I called my ex a couple nights ago and left a message. I aplogized to him for the way things have ended. We exchanged some hurtful words and he was at fault for alot of why things ended. There was alot of confusion and alot of problems in the end on his part and I had a hard time dealing. Anyhow, I know he has moved on. I only wanted to be friends and he didnt care for it, or so it seemed. We went through alot when we were together and he seems to not even care about me now. But it bothered me on how things ended, even though i'm not a t fualt i am ashamed about how i behaved. And I called him to tell him i am sorry. I know I don't expect a phone call from him. But I hoped he would return my call yet I have not heard anything. I know it takes time to think about things and what happened. do you think I will ever hear from him? I suppose I want that apology as well. What would you think? I told him it I didnt want him back several times when we were fighting, but I wanted to be freind
2007-03-20 11:21:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its been over a month, and now that I can accept that he has moved on, I called him to apologize, it was eating away at me. Thats why I did. He does not seem to want to communicate with me anymore, and I think thats what hurts most.
2007-03-20 11:35:45 · update #1
So you realized mistakes were made by both of you, you reached out to him, and as expected, he ignored you. He moved on, it's time for you to do the same. You took the proverbial "high road" by laying down your sword and apologizing. That's all you can do. A wise friend once told me that if you can find some good in a bad thing, then it wasn't for nothing. I'd say you did. Accept the fact that you two are history and get on with your life. You can't change the past, but you can create a happier future. Go for it.
2007-03-20 12:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read in relationship books that apologies like that can be overwhelming because it almost never happens. My ex and miy divorce will be final in a few weeks. I sent her a very similiar long apology. Not whinning Just I apologize for... and listed thigs out. I know it stung her. I showed a girl pal of mine the email and she almost cried.
Best thing to do now is just leave him be for a little while. He is probably waiting for you to call again. When you dont I bet he will call you.
And the jaded people say move on. Moving on is healthy in most cases but nobody here knows the entire situation from the little you provided
2007-03-20 18:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first things, first! You wanted for him to know how you felt! and he does now!, just because he hasn't call you doesn't mean he doesn't know. You still have feelings for him and gave yourself some hope that maybe if you apologize to him, he'll come back to you. I think you should do just go on with your life and find a guy that would actually appreciates you. If just about everything was his fault, why do you want him as a friend? You said that he has move on, so why do you still want to talk to him? This is one of the cases that you tried and it didn't work! so just go to the next one! it will be better! because you will be wiser!
2007-03-20 19:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by alma c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is too difficult for him to be 'just friends' and to be around you because he either still has feelings for you or because his ego is bruised and he has too much pride. Maybe what you really want is an apology from him for the faulty things he did that ended your relationship and for him to beg you to go back with him?
Or maybe your ego is bruised because he has 'moved on' and, even though you don't really want him back, it hurts your pride to know that he did move on and let go of you? Only you can do some soul searching and see the truth within yourself. But if I were you I would stop calling him. Give him time to think and time to miss you. If you set a caged bird free and it comes back it is yours...if it doesn't come back then it never was yours.
2007-03-20 18:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that girls always say "Cant we still be friends?" Guys hate that! I am sorry for your position, but I think its time for you to move on. If he has, stop trying for something you know your not going to get. If you don't think its your fault at all, maybe you should start there, cause a relationship takes two. All the blame cant fall on just one.
2007-03-20 18:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My now fiance and I went through this many times. You just need to understand that just being friends is VERY difficult. I told my now fiance that I couldn't be just friends. I wouldn't be able to see him and spend time with him on that level. It would hurt me to see him with others, and it would hurt me to spend time with him knowing that he didn't want to be with me. I'm not sure how long you have waited to give him a call; therefore, I'm not sure what your next move should be- that is if you should even have a next move....give some more information and I'll check back.
2007-03-20 18:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never receive that call. IN the meantime you need to concentrate on moving forward knowing that you gave it your best shot. You now should have a clean conscious.
Find your peace and move on sweetie.
2007-03-20 18:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by D B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. You ended it, it's now over. Accept it for what it is and take it as learning experience. You have a chance to do things differently next time, with someone else.
2007-03-20 18:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put it simply...that horse has left the stable and its not coming back!
go on with your life and don't look back anylonger! good luck!
2007-03-20 18:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt about the call
move on
2007-03-20 18:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Desiness-on- Ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋