2007-03-20 12:44:46 · 59 answers · asked by sarah_churms 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wait another 5 - 6 years. If you still feel the same way, then go for it.
2007-03-20 12:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
i am not going to lecture you on what you should do just tell you what i am going through now! i am 18 in june and my boyfriend is 20. i am 9 weeks pregnant, i didn't mean to fall pregnant but it has happened, i am scared! young girls (like me) think that having a baby is all warm and fuzzy and yeah in alot of ways it is! but when you are 15 still at school probably don't have a job how are you going to support that child? welfare? wouldn't you rather wait till you can stand on your own two feet and support yourself instead of relying on the government to pay for everything? im not saying this to scare you or anything like that! you need to remember that along with that little bundle of joy also comes alot of other things: responsibility, financial worries, sleepless nights, stress and alot more. also before the baby is born, there is all the stuff you go through during pregnancy such as morning sickness, pains that cause you to worry about whether the baby is alright the first 12 weeks are hell with being sick and worrying about miscarriage, wouldn't you rather wait until you have a fulltime career or at least a good job a loving partner get married buy a house settle down then have kids? i know how you feel i have always wanted a baby but now i think i would rather wait and do it properly babe, and when you turn 18 or 21 whatever age is legal where you live dont you wanna be out partying with your friends instead of being the one thats sitting at home with child. just think about it girl is this what you really want!!! email me if you want!!!
also i have a good job and so does my boyfreind so we can afford it hun
2007-03-20 13:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just a little older than you, but believe me, you don't know that you want a family yet. Try baby sitting. Like me, you won't want kids. How do you know that your boy friend will make enough money for you and a family right after high school? He won't if he doesn't leave. Having a family is a great goal, even if I don't want to ;) Wait until he is out of high school, has a job, or goes to college, and finish your life. You either have 2 or three more years to go. Look, we are already 3 months into 2007. Wanting to get away from the family is what I want to do also, but I'm hanging in. Life doesn't always turn out like the Gilmore Girls.
2007-03-20 12:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by ARMY Babe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to let u no now that that u should what to have a child or children because my cousin is the same age as u and she is struggling as hell try to take care or here 9 month old son. Here mother don't have that much money to take care of here grandson, 15 year old daughter,12 year old daughter, pay the rent and any other bills including me and here 19 old daughter that live with here. Finish school get ur educating first and think about children when u can support ur self finally first. If u don't have ur parents support who is going to support u and ur child I would hate for u to be living on the street and if u can support ur self and the child DCFS going to take ur child. The younger u are when u are going out with a old boy or man they will have a more avenge over u. I shugge that u go out with someone around ur age like 14-16 of age. I don't now if u now that some boy or men will leave u because of a child that they want ready to take on responsible for taking care a child. In the United States over 22 million children go home to one parent,83 percent of those parents are moms. Half of all single moms receive no child support. Half of all children involved do not see thier fathers on aregular basis two years after the breakup of the family. Seventy percent of single-parent mothers live in prverty (less than 13,000 annually). There are currently 9.8 million mothers in the single-parent role. I have to go rigt now because school out now. talk to u later gurl.
2007-03-21 09:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Love18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're NOT ready to have a child or even take care of it. Do u like staying up all night or sleeping in the next morning do u like going out with you're boyfriend and friends and having a good time? Well when the little baby comes along you're going to have to give up A LOT of stuff , and you dont have a choice because its you're child not anyone elses, But you're boyfriend. Do u have a job or does you're boyfriend? Are you planning on getting on WIC, bc im on it and it doesnt pay for doctors visits or diapers or clothes. You need to think about what you're doing to you're self and to you're family, having a baby now isnt right. I didnt get to be a teen im about to turn 20 in August and i miss that i didnt get to be a teen but im also glad because i dont know what i would be without my little girl, but im telling you its going to be HARD to raise a child at a young age i should know! Think before you act!!!
2007-03-20 13:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid of what your family would say, I would certainly suggest you wait until you have finished school.
You should also be able to answer yes to all these questions:
1. Am I ready to give up all my friends, prom, movies, parties, etc. because you can't afford a baby sitter (mom's don't count)
2. Do you have medical insurance to cover per-natal, care, all all the medical care a baby requires, all the way through the child's 18th birthday?
3. Do you have your own place of residence that you are paying for or do you live at home?
4. Do you have a job that will pay for clothes, food, diapers, braces, car seat, etc. Babies grow very fast and aren't babies forever and keeping them in clothes that fit and shoes isn't cheap, just look at how much your clothes cost.
2007-03-20 12:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were to get pregnant by your 18 yr old BF your parents can have him arrested for statutory rape and ruin his life and yours.. so if I were you I would wait til you are at least 18 and able to move out on your own and take care of the baby. That way your parents can not interfere with your decisions, it may upset them then even.. but you are considered legal age and responsible for your own actions. So live your life now and have fun in the process.. you are so young and have plenty of time to plan a future for a baby. Good luck and hope that you can make the right decisions now.
2007-03-20 13:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL YOU ARE IRRATIONALLY THINKING!...i am 18yrs old do you have any idea how many phases you are going to go through in the next few years a ton. I would say i am mature for my age but i know that because i'm am aware that i can not take care of a baby right now, atleast not to my best ability . Dont you want to give your child a good life. No offense but you are still a baby young and very dumb. older guys will play you like a dummie then your going to be stuck with a baby crying in the backseat and he's going to be in the streets with women who are not pregnant!! i know this because i was there...i was pregnant at one point when i was 17..but had a miscariage that was a sign to me i wasnt ready. Alot of my freinds have babies and you do not want one they wish they would have waited and half their babydaddys are not around. waKE UPand enjoy being a kid i wish i wouldent have grown up so fast trust me......
2007-03-20 13:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want a baby now but it is really not a good time at 15. I know that you are probably not hoping to hear discouragement but you really should wait. You will feel much different as you get older and you still have school to think about. Do you make enough to support yourself? How will you support a kid? Believe me, just wait and you will be glad you did. I am 22 and I am going to have a baby in 6 months and I know that I am not entirely ready either.
2007-03-20 12:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're only 15 years old. You're not even out of school. Kids shouldnt be having kids! Just because you're physically mature enough to have a child doesnt mean you should be doing it. If your parents dont give their consent to you having a child then its illegal and you could put you boyfriend in jail. Not to mention you and your boyfriend are very young and probably will not be together forever. You both will still mature and possibly not have the same feelings for each other and then you will put your child through having seperate parents.
You need to wait.
2007-03-20 13:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a 15 yr old young woman....we are very close but we weren't always like that....I don't know what your relationship is with your parents but you sound like you aren't getting the right kind of attention and somewhere deep down inside perhaps you think having your own child will in some way fill the void that they have left in your heart....i had my children young and trust me it won't ...it will only compound your problems .... it would break my heart to see my daughter make the same mistakes i made....don't get me wrong children are never "mistakes" but having one before you are prepared to be the best mother you can be is..and it is so unfair to the baby as well....you don't want to see your baby do without things she/he will want and need....get a good education and build a solid foundation for you and your family that will stand solid for the rest of your lives ....don't let the hurt in you, lead you to make poor choices.. you can overcome this ...one day at a time....one decision at a time....everything you are doing now ...is the beginning of the rest of your life...what are you doing to prepare?
2007-03-20 13:01:32 · answer #11 · answered by backwoodscountrywoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋