I work in the office, work at home (office stuff), pick up the kids...and I am a neat freak so I have an obssesive compulsive side that everything in its place...hubby on the road most of the day....I cannot find 8 minutes to tan or manage to find a moment during the week for a much needed hair cut. What do you do to squeeze that extra 1hour of "ME" time. On the weekends I love to just hang and have all househould stuff done by friday so I can...but I have no desire to do anything on the weekends that is a chore. I guess I could do it then...but choose not to. Yes hubby does just as much...but the barber only takes him 15 minutes...I am not complaining...but I wish the day had more hours. Any ideas? Please fellas....NO SMART comments...this question was not for you. Ladies...you with me !!!
2007-03-20 13:18:16 · 9 answers · asked by jshorePR 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
here's some advice my mum gave me...............
the house will NOT fall down because there's a couple of dishes in the sink.
the world will not stop turning because there's a load of washing in the laundry.
BUT you will die emotionally if you don't make some time for you!
2007-03-20 13:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by inkrouble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick one day a week and dedicate it to your self. Have your husband take care of the kids for a few hours so you can go get your hair done. And if he won't hire a sitter.
Go tanning once your husband gets home from work. He can watch the kids and man the house for a half an hour or so. Worry about dinner afterwards. You will only be a half an hour behind.
Make the time. What ever is out of place in your home can wait until you get back.
It is okay to want things in there place and to have order but ask your self this what about you?
Don't you want order? Don't you want your self to look and be your best. Don't you want everthing on you in order?
My advice you need to think about your self a little more and the house a little less.
If you are as compulsive as you claim to be then your house is perfect already. And it won't explode into a mess that quick while you are gone.
Live life a little. Make your appointments before you do your house work. You are home 24/7 you have nothing but time. You can squeeze yourself in between cleaning and picking up the kids. Cut you house work down by an hour and make appointments 2 hours before you pick up the kids.
If there is a will there is a way.
Life is to short to spend it cleaning all the time. Do you wanna look back at your life when you are old an have no memories because you were so die hard on keeping things perfect.
None of us are perfect. Life is what you make it. You can still keep a neat home and have a life.
2007-03-20 20:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up. I'm almost 48 and just got custody of my 2 grandsons, age 2 and 3. I work full time outside the home. I wear my hair UP so as long as it's clean it doesn't matter. I wear jeans to work so there's not a big issue with laundry.
But seriously...try getting up a little earlier, before everyone else so you can have some "me" time. Your hairdresser probably has one day during the week that she works later. Too much tanning is bad for your skin. Skip that part! Use paper plates...less dishes to wash. Cook a double portion of your favorite meal and freeze half of it for later...
2007-03-20 20:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't you have more time in the day if you stopped being so compulsive about housekeeping? I personally would rather have a bubble bath over a basket of folded laundry. Being a neat freak must not give you any joy if you lack 10 minutes to take care of yourself, don't you think?
2007-03-20 20:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great Mom and Wife.
Same problem but I'm a guy. She and I trade times. The kids ar a bit older so it's easier now.
We also let the house "go" a bit. Have to for the sake of sanity.
Heck - we still have holes in the basement drywall where I did some electrical work this summer. I'm getting to it... but slowly.
Got to let some things fall by the wayside.
That's it!
2007-03-20 20:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Salami and Orange Juice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good you know you have OCD(obsessive-compulsive disorder)symptoms. They do have medication for that you know. Did you have out of control situations in your life? One of the drawbacks about trying and being a good wife and mother is not being able to keep on top of too many tasks/duties, causing more stress, etc. Trying to find a happy medium is the goal. Perfection is impossible. Try thinking about good enough....bless you
2007-03-20 20:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kids, that they can sleep over at a friends house. They will get on the bus with the friend, and you wont have to pick them up,cook for the kids, ect.
They instead of picking them up. Go to the hair salon, and mabey the mall. treat yourself for a bit. You'll deserve it.
xâ¥
2007-03-20 20:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by jackiebrawdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if kids r over 2 they can help with alot of the picking up and stuff its amazing eager they want to help..
anything that can be done the night b 4 , 4 the next day is always a plus too.
Personally what I do is on one of my sisters days off she takes my daughter who's 3 it gives me ME TIME and Gives her AUNTIE TIME & EVERYON WINS!!
2007-03-20 20:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have time to be on the internet; surely you can arrange your schedule (take away something,move something to another day or time), to have some "me" time.You ARE complaining,but you should be complaining to your hubby...
2007-03-20 20:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋