We are told from birth who we are ,but if you say had a breakdown and and couldnt go back to your old life, basically your life is set back to square one, how would you rebuild it giving you had the pressures of bills etc on you ???
2007-03-20 11:42:16 · 9 answers · asked by ? 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is one i am facing the now but not with bills etc...there not a worry at the moement.
i am sufferin with depression an dhave lost me totally, its very hard rebuilding your life and isnt easy,as you say you are told who you are when younger but as an adult that help aint there,
i know its possible to rebulid it but what if its wrong, all i know is its hard but i am getting there due to my friends they tell me what i was like and they tell me if they think the old me is back in ways so i know whats happening and how to solve part of it.
2007-03-20 23:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know how the being taught about life since a baby has anything to do with a breakdown - But I can tell you now I have had two major breakdowns in my lifetime, and my personality may have evolved but I'm still me. In one of my breakdowns I lost all sense of reality and time, I was crawling on the floor and whaling all the time - why? because I was afraid of everything. Afraid of death, afraid of life. I was seriously traumatised.
Things change, you don't rebuild, you just climb way above your old structure, evolve and reach a different goal. Now I have got through these, even though I still struggle - I know I can cope with anything that's thrown at me, even if I need advice from time to time.
2007-03-20 20:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read in a book a long time ago and it taught me that, who and what we are, from the time we are born, until the time we realize otherwise, is decided for us by everyone ELSE in our immediate life... But us.
Friends, family classmates, parents, peers... Basically, as a child we all learn by mimic and by aping every experience and therefore every opinion we have, actually belongs to everyone but you.
In the moment you realize this... You can begin to live your life for yourself... Less the influence of anyone else's opinion. And learn to thrive and heal and correct your mistakes. Through accountability and responsability for YOUR OWN choices, opinions and actions...
Sometimes it takes time love... Be patient with yourself even when other people are not. Especially bill collectors.
Think of like this... Something inside you stopped, took stock and decided that none of the things you knew to be true, really ever belonged to you, because they were not yours. They belonged to everyone else and you adopted them.
Things like Religion, Fashon sense, sexual preference, life choices... Whatever?
How many of are stuck in a life that we didn't wholeheartedly create all on our own? and how many of create what they call "brakedowns" in order to take stock in ourselves and give ourselves the distance we need from all of it in order for it to actually work?
You went about it the long way... Painfull, confusing and tragic even? It happens to everyone eventually... SOme people just have it come naturally, for some it is a shock.
It is a right of passage to allow yourself to take a breath, stop and decide for yourself where you begin and where everyone else ends.
I just watched a fantastic movie called "A price above Rubies." I suggest you watch it... It has both Rene Zelwegger and Juliana Margalies (spelling) in it.
Sometimes... mental brakedowns mimic and look a lot like insanity to those looking in from the outside. But most of the time it is the falling away of all the things that sometimes must do just that, fall away... no matter how painfull, frightening and shocking it is... In order to get to the heart of what is truely there in every man's heart. Himself...
Take special note of the ruby in the ring at the end... It was a precious movie... and very well written and performed.
You however... may hate it. Watch and decide for yourself! *Smiles
Good luck to you!
Peace darling... You will be in my prayers.
2007-03-20 19:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is purely impossible to know! It's good food for thought tho. Lukily I'm happy enough with my set up so I won't worry too much!
2007-03-20 20:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Happening_babe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont have a choice you accept the person you have become
you then take one day at a time its a long slog but i think at the end you emerge a better person
what doesnt kill us makes us stronger
2007-03-20 18:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can choose .....go for your dreams. Be who you really want to be, who you are meant to be.....value yourself and believe in yourself. Don't pretend - be real.
We are who we become by just naturally being.
If you do what interests you and follow your instincts, eventually you will know who you are by knowing what you do and by knowing your self.
2007-03-20 19:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing this...
close your eyes and DO NOT THINK ABOUT ANYTHING.cut yourself from the outside world. no music, tv, anything.
its difficult but it can be achived. it you do this for 10 minites everyday you should realises who you are..
2007-03-20 18:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by bidia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when someone finds Adom & Eav, then and only then will we ever find out the true answer.
2007-03-20 18:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by echochat40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would be vey difficult, yes?!
2007-03-20 21:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋