I already told her it was negative then, and I haven't been with any other people since she and I first started dating. I am concerned that she has major trust issues. And when I ask her if she trusts me she says yes, but wants to go back to the clinic to make sure it was negative. I feel like I'm going crazy and losing sight of myself. I know I haven't been at risk. We've never had issues regarding infidelity. Her parents certainly have ... and now I am dealing with her baggage. This all started because I mysteriously got a sore throat. I told her I would go to the clinic and prove once more that I do not have HIV. Am I losing my mind????
2007-03-20 11:46:55 · 19 answers · asked by questionmarc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds like the relationship is in horrible shape. Does she have reason to distrust you? If so, then just go take the test again. But, if you've never given her reason to doubt, I'd call her out on the trust issues and try to work it out. If she can't trust you and you've never done anything to cause that, then she doesn't really love you.
2007-03-20 11:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to be smart about her body! You can't blame her for wanting a HIV test. You both should take one together. Although you have been faithful, it is always better safe than sorry.
She might have trust issues, but you should still go and take the test, and have her take one too. If she still has the trust issues after you do this for her, then you need to reevaluate your relationship.
2007-03-20 11:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by asya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be dang proud that I had a girlfriend who cared so much about her health and safety. HIV tests can be negative if you had it right after the last time you were intimate because it takes your body time to build the antibody they test for. I would, if I were you, proudly go to the clinic with my girlfriend and thank her the whole way. Just make sure she gets tested also.
2007-03-20 11:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by shellybellycocoapuff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no way man, but I do hear from where your gf is coming from, she just probably wants to hear it from the doctors mouth. Let her, its not like its the end of the world but if you really care about her enough for her to have the piece of mind that she isn't carrying that nasty STD. Then so be it. Just do it on a day that you both have off and you guys can do something afterwards, don't make it into a big deal is what I'm trying to say.
2007-03-20 11:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get another test?...She's probably thinking that she is in it with you for the long haul and she wants to be wise about not making any assumptions about your HIV status. It's smart of her. You should ask for her to get one also. That way you both can feel secure in the knowledge that you are entering into a long-term (maybe someday permanent) relationship with a clean slate. When my husband and I started dating and saw that we were going to have a sexual relationship we both went and got tested for everything so that the other one wouldn't have to worry. It just eliminates worries.
2007-03-20 12:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
April was 11 months ago! You should go again, what do you have to lose? And you should both be tested. You seem to be putting the stress on her, by not cooperating, and yet you make it sound the other way around! This is the modern world, you owe that to each other.
2007-03-20 11:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not losing your mind. Please, go to the clinic, and if they have the records from when you had the test done, see if you can get a copy of the test results. Or, you may have to take the test over again. Take care.
2007-03-20 11:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it and dont think anything more about it.
If it makes her feel better, then dont ask why or question it. She has the right to protect herself. She apparently has an issue that needs to be dealt with. So, if its a problem, get rid of it. Simple.
Good luck to u and stay safe!
2007-03-20 11:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does one negative test prove? You can have negative HIV tests for up to 15 years. I get tested every year just to be on the safe side myself...One test proves nothing.
2007-03-20 11:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
youre not losing your mind...she is.
if you want to work things out with her then show her the test and start from there.
maybe by showing her how ridiculous this is you can get her to start realizing she has this baggage. And you are right....if her parents have fidelity problems it can seriously be affecting her view of relationships!
2007-03-20 11:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋