I need 2 men?

Question

to be happy.I don't mean it's about sex.One offers me somethig what the other one cannot(I don't mean money or gifts).And I need so much afection that I push away anyone who adore me.

Answer 1

Have you ever tried to be with the ones that adore you? If you were with one of your admirers you would get the attention you need b/c they would want to give you all the attention they can. Unless you are just wanting to BE the center of attention. there is a big difference. You can be the center if attention all day and be with one man. Try finding something you are good at, get better at it, then you could become so good you will get all the attention you need and be with one man. Some man in your life somewhere didn't give you attention, maybe your father, a grandfather, a favorite uncle, didn't give you the attention you needed growing up, Therefore you seek attention from different men trying to find the one that gives you the exact attention you feel you missed out on. Let go of the past and move on or you will always have yourself in a mess of men that you don't need and they don't need it either.
Do you have friends? If not get some maybe you are just lacking some other form of attention that has nothing to do with a man.

I'm not trying to be harsh, b/c i don't know you or your past, I am just assuming different thing so that you start thinking about why you feel you need 2 men to give you attention and why you feel you need so much attention. which seems to be the root of your problem in question.

Answer 2

You have a couple options.

1) Tell both men the truth, it's likely harboring this secret will not only get you guilt but might cause you to lose both of them in the process.

2) Find one man who encompasses both aspects of the men you are with now.

Lastly and most importantly, remember that being happy is a state of mind that only YOU can control. No amount of men, money, or sauces can make you happy. Think about what you need versus what you want and make decisions on a priority to priority basis.

BTW "You need so much affection that you push away anyone who adores you." This just proves that you have no idea what you want. If you need more affection you wouldn't be pushing anyone away. I'm thinking you probably meant that you want a challenge, someone that doesn't succumb to your obvious charm, wit, and natural keen ability with words. haha

Answer 3

Well you just mentioned earlier that you needed a secret life. So I'm assuming you are doing exactly what you really want. If you can handle juggling the two men back and forth and you are OK with that then you don't have a problem.

If you are here trying to find out which guy is your man? We can not help with that. We don't know you or these guys.

Answer 4

I should say close both relations, take some time and sort out who you are, especially spend some time about the big need for much affection.
The point is this: you are so confused you need two to handle it, and( I guess) you are ambivalent. Thats timewaist and inefficent.
You need more thinking not base your life on feelings.
What is your real goals?

Answer 5

everyone has there own desires and sexual needs. some more than others . we are all made differently. so don't do yourself down. maybe one day you will find just the man who will be able to satisfy you in all ways.

Answer 6

Only 2? Why are you holding back?

Answer 7

You should do what ever makes you happy. (If it doesn't hurt anyone else.) Life is too short short to settle on just one person, thing, place, ect.

Answer 8

Drop both of them and keep looking for the ONE man that can give you everything you want.

Answer 9

you do not need two men, you wnat two men, you need to end both relationships and get to know yourself and find out whats best for your individual needs

Answer 10

I dated a girl like that, and she broke my heart. I forgave her in the end but It got real ugly.