My wife of 17 years fell in love with a coworker and she left me two months ago. She told me that she loves me but is not in love with me. I told her that after 17 years love is a commitement ie- paying bills together, picking up the kids, cooking together cleaning together ect. Heck last year she had a life saving operation and I was their holding her hand when she woke up and kissed her and told her much I love her. Is it possible when the lust of her new relationship wears off that she will realize who really loves her and that she messed up?
2007-03-20 13:39:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think their relationship is based on lust because 1 month before she left me she wanted another baby so she fell very fast for him which tells me it had to be lust right?
2007-03-20 13:44:15 · update #1
Oh my God! you're two in a million mate, she will realise all too soon I'm sure.
My husband always tells me if I were to have an affair, he wouldn't blame me at all, he always says he'd take me back.....he says if another guy told him to give him a bl*w job or die, he says he'd die first.....but if another guy said to give him a bl*w job or I'd die...he says he'd give him a bl*w job....He'd kill him first chance he got afterwards though...lol
how could I ever cheat on a guy that I know loves me so much? I couldn't.........
Your wife will realise I'm sure the wrong she's commited & will return.........I really hope she does & then you can both sort out what went wrong & be happy for the rest of the time you have together....
KB
2007-03-21 12:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she will realize it but only after it is to late.She has crossed the line of no return now.Once she has left you and decided to pursue a new relationship it becomes very hard to regain any kind of trust or respect for her.She has left you standing alone when you were there for her through the bad times.I can only guess how you feel by going through something similar myself.You will still have strong feelings for her and it will be very confusing at times.Your heart and head will play games with you so be careful what you choose to do.
When she finally realizes she messed up there will be so much damage done that it will be extremely difficult to fix the problems she caused.You may never know that see realized it and she may never be willing to tell anyone she messed up.
2007-03-20 15:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she will definitely regret it. The newness will wear off and she will be left with an empty feeling and a deep regret for leaving you....the one that really loves her. She will be back at some point wanting to patch things up with you....then the ball will be in your court as to whether or not you'll let her back into your heart.
2007-03-20 14:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by love my life 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course she'll realize it, maybe even before the relationship with the other person ends. Some advice though, she left you for another man, don't take her back, she could do it again. No need to put yourself through unnecessary heart ache
2007-03-20 13:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by invisiblekisses2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my... I do feel sorry for you. I have not done that, but what comes around goes around. She will learn she wont have what she did with you. In no time she will regret what she did. Don't be there waiting for her though, move on with your own life. I'm sure this has got to hurt a great deal. Have peace knowing it wont last for her and you dint do anything wrong. I'm sure that she will end up regretting what she has done to you and the family.
2007-03-20 13:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is the first time she has ever done this, then she definitely fell in lust, not love. She was bored. She was looking for excitement and she found it in another man.
2007-03-20 13:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like kind of mid life crisis. I think you are right, she right now is enjoying the "company" of someone different and exciting. But it will wear off I think. Be prepared for her to want to come back. It will try your ability to forgive and not remember. Good Luck
2007-03-20 13:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No but you shouldn't take her back either because she will just do it again, she left you for someone else you need to move on and keep her out of your life.
2007-03-20 13:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having been the woman you are describing,,,yes....she will eventually come to her senses & kick herself for what she has done....after several years ( my divorce was extremely nasty) im okay with it, but it does hurt to know you caused all that hurt to someone who didnt deserve it...esp the children
2007-03-20 15:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Soccermom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is just having fun...
at the end of the day..she will come back to u..
u seem like a very loving husband...
god bless
2007-03-20 13:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by ♥panicqueen♥ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋