Hi!
One of my best friend gonna have a baby in 1 month.
Since she know she was pregnant she became to be very very afraid about not be able to give food to her children.
We live far from each other. She just call me hour ago telling she is in a Psychiatric Hospital for Nervous Depression.
I'm not sure but she seem to try to suicide.
It's the first on 6 years that I know her that she is so hurt and stressed. She is not herself.
She doens't really want to be anymore with his boyfriend.
Last time we saw she was in the same situation (but not in major depression.)
My questions is did you already know or live a situation like that? I heard some woman pass sometime by a major depression before giving bitrh.
The most guilty of her depression is the money...She don't really have money. We live both in Canada where the gourvenment give help for those girl-mother.
I'm just worried about her. What do you think?
2007-03-20 11:54:53 · 10 answers · asked by lollol 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i was 19 and pregnant, in college and very depressed. I didnt know how i was going to do it. But I recieved gov't assistance while in school, it was hard but I prayed and I got through it. Stick by your friend she needs all the support she can get. If it werent for my friends I dont know how I couldve done it alone. I know she can do it, just have faith. Dont leave your friends side, encourage her and stick by her. OK I hope it works out for her okay.
2007-03-20 12:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is completely normal for a woman to become depressed during pregnancy. Hormones can cause more damage than you may think, and when a woman becomes pregnant, her hormones go for a roller coster ride. If she was already experiencing depression before her pregnancy then it's even more likely that she would be experiencing some sort of pregnancy depression now. Especially being in a situation where you feel that you will not be able to provide for you child. Just let her know that there are people that can help her. If she is a single mother she can be approved for WIC, and Food Stamps. That takes care of food right there. And there are lots of places that will provide a home for her and her baby until she can secure a job and get on her feet. I know exactly how she feels, i went through the same thing. I lost my job because i was too sick from the pregnancy to work, my fiancee didn't have a job, and we couldn't afford to eat much ourselves. I talked crazy stuff and thought crazy thoughts. I was actually gonna give my baby up for adoption because i felt that my child would resent me for not being able to provide her with what she needed. But i realized that there is way too much help out there for mothers who need it. Just tell her this should be the happiest time of her life, and not to be getting too stressed out, everything she feels the baby can feel to. Also making sure that she knows you are there for her, anytime she needs to talk to someone, or whatever the case may be, because pregnant women tend to feel alone, and sometimes need to be reminded that there are people who care, and wanna help out. I hope everything works out for her. I felt obligated to answer this because it reminded me so much of my situation.
2007-03-20 19:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by PrettyOnTheInside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is at the first step, getting medical help.
Pregnancy for each female is so different. Some are very depressing when other pregnancies are so uplifting. This can be with each pregnancy a female has.
Emotionally she knows she has a tough road in front of her. Raising a child is very hard for even the most stable people. Fears for your child are around every corner at every age level.
Let your friend know how concerned you are for her. Don't turn your back on her. Keep in touch for she needs good friends and she has already turned to you in her time of need. Which goes to show you are on her mind too.
Keep her in your prayers that all will be fine for her.
2007-03-20 19:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by rose s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have heard, this whole depression state is very commom within younger expecting mothers. It is in the best interest for her and the baby that she stays as calm as possibile. Just try to get her to relax, and let her know that if she needs help financially, you are there to help her, as well as her family. Remind her how any people really do care about her, and that she is not in this alone. Tell her is she ever needs anybody to talk to, that she can call you day or night, no matter if it's 5 in the morning, or 5 in the afternoon. Let her know that you are there for her when she needs you. Just try your best to calm her down. Good luck to you both, best wishes, and take care!
2007-03-20 19:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find some information about adoption for your friend to look at. If she loves her baby she will want the best for him/her. And the people she gives her baby to dont have to be strange weirdos. She can get to know them and even see her baby when she wants to. Giving your baby a better life is the best kind of love she could ever give it.
Plus if she is suicidal and really depressed the government might not see her fit to be a mother and take her child away and then she might not have a choice who her baby geos to.
Adoption sounds like the best answer for her.
2007-03-20 19:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by LilBoysMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The female body does go through a lot of changes when you are pregnant. I had a loving husband and a fairly stable life but I felt sad a lot and it bothered me. I never got up the nerve to talk to a doctor so it is good that she is at least in a hospital getting help. There are always tons of people out there looking to adopt a baby so there is always that option for her.
2007-03-20 19:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to stress, everything will work out, of course being a girl, she's not gonna listen, we never do :) Just be there for her as much as you can. It's always good to have a friend who's there for you, even if she doesn't realize it right now.
2007-03-20 20:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Hayden's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you talk with her, please tell her to relax. Not good for the baby when she is so stressed. She will do fine. There may be some rough spots ahead, but she will get thru them, she will be okay. She may need counseling, parenting classes, etc. to help her thru this, but she will do okay. Take care.
2007-03-20 18:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not good at all to stress at this time. why doesnt she wana see her boyfriend?how she doesnt have money?any family?someone to look after her?best thing, report to an authority responsible that can look after her and de baby, u hav 2 do this asap, their life is in danger.
2007-03-20 19:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, your friend shouldn't have gotten pregnant so fast. Try your best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 19:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by jsg1435 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋