child support question?

Question

i was at work today and we were talking about child support.. one of the men i work with said that even though he was not married to the mother that he would have to pay her child support if the child went to college.. to me that dont seem right.. if he must pay after they reach 18 and go to college should'nt he be giving the money to the child instead of the ex.. and i always thought that once they reach 18 and was out of high school that the non custodail parent did not have to pay any more..now for all you basher out there.. i have custody of my daughter and my ex pays me.. but it did seem a bit unfair .. for the people who could not afford to do this.. i know my ex would help out so i am lucky .. but not every one has this kind of resorses

roylain.. but married couples do not have to pay for college.. why do you feel that divorce or couple that never married has to pay for college.. most of them can not even send there self to college.. and college is diff than child support.. they are adults when they go to college

i see what most of you are saying about if your not ready to send them to school why have them.. but what about the parents who stay together.. we fit the bill for that.. or grants or scholarships do.. why is that so different.. compared to people who split.. married or not

i agree with you sinn .. most of my 401 k will more than likely go to my child for college if not all of it..money well spent..

Answer 1

ok, i'll explain it.. and break it down for ya:

1) well, the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. state and federal government are tired of parents not paying for their children, so they passed stronger laws.

they finally realized that most of the families on welfare (that the state paid for) was because of NON support.

today, the ex owes the welfare back to the state; and they go after then worse then the IRS for their money back. hundreds of millions have been collected for welfare costs and saved the taxpayers.

2) CHILD SUPPORT; you just got lucky with an ex like yours (rare to say the least) and assume that most ex's are willing to help out. not so, or there wouldnt be $106 BILLION dollars child support that is owed. http://supportkids.com/child-support-help/facts

thats right, BILLIONS. its bad out here, and you dont know it.

today, child support is based upon BOTH parents incomes (its law), just look at all of the states calculators, you can see it for yourself. if one parent isnt working, the court calculates an income for them (if skilled,then what they are capable of making-unskilled, then min wage) and adds it in, then take into account medical insurance, daycare, etc. and the amount is determined.

thus, BOTH parents contribute to the support of the child.

3) NOT MARRIED; doesnt matter if they were married or not, thats his child.

4) COLLEGE; you would think he would want what is best for his child... and i can assure you, he is NOT paying for FULL college costs. if he claims to, ask to see the check yourself, and do the math. he pays a portion of the college (just as child support is calculated from BOTH parents incomes, thus both parents contribute to the support of the child.... so is college). and its JUST a percent of what loans/ grants/ scholarships dont cover. he's telling half lies- lying by omission- look'n for pitty.

there are 2 different kinds of parents;
--those who love and take interest in their children.
--those who view their children as a burden.

5) it is the law in most states; child support does not stop at 18 (in NY, its 21), if the child goes to trade school/college, both parents pay for it... and the age is different for each child as to when it ends; 23, 24.

6) the money is sent to the parent, because its called "Child Support" NOT "Child Trust Fund".

if the money was given to the child, it would be spent on posters, CD's, DVD's, junk and fast food, and God knows what else. its for living expenses. we all know a 1 bdroom apt is a lot cheaper then a 2 or 3 bedroom.

some dont realize its BOTH parents contributing to the cost of the childs life; they just would rather pay for a new shiny truck payment then their own child.

7) there is no bashing about it, the facts speak for themselves.

8) "you always thought"... no you didnt... you assumed, and there lies your first mistake.

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
www.goodparentspay.com

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/

ABANDONMENT (NO SHOW PARENTS)
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/

NOT ALL PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
And "RATIONAL LIES"
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/child_custody/article7.asp



LAWS
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
(and background cks to find them)
http://www.usarecordssearch.com/
http://deadbeatsnitch.com/
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://omnitrace.com/Missing-Persons-Search.html?OVRAW=deadbeat&OVKEY=deadbeat&OVMTC=standard
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/
http://www.crimcheck.com/personalreports.htm
http://www.easybackgroundchecks.com/
http://www.abika.com/
http://www.freeprf.com/
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.netsleuth.com/
http://netonlineinvestigators.com/index.asp
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/locate-people.html


FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php
http://judiciary.senate.gov/

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

In most states if a child goes to college then the parent who gives support must continue to support the child until they are at least 21. The reason the money is not given directly to the child is because the custodial parent still must pay tuition, boarding expenses as well as provide allowance and pay for books. Lets face it, most children will spend what ever money they receive on themselves and not think about college expenses. As for it not being fair be honest with yourself in most cased the parent paying support only gives about 10-20% of the child's needs while the majority is paid by the one who is doing the actual raising of the child. If any male or female has a problem with this then they should think about condoms or some other form of birth control before a baby is made.

Answer 3

The state of Massachusetts has taken upon themselves to guarantee ever child of a divorced family the right to go to college whether either parent can pay for it or not and that the non-custodial parent shall continue to pay support until that child is emancipated. You even have to pay past 18 if the child lives at home and doesn't have a job because they are not considered emancipated. Who came up with that inequality...where is the justice in that?

Answer 4

Oh your co worker has a point in most states as long as the child goes to college he is still responsible. even if the parents were never married. In massachusetts the paying parent is responsible for 1/2 the tuition and boarding. if the child lives hiome it is the ordered support and 1/2 the tuition

Answer 5

In most states child support ceases when the child emancipates. This is normally marriage, joining the Armed Forces, being declared emancipated by the court, high school graduation plus being 18 yrs of age or up to age 20 if they don't graduate before then. You can go online and look up your states laws or call your local child support enforcement agency. Some states do order payment for college and the court order should specify how it will be paid and to whom. This is very rare however.

Answer 6

I know for a fact that if the child finishes high school and they continue on going to college that the non custodial parent has to keep paying until the child is finished with school.

Answer 7

Child support is usually paid til 22 as long as the child is in college and living home. Courts dont care much about financial hardships just as long as the support gets paid. This is why its so tough nowdays and so many people complain about it.

Answer 8

they pay up until the child turns 18 AND completes his/her last year of highschool. So if the child turned 18 in October of their senior year the parent has to pay for that entire school year. I've never heard of having to pay after highschool.

Answer 9

If the child goes to college after school. The parent paying the child support can have the checks switched to the child's name. I think it is sad parents are forced to pay for a18 yr old adult college ed. I paid for my own

Answer 10

It's true. A noncustodial parent will have to continue to pay child support if the child attends college full time.

I don't think it's unfair at all. If people cannot afford to pay child support, then they shouldn't have children.