When is a molester not a molester?

Question

So awhile ago, I'm out with my friends and Court TV is playing in the background at the bar. We all watch when this smoking hot blonde is shown at a press conference. It's a woman named Debra Lafave out of Florida who's 25 years old and was arrested for having sex with a 14 year old male student (link to a picture of her and the story below).

We'd been drinking, so of course, so we joke about how this kid must be the luckiest SOB to walk the planet, etc. But I digress.

The question: why is the female teacher off the hook for "having sex with" a 9th grade male student, but if the genders were reversed, it would be "molesting"? How damaged is the boy really (I'm trying to remember being 14...seriously, I think I'd be OK...)? Or is a double-standard OK in instances like these (and if so, why?)? I think of a 14 year old girl and a 25 year old man and I get queasy and want to kick the guy's @$$, but why don't we have that same reaction when it's hot teacherette/boy student?

The link to the story:

Sorry, try this link instead:

http://pc540.blogspot.com/2006/03/charges-dropped-against-female-teacher.html

Answer 1

I remember the story and was asking the same question at the time. Guys are predators and looked at as such. Women are vulnerable and preyed upon. this boy may have trouble in relationships and be divorced several times in his life. If he met my daughter I would be concerned. I know most people get divorced several times but it is not healthy. Total double standard. She should get the same label as a male in the same situation or the balance of justice statue should be revised. Where is the outcry from the Nazi feminist's and equality rights activists. Somewhere trying to get themselves ahead in their bi est cause. lol I was ignorant at one time at 14 too and that why it is wrong.

Answer 2

Cultures evolve. If we rationally look at this evolutionary process, I think that we would conclude that we are evolving for the better. We are certainly not regressing.

However, in the short term, when morals begin to change through societal pressure, there may be many fits and starts before we accept certain inevitable changes.

Presently, I think that we are evolving in our assessment of the role of sex in our society. Of course, we are becoming much more liberal and free with sex and its ramifications.

We have gone through several changes in the last few years. We have progressed from the concept that sex outside of marriage is a sin to the present concept that sex is just a means of momentary pleasure.

As a society, we will continue to push the envelope until we reach a tipping point where people finally conclude that sexual interplay must have some boundaries which should be adhered to.

As for the case you mentioned, it indicates to me that the majority of the people in the United States don't see a moral dilemma there.

The next phase in this process may be...

Needless to say, we need to continually re-evaluate our moral standards and enact guidelines in the community, not just the courtroom, to convey what is acceptable behavior as regards to sex.

Answer 3

there is known hostility in the direction of people who purpetrate those crimes in the society !! yet, one might desire to not permit the bounce to judgements, while somebody is accused of those crimes, cause them to loose all reason and deny due technique in the letter of the regulation !! there have been tens of hundreds of cases the place human beings have been accused of this terrible act and have had considerable "data" stacked against them -- in basic terms for it to be got here across later -- to have been a contrived accusation !! So, as a society, we would desire to act with considerable diligence in being VERY specific that we've certainly purpetrators on the line formerly we pass to strikes !! yet, as quickly as due technique is finished and the accused have been rightfully convicted -- we would desire to additionally take reliable action (plenty enhanced than is the case in maximum situations on the instant being performed) !!! existence sentences in establishments the place the inmates are envisioned to offer some provider or product to contribute to their very own maintenance -- does not be out of the question for a good form persons who do not see those offenses as score the dying penalty yet, do see a might desire to maintain those persons FROM the society at great for something of their organic existence !! they might desire to not, in ANY condition be back TO society !! even although, as a determine, if and while somebody became nicely-known to be offending against YOUR newborn -- it could be the main organic element interior the worldwide to assume that that determine might -- by using all it is holy -- opt to be sure that individual fry in oil !!! And, if it became discovered that that distinctive guy or woman have been an criminal interior the previous, and became "permit loose" by using "the gadget"-- it must be envisioned that the determine might want (and be warranted TO assume) the persons who permit this individual out to be tried for accessory TO the crime !!!!