Ok this is a serious question, and I seriously need any help I can get so thats why I'm asking. I've been with this girl lately, in kind of a 'friends with benefits' type of situation. Only when I sleep with her I seem to be hurting her, ('down there'). I mean I am quite a bit taller than her, and above average in the size department. But not like ginormous or anything. And I've never had this problem before, and with past women I get good compliments. But she told me that she's been with much smaller guys before me- so I don't know. But this is a problem that doesn't seem to be going away. Even with lube, different positions, etc. Does it sometimes just take a long time for women to, um, 'adjust'? Or could there be something medically wrong with her?
2007-03-20 11:50:18 · 7 answers · asked by CH 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thanks for the feedback! She really is very insistant that arousal is not the problem (and not to sound vain but I think I'm ok at that part). And I have taken things at the pace that she feels comfortable with. I'll talk to her about the gynecologist thing. But assuming its not medical.... how much does elasticity compare to women just being built smaller (or larger)?
2007-03-20 13:06:24 · update #1
tell her "no offense, but i feel very bad about this, you should go to a doctor to see what's going on, i wanna be with you and i don't wanna hurt you" also offer to go with her to the appointment, show her that you care, maybe her walls are not as elastic and she needs a time to get used to it, offer help, that always makes the chick feel better...
2007-03-20 12:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by paulipauli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be taking a long time to adjust. I've been with my fiance for over 3 years and it still hurts me sometimes. Try using a lube and be sure to provide lots of forplay before you start... the vagina expands as the woman gets turned on so even with lube, if she's not turned on, sex will hurt. Another possibility could be that she's uncomfortable with the situation. whether she's nervous or what. that kind of stress can really make someone tense up. maybe you guys should spend so time doing other 'friend' things.... movies are fun... order pizza and rent some flicks, and leave sex out for awhile.
2007-03-20 11:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by kerri c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just to big for her. There really isn't an 'adjusting' period. The vagina is actually only 4 inches deep, but is able to stretch quite a bit. She may just be real tiny. She can make an appointment with the Gynecologist just to make sure everything is fine with her. Are you also going slow for her?
2007-03-20 11:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that your "size" scares her and she's not able to get fully aroused or you don't give her enough time to get aroused which could be another reason for the pain or it could be medical, She'd have to see her gynecologist regarding that though.
2007-03-20 11:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by whtecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have fibroids, she needs a gyn check up asap
2007-03-20 12:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get her gyno to check her for endometriosis.
2007-03-20 12:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
i have had this problem before and i "adjusted" after a while:)
good luck
2007-03-20 11:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by cupcake72885 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋