What do I say to my boss to make him relax around me. Is it possible that I embarrass him?

Question

First of all. I am a size 18. My boss is 5'5 and is a medium. We went out as a co-worker group. And he acted really strange. He would make sure that there was a chair between us or make sure that he would sit totally away from. We were at the restaurant and there were two menus to share between 6 people. I go to the next table and get an extra menu and hand it to him trying to be polite. He ask the waitress to go get him a menu so he would not even look at the one that I got. So I think because I am bigger and he is skinny with "healthy" that he is disgusted by me? It was like he was saying " Hey I am in no way involved with this girl" I am not at ALL attracted to my boss. I am married. SO how do I make him feel comfortable and let him know that I am not attracted to him at all and there are no worries. Without making it worse. Or if he has a fat phobia how do I tell him to get over it without making it worse. But letting him KNOW that it hurts my feelings when he acts this way. HELP!

Answer 1

im sorry but ur boss just sounds rude. and i cant say that it is because you are a size 18. that is just no way to treat a person let alone an employee and he was way outta line. since it does not seem like he is going to apologize to you for his rude behavior. i might start putting my feelers out for another job where i would be treated with more self respect. in this day and age it is not fair with anyone to treat anyone with that amount of rudeness no matter what the height, weight, dissability, race, creed, or color of a person. also, it is not your job to make your supervisor feel comfortable around you it is his job to welcome you in and make you feel comfortable around him and in the company. Since his rude behavior happened off site of the job, i probably would not address it. if he treated you rudely at work then i would address it. if you happen to go out with a group of people and he is around, you can either stear clear of him and his rude behavior or if you go to hand him a menu and he does not take it and asks the waitress for one, you could gently pull him aside and say i noticed that you did not want to take blah blah blah, have i done something to make you feel uncomfortable around me? and wait for his answer. as long as he does not dissrespect you at work and is rude to you at work, then i probably would not address it. but iyou should not put this on your self. it is his rudeness..