ok long story short, i married the love of my life 17mo ago, only problem is we've been seperated a yr, i can't bring myself to file for divorce, he hasen't either, but i can't let go i love him way too much, to let myself give up hope that it's really done over and thats it. i know he's around somewhere should i try to find him and c if hes willing to work on things or just let it go.
2007-03-20 11:58:04 · 16 answers · asked by D lux 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find him and tell him how you feel. If he's not inclined to work on it, close this chapter of your life and move onto healthier relationships.
2007-03-20 13:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I just spent the year like this. We are now 2 weeks from a divorce being final and you know what, we should be together. But, now pride and anger have entered the equation and we may never be together again. We waited to long.
If you want to be with him tell him. BUT be sure the issues that led to the speration or on the table and can be remediated before you go back together or you will end up apart again.
2007-03-20 12:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have spent a year waiting on someone and you're still trying to figure out if you should let it go, or try to work it out? Lady, he's nowhere to be seen! If he missed you or cared, he'd been on your front doorstep by now! Love yourself as much as you love him! Just think what you could have been doing for this past year instead of pining away over this careless jerk! Don't go searching him out! Find yourself a real man, that you don't HAVE to chase down!
2007-03-20 12:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with me well almost. I been marry in May, 07 will be 4yrs and we only spent 1anniversary together. And that's a will shame. Where separated and he was living with other women. But this hole time he was trying to come back and I wouldn't let him but now am involved with someone. He called me yesterday to say he was leaving her and he don't love her and he loves me and whats to come home. It's really a long story too. We haven't divorced and I don't want too and either doe's he. We love each other even though am involved with someone else now. I regret it now. But my life had to go on too. And now I feel in the middle. The man am with now really loves me a lot and my husband I know he loves me too. The thing I regret is I allowed it to go to far and now I don't know what am doing.Today after work am going to meet my husband to talk, but in the mean time I have the man I been involved with waiting for me and he things after work am going to the store. My point to you is, go get your husband before you get involved with someone else and don't know how to get out, like me or your husband getting involved with someone else. And if you wait to late in time passing it could be to late for you and your husband and you don't want it to come to that.So go find him and tell him how much you love him and you want to work it out. But girlfriend do the smart thing educate yourself on relationship Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has some real good books out and she has her own talk radio show about relationship/family on 640am Mon-Fri 12noon-3pm ca southern ca time.
2007-03-20 12:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To protect yourself I would suggest filing for separation. That way if he runs into some type of trouble, you won't be held liable.
I was in the same situation and I filed for separation because my husband was buying all sorts of things and can't afford to pay for them. Even if you aren't living together you are just as responsible for his actions as he is.
2007-03-20 12:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by jbarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is not going steady. You owe it to yourself, your husband and your marriage to give it another try. Work on your marriage until it is clear it is gone completely. That's one of the major problems with the world today everyone is willing to give up so quickly. Try marriage counseling if he agrees to it.
2007-03-20 12:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definalty not give up.. especially if you love him like you say you do. I dont know the details of your separation but its definalty worth a try.. and couldnt hurt anything!
2007-03-20 12:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by scrubbybubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-20 12:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find him! You'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't find him and see if he wants to work it out. Nothing ventured nothing gained. You don't want to spend the rest of your life asking yourself "what if I had only tried?"
2007-03-20 12:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find him but if he hasn't tried to contact you yet, then maybe he is not interested in a relationship with you anymore.
2007-03-20 12:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋