so make sure you're clear with him about what you want to be to him.
2007-03-20 21:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't need marital help if he talked to his wife about his problems instead of looking to another woman for his problems. His best friend should be his wife and not another woman Why are you giving advice anyways you are adding problems to the marriage and should stay out of their business!
2007-03-20 21:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u see him spending alot of time with u than with his wife (which he suppose to be doing) then u need to cut him off. i know u are acting as a friend wanting to help him out but u dont need to be bringing a married man by ya house like that. plus with the advice u giving him he might like your thoughts/perceptions on stuff that he might be liking you more than friends. that can cause changes becuz u understand how he feels and is helping him out. but i mean wait and see what else happens from all of this. what other indications has he been giving u that he interested in u? u can always wait to see if he makes a move on u tho.
2007-03-20 21:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by CaribbeanChica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever seen "When Harry Met Sally"? People make fun of that movie, but it has a very clear message that is so, so, so true: A man and a woman can not legitimately be good friends without one wanting to do the other. Our biology basically forbids it.
He wants you, but don't beat yourself up over it as long as you acted appropriately at all times.
2007-03-20 21:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Leah~Ariana is due Oct. 09~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how you are taking this relationship but from what I can see, you need to keep a distance from him as he is trying to mend his broken marriage. If he talks to you about his problems with the marriage, I think you need to help him focus on solving problems instead. Just be a friend and lend a listening ear. He just might need someone to listen.
2007-03-20 21:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the last person he needs to be hanging around with...if he wasn't married, it would be more obvious that he want to get to know you better, being married, he wants purely a romantic interlude...which doesn't surprise me that his marriage is on the rocks...unless you want to be blamed for their problems, I'd end the visits at least.
2007-03-20 21:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are your true feelings about him? Are you in denial thinking that you are only friends? Sort out your feeling about this guy then decide in were to take it from there. Make sure whatever you decide is not going to haunt you or your conscience. If you only want to be friends then let him know from the beginning where you stand. Be strong and true to yourself.
2007-03-20 21:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by spanishfly9582 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the way out hunny friend or not if he did not want to marry you before he doesnt now. You will end up being the rebound and he'll expect you to understand it in the end. Dont let him get any
Idea's
Good Luck
2007-03-20 21:07:51 · answer #11 · answered by D B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋