Let me tell you about my story, I’m 24 and ever since I can remember I been gay but I have not told no one do to the fear of rejection.
I act straight acting all macho but on the inside I feel empty and alone.
I been with women but it does not feel right kissing them doesn’t arouse me I usually imagine kissing a guy and that does not feel wrong at all.
I’m gay and I already admitted to my self that I’m but for some reason I don’t have the courage to tell my family what can I do?
2007-03-20 11:59:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It might be the best way to first disclose your homosexuality to the person in your family that you know will not judge you or react badly.
I hope you're able to tell everyone in your life about it and be accepted without trauma.
Good luck!
You DO know you'll get a lot of negative responses to this, right? People are just very ignorant.
2007-03-20 12:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now that depends on your family and how close you feel towards them. If your family is homophobic and you want to keep a close bond, I would not tell them. There are many young men and women who have been disowned by their families. It is not the best of situations but if you want to still be close with your family you have to keep things quiet.
If your parents are open approach the parent you are closer to. Choose a time and a place where you are comfortable and when you two will be alone. Like most men I know, your mom will probably tell you that she already knew. It won't be easy. I didn't tell my parents, I was made to see the school shrink and he decided he should out me. (Even though I never said anything about being gay) If you want I will call your parents and out you... (J/K!!!)
2007-03-20 19:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by astudsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your parents may already have some suspicion you are gay. Secondly, don't automatically conclude they will have a problem with it. They may surprise you.
Do you visit them often? What about renting a movie like "Latter Days", and after the movie, they should be very receptive to your announcement.
There are many famous gay people. Many of the most respected and admired philophers in ancient Greece were gay. So was Alexander the Great. Closer to home, Dick Cheney's daughter and Cher's daughter are all gay. Ricky Martin hasn't publicly announced it, but......
I have a friend in L.A. who knows the whole Hollywood scene, so he knows who is secretly gay. I would never be so indiscreet as to name names, but you would be shocked at how many HUGE Hollywood stars are gay.
Watch the movie, and see for yourself if it isn't the best way to put your parents in the right frame of mind.
By the way, don't be shocked if your mom already knows. Mothers always know.
2007-03-20 19:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will tell them hen you are ready, or they will find out. If you tell them at least you have control over when where and how they will find out.
One thing I would do first is start living your life the way you want to. It sounds like you are not only not telling anyone but you are acting the life that is expected of you. First thing you need to do is go out and be with a guy, be 100% comfortable with who you are then you will be ready to tell them.
2007-03-20 19:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lucas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be calm and just admit it to them. I don't know your family but if they flip out, just ask for their support. You can guilt them into these things sometimes. Like saying "IF YOU EVER LOVED ME, YOU WOULD SUPPORT ME." That might be a tad bit dramatic, but you get the idea.
And ignore all contradictory homophobic assholes that don't understand humanity. They're not worth it.
2007-03-20 19:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't.
After you been single for 50+ years, they'll catch the hint.
Why do we all feel that we have to confess everything??? Why submit them to the pain of this new discovery? Move to a new town, find a beau, move in together, stay together forever. People aren't stupid. They'll catch on.
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2007-03-20 19:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just try. i have a homophobic family and my aunt still had the courage to come out with it. don't hide, just tell them, and face the music. you'll feel better when you've admitted it.
2007-03-20 19:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mon Ray 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you like having friends dont tell nobody. Just stick with the cooch and stop thinking of sausages.
2007-03-21 00:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by need help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn assuming your family won't take it easily you'll have to explain how like everyone else your human and your not messed up in the head its just who you are and they should understand.
2007-03-20 19:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by vloon p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would first ignore the rude comments made by homophobes and tell them that you are gay and also tell them honestly how you feel about being gay.
2007-03-20 19:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋