How to show my family that I'm grown and I can take responsibilies?
I know it's hard to do that if I don't have a job. I go to school full time.
2007-03-20 12:33:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Independence. If you can support yourself with NO help from ANYONE, then you can consider yourself a grown woman. It's hard out there - good luck!
2007-03-20 12:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Work on getting a part-time job if your school schedule will allow it. Learn how to be broke but find your own way to earn some money without relying on your parents.
Do anything and everything you possibly can around the house WITHOUT BEING ASKED. That is huge to me as a parent to a daughter that thinks she is a grown woman but hasn't got a clue.
OK, enough of this. You may be an adult, chronologically but if you are living in your parents house without a job while you go to school full-time you ARE NOT A GROWN WOMAN. You are a young lady that is lucky enough to have the support of her family while she is getting ready to make it on her own.
Don't be in such a rush, your time will come and then you will wish for today. Being "grown" is really hard sometimes. I promise that it is not all that you think it is, you will even still have people telling you what to do.
I was emancipated --- petitioned the court when I found out I was pregnant. I was technically a grown woman so to speak but what I really was a kid on her own finding a way to make it.
I hope I have not offended you as that was not my intent.
2007-03-20 12:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by jerzybuckeye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughters--21 and 22 are grown women.
They both go to University and work full time. One is a Montessori teacher and one is a waitress in an upscale bar.
They decide what to spend, what to put in their bodies, and where and when they will do things.They pay their own bills and still live at home.
I am so proud of them. We have struggled with the whole
dependent/independent thing, but overall they rock.
I cannot expect them to be the same as I was at 21--
I had a child, a home and was co-mgr.(w/ my then husband) of a motel in Alaska. That's a lot of responsibility for someone only 21 years old, but it's no more or less than my daughters have.
Keep your commitments, keep your word, take care of your health and this will show more than anything what an adult woman you are.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 12:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Croa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't rely on my anyone else for my existence. I make my own decisions without too much (or any) "What do you think I should do?" type questions. I take full responsibility for my actions; if I make a mistake, I deal with it.
I appreciate the input my parents have and recognize their wisdom. I am friends with my parents and put aside differences with siblings in an effort to be supportive.
I know that I'll never stop learning and that maturity isn't something that comes with age or living alone.
2007-03-20 12:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think doing well in school is a great way -- some parents don't want thier kids to go to school and work at the same time. But getting a part time job to earn some extra cash isn't a bad idea.
But in my opinion just do well in all your tasks, be responsible with yourself and what you do. Respect others.
2007-03-20 14:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. Get a job, get an apartment, get a life & start taking care of yourself. When I was in college, I worked 2-3 part time jobs & still carried full credits.
2007-03-20 12:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about proving that you can accept their demands of you - ie be home by your curfew, do the chores you are assigned, then after a few months, sit down and lay it on the table - i've done this, i've agreed to that so how about trusting me with ______?
sometimes parents need to see that they can trust you.
depends on the responsibilities you are refering to, as well.
if money is an issue, try for a part time job to start with. then you won't be so dependent on your family and you can make some of your own decisions. take small steps, unless you are itching to move out of home!
2007-03-20 12:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by cakefork 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more responsibile and do the things that your responsible now well, be patient, be smart, care for other members of your family, help with whatever you can.
2007-03-20 13:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are supporting you to go to school you'll just have to wait till you are no longer dependent on their aid. Until then you will have to hand it over to them.
2007-03-20 12:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Pen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋