I can't stand my dad most the time and the only time I fell right around him is when hes happy with me. BUT that RARELY happens. He says I'm gonna fail at life and work at mcdonalds and be broke all my life. ect. What should I do?
2007-03-20 11:42:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all Mcdonalds is not the worst job in the world. I know many Managers from mcdonalds and they all earn an honest living. So there is nothing wrong with working there. Second Failing at life is not possible. If you have God. He will make sure everything works out. Deal with your dad and then get out when you are old enough. Go work at a fast food joint and in 10 years show him that you are not a failure. You could have a house a brand new car and everything he does not.
It makes me mad when parents tell their kids will fail or they are stuiped. You are neither. May god bless you!:)
2007-03-20 11:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by hascht2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prove him wrong! He really shouldn't say that type of things to you, but sometimes parents do what was done to them. The bad in ignorance but good too.
In a relaxed good time, maybe you could talk to him about the way it makes you feel. Don't do it with an attitude and start the discussion with "I FEEL _____ when you say _____ to me, Dad." If you tell him how you FEEL with the right attitude and body language, it doesn't put an accusing or critical note to it when you address the issue with him and he might take in what you have to say and work on changing how he deals with you.
Teens and parents are rarely happy with their parent/teen issues. Is a tough time of life, but it usually gets better as time goes on. Parents usually do the best they know how to do. Sometimes it's not the best, they do make mistakes but there are no specific blueprints to follow for each child's personality and gender.
2007-03-20 19:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry u have to live with such criticism
stop listening to what he has to say
but whenever he starts talking like that i would stop him and ask him 'is that ur est bet at helping me out?'
be the best man u can be and use his criticism as motivation to prove him wrong.
im sorry to say he is not the best parent so wil have it a bit harder, u have to stand up, think what u really want from life and set out short term and long term goals of how u will get where u want.
hope u would prove ur dad wrong and that u ll be happy with where u gt in life
2007-03-20 18:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lara^mt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is emotionally and mentally abusing you. You deserve to be treated better than that. I sincerely hope that the things he says doesn't make you think badly of yourself, because you are a special person, just because you're you. Write him a letter, espressing your feelings toward him, then when you're alone, read it aloud and burn it. When he starts putting you down, try to think of the opposite of what he's saying.
Just remember...I believe in you.
2007-03-20 20:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive moved out had had kids and my moms the same the best way is the hardest way for you but it works just agree with then let them think there right thats what they want or sit down and have a heart to heart with him tell him it hurts wot he say
but most of all prove him in the long run that he was wrong
in a strange way thats what some people do to make you rethink
2007-03-20 18:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by katie q 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you can't please everyone all of the time. He's your dad..love him, but don't try to please him so much that you start to resent it. Be who you are and if he doesn't accept and love you for that person...Its his own problem.
2007-03-20 18:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ivy Pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋