I'm an 18 y/o senior in high school. I have a 2.8 gpa & I'm going to college in 5 months. I work at a tax office as a receptionist during tax season. I still live at home. My curfews are: weekdays 8:30 & weekends 11:00-12:00. Many of my friends have much later curfews, if they have any at all. Last night I came home at 10:00, and was yelled at. I had told my parents, before I left, that I was at a friends house getting help on a paper due the next day in english. I, for one, don't believe 10:00 is late reguardless of where I was, but especially not because I was getting help with schoolwork. During tax season, I work until 9:30 some nights, and don't get home until 10:00. I don't understand what the difference is. My parents are making me mad & I want to move out. I have a level head and know that it isn't whats best for me, but come on these curfews suck. It's making me want to rebel and go out and party all the time to get back at them. What should I do? &, what should my curfews be?
2007-03-20 11:52:21 · 16 answers · asked by Robert B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe I didn't make it clear, but i did tell them I was going to be late BEFORE I left. I also talked to them at 9 and told them i was finishing up and about to leave. It takes me a good half an hour to get home. Also, I'm going to be living at home during college, so it's not like going to college will set me free.
2007-03-20 12:18:11 · update #1
I agree that your curfew is appalling. But your parents must be doing something right if you're doing this well. I sugguest you talk to them about it. Tell them how you feel and let them know where you'll be and phone numbers to reach you and tell them you're 18! You need to discuss with them that you care about them and their rules and boundries but now that you're older they need reform.
2007-03-20 13:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school I always had to be home by 8 or 9 on a "school night" UNLESS I had to work. but those days were very rare. My parents were pretty cool about letting me stay out later if I had a study group. I just made sure to call them BEFORE I missed my curfew to ask if I could stay out later to finish studying. Try this approach. Most of the time parents get mad when their child breaks curfew because they are afraid something happened to you. Keep the communication open.
As far as weekends go, I don't think I was EVER allowed to stay out past midnight. So that sounds about right to me!
As far as rebelling and partying all the time...that won't really "get back" at your parents...that will just hurt your chances of having a successful future!
2007-03-20 12:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My curfew for college nights is like, 6:00. Friday nights and weekends are like 10:30 - 11. except i'm having a sleepover. Than i'm in certainty allowed out for even although long i want. i think of seven:30 or 8:00 is advantageous for a school night. I hate my curfew for college nights, yet i can deal. Weekends might desire to be regarding a similar time as me or longer based with who, and what you're doing too i assume! merely my own opinion, (:
2016-11-27 01:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Week Days: 10:30
Weekends:12:00- 1:00
2007-03-20 12:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Princessofpie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for your working hard. But you should have called your parents knowing that you were going to be late. They have these curfews for a reason, and they are right. These other friends of yours probably get into trouble. They are just setting up boundaries for you. Once you go to college and move out you can be your own man, but until then you have to abide by your parents rules.
You are doing good and your parents are doing good. I know it doesn't seem so now, but trust me, they know what they are doing.
2007-03-20 11:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well until you are completely independent from your parents which would include you:
paying for all of your food, clothes and rent
being able to provide your own living situation etc...
you have to play by their rules.
maybe if you get your grades up a bit they might loosen up on you, they want what is best for you and you know that! And with a 2.8 you are still in the needing to study more range.
work with them and see if you can have a situational compromise: explain what you want to do, exactly when you want to be home, and where you will be: then ask them to trust you, and when you say you are going to be home by 10:45 or whatever, DO NOT BE LATE!
A parents trust once lost is a pain in the a$$ to regain!
Good luck!
2007-03-20 11:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by AdventuresWithBaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand where you are coming from because I also had strict parents. I sat them down and explained how I felt to them. I was a good child and I did good in school and I felt that I should be given a little freedom and trust. It took time but little by little they got better. My advice would be not to move out since you are going to college in five months but talk to them and let them know how you feel. I hope this helps.
2007-03-20 12:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mz. Keisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it comes down to is that you are living at home with your parents. You have to abide by their rules until you move out on your own. I'm sorry kid, but that is life. Some parents are more strict than others. But, all parents have good intentions and aren't trying to sabotage your fun. You will just have to learn from this when you have children in the far future.
2007-03-20 12:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Rae M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think 8.30 is ridiculous for your age. I'm 15 and my curfew is 11pm and i go out all the time. I think yours should be 12:00 on weekdays and 2:00 on weekends.
2007-03-20 12:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The answer to this is simple.....what ever time your parents have set. You are residing in there home, simple. You have to live by their rules. You might think it is unfair...but they are the ones who provide shelter and all the other amenities you enjoy. Since you are 18 and planning to attend college maybe it is time you have thought about getting your own place. You are an adult. You are old enough to vote. Maybe it is time you experience independence.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 12:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋