My better half's family does not like the fact that we are in a lesbian relationship. They like me but said that "we should be friends". My better half has chosen me but it still makes me sad that her mom and her don't talk anymore. They used to talk everyday.
2007-03-20 11:38:18 · 12 answers · asked by Smiles 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Choosing a life partner is something that has to be done by the individual involved. Yes, it would be nice if all parents 'approved' of all partners, but that doesn't happen. Not in gay relationships. Not in lesbian relationships. Not in straight relationships.
The bottom line is, you and your partner are the ones making your lives together. Your parents, and your partner's parents, made their choices long ago. Now it's your turn to make a choice. It's sad if they don't like that choice, but by refusing to speak to their child, they are cutting themselves off from the pleasure of watching a child grow, mature, and find their place in life. In the long run, they hurt themselves more than they hurt anyone else, for what is, to be brutally honest, selfish behavior.
2007-03-20 11:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am sorry to hear that. it is very difficult when families come between those that love but it happens in hetero families too. Unfortunately with us, the opposing families can come in at inopportune times (serious illnesses, deaths etc...) and and make huge nuisances of themselves (ask Madame Rose P.) My Monster-in-Law and I speak cordially at best but for years she told Best Beloved that I was only mooching off of her. My Mother, on the other hand has always treated my partner as a part of the family.
All I can tell you is encourage your partner to call her mom at least once a week, try to keep up on the family news but not to allow her to denigrate you or to indulge in a pity party. Maybe they can get back to some sort of usual relationship. All she can do is give it that ol' college try and then if the relationship fails again, your Best Beloved at least will have the sort of comfort of knowing it wasn't from her lack of trying.
May you both have a long and happy relationship. Blessings to you both.
2007-03-20 12:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My partners family feels the same way, only she still speaks with them and is close with them. Don't feel as if YOU are at fault for the situation and your partner is not either. Both of you are who you are and accepting yourself is hard enough, but sometimes family does not agree, and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, but hope they come around. I mean if your partner wasn't with you, she would still be gay right? Life is too short, be happy, make your own family and leave the door open for her family, they may come around.
2007-03-20 11:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did the right thing, because they have to accept you in her life the way that she has and if they can't do that then she did the right thing and it is up to THEM to make the next move which is to accept you as her partner and into the family. Good luck to the both of you.
2007-03-20 12:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont "do" anything. You continue to live your life together as long as BOTH of you are happy. If her family truly loves her unconditionally, they will come around. If they dont....they all need to grow up. And you can just be extremely supportive & sensitive towards your girlfriend, because this will more than likely be an emotional strain on her for awhile.
2007-03-20 11:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely I even have had an adventure like this... yet my kinfolk has never been there for me... specifically while i wanted them the main as quickly as I went with the aid of a tragic twist of fate a pair years lower back. My kinfolk needs me to do what they desire no longer what i thinlk is maximum suitable for me. i might definetly % my significant different because of the fact he replace into there while no person else replace into... kinfolk will consistently be there and in the event that they surely DO love you, they gets over the certainty of who your with, yet while its ur bf wanting u to %, hes no longer lots of a boyfriend... he ought to care approximately what's sweet for you as nicely.
2016-10-19 04:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep striving on. Sometimes, families will come around and accept homosexual relationships, but sometimes they never do.
I'd just keep at it. Send them cards and presents for Christmas and birthdays. Let them know you're still there, still loving them, and still willing to fix things.
2007-03-20 11:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bishop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kind of stuff makes me really sad. Love your partner, the choice was hers. Feel special, she thinks you are.
XXOO
2007-03-20 11:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some do that in an effort at "controlling" the adult child.
If they really love her, they will come around. If not, she didn't really lose anything.
2007-03-20 11:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my practice, those who try to me make choose, lose.
2007-03-20 11:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋