The question might sound weird, but I was hoping for some decent answers. So it would be helpful if you give me your thoughts, as to whether you feel this way, have felt this way, or know someone who feels/have felt this way.
First of all, I'm a girl, and I'm not attracted to guys at all. But at the same time, I'm not attracted to girls either. It's not like any traumatic thing happened in the past, or I had any bad relationships, etc. I never really liked guys in the first place (although I'm an adult, the classes in the high school and high school life pretty much made me never be able to get over the "cooties" issues of childhood). But then again, I can never imagine having an affair with girls either, because if I was a guy, I would never ever go out with them....
Am I weird? Is this a big problem? Or is it something that people just go through in life, and eventually get over it?
2007-03-20 12:54:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds as if you may be asexual. It's not as uncommon as you may think. About one percent of adults self-identify as asexual, which most likely means at least two percent of people are. The following website has lots of info/support, as well as a very inclusive FAQ which may answer any questions you have:
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
2007-03-20 13:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Cracea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Count it as a blessing. Relationships of this type are the cause of so much distress. Yeah, they're fun for a bit, but most seem to end in heartache and pain.
I'm a girl, I liked guys, but I never really felt anything that I would describe as attraction. Then I developed attractions to girls at about 19. That led to an 8 year battle with these feelings.
I finally got freedom from that and then found myself attracted to one guy finally. That's it, just one. I'm ok with being single. I'd like to be married someday, and if it's God's will, someone will show up and I'll be attracted to him. But for now, I count it as a blessing that I'm not having to deal with that area. I'm able to do so many things as a single than my married friends with kids can do. There's freedom in singleness. Just enjoy it. If you're meant to be married, it'll happen when the time is right.
2007-03-20 13:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. Not everyone is all gung-ho about dating and some of us are just not sexual beings. You might find yourself interested in a guy or a girl some day. Maybe not. But you are just fine either way! There's no law saying you have to be attracted to anyone! Just relax. It's not a big deal or the end of the world. If anyone tells you differently, then they are a complete idiot.
2007-03-20 12:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You too??? I've always felt kind of androgenous...meaning non/gendered. I was in menopause before I thought much of either sex and know now that I absolutely prefer men. When I was younger, I wasn't sure as I wasn't particularly attracted to men or to women either. At first I thought I was gay but figured out after one experiment that I absolutely was NOT gay.
I just honestly wasn't interested in sex at all or with anyone. Unfortuately, I was built like a Barbie doll when I was younger and guys were all over me...I never did know what to do with that body and all those guys when I really wasn't interested in their propositions. I felt so odd as most women seemed very interested in men and in pleasing them and I could have cared less...and yet I absolutely wasn't gay. I had sex with quite a few guys inspite of my attitude but never found it particularly wonderful...I could take it or leave it.
I don't know why some people have zero libido but it sounds like you are one of them...gives you lots of time to do other things...like develop your intellect. Don't worry about it...Sex is over rated and you're not the only one.
2007-03-20 13:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be permanently nonsexual. It's also ok if you are temporarily nonsexual but develop sexual feelings later. However, it's not such a good thing if you have sexual feelings but they are buried so you don't know they are there. It is better to know yourself and be aware of your feelings. The comment about "cooties" seems to imply that you have a fear or revulsion toward other humans. Throughout life one should practice introspection and learn more and more about oneself. Maybe you will find that you are really nonsexual, that's ok.
2007-03-20 13:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by unnua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...part of growing up. My girlfriend is with me and swears that she would rather date an alien because she doesn't understand women or men...hehe, silly little lesbian.
I think you will grow out of it. Your still young. You have a whole life ahead of you. Just stay that way until your ready. Who knows? You might just end up having one sooner or later.
2007-03-20 13:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't sweat it..Things will come naturally to you in time..
People of all kinds can be very annoying at those times you emrace your pets as they always give unconditional love..
Just watch out with what you feed them!
2007-03-20 12:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blessed if you don't have any angst over it. Like others have said relationships will suck the life out of you. Count yourself lucky.
2007-03-20 13:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a hormonal imbalance that will make you have no sex drive... it is possible... talk to your family dr... or to a indocrine specilist
2007-03-20 13:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by D and L M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel bad, I couldn't care less either.
2007-03-20 13:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋