i`m still pretty young my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for about 2 years we had sex for the first time last month, it hurt like hell but hey loved him. i was so concered i was pregnat and that my future was going to be ruined. Is the second time going to hurt as much as the first time, will i feel the same way? even if i am protected.
2007-03-20 11:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It shouldnt hurt as much as the first time. The more you do it the more your vagina gets used to it. You should go to a clinic or your doc and get birth control that way you wont have to worry about babies and a ruined future. Use condoms always with everyone too. It sounds to me like you need to educate yourself and your bf more about sex and the consequences and all that goes along with having sex.
2007-03-20 11:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by ByouTfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about being pregnant then you should hold off for a little while and try until you have a good amount of information and are comfortable. I'm sure that you bf will understand. It was your first time and of course you need time to think about it. If he doesn't understand then why would you want to be with someone who wants to sacrafice your comfort for his own? You should talk to him and direct him in what he is doing if he is hurting you. Let him know what to do and what not to do. It will probably hurt the next time too but eventually you will get used to it. Still you should talk to him because it may have been largely due to his methods. Also if you were having anal sex then that would explain why it hurt so badly. There is alot more discomfort that result from that position and if your boyfriend isn't being gentle about what he is doing then it could hurt you even more.
Take your time before the next time and wait until you are comfortable. Best advice that I can give you.
2007-03-20 11:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I was exactly the same way the first time I had sex. I was paranoid beyond belief, even though I was on the pill and used a condom. For the pain part, it will just depend on his size, and if youve had him "play" their before. It shouldnt hurt as bad, but until your fully adjusted to that size it might hurt a little bit. And dont be surprised if theirs any blood spotting. Thats normal since somethings might have torn in the process. Good Luck and be safe!!
2007-03-20 12:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lube is very helpful. I can remember it hurt a bit till like the fourth time......but lube helped a lot. It is different for everyone, I'm sure you will be fine, as long as you use protection properly. Try and go on the pill if possible also! That is what I did and I used condoms and didn't have one problem!
It does hurt a bit but it does and should go away soon.
Just because it hurts doesn't mean you are pregnant.....maybe you should really learn more about your body and how it works! (we are very awesome creatures!)
2007-03-20 11:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first time usually hurts because your hymen breaks, second time will also be kind of akward, but it won't hurt as much, only by having more sex will your body get used to it and start to feel good, also remember to try different brands of condoms, cuz i have problems with some brands, they give me some kind of an allergy that dries my vagina up so it creates friction that hurts a lot, try changing the normal condoms for lubricated condoms, this are usually better... hope i helped!
2007-03-20 11:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by paulipauli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o trust me. it will hurt and yall had sex a month ago? of course it is gonna feel jus like the first because ya walls havent really stretched. whr a condom to avoid pregnancy or go on the birth control pill. good luck. it took me like 3 months or so for it to be pleasurable. but make sure that he gets u wet becuz if it isnt then it will be like friciton in ya vagina and it will hurt alot.
2007-03-20 11:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by CaribbeanChica 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it is one of the pleasures of life. You will get used to it, and come to love it if your partner is sensitive to you needs and wants. Do not have sex without protection, it doesn't take a lot of sperm to get you pregnant.
2007-03-20 11:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the first time of course always hurts worse. The breaking of the hymen and what not happens. Its much easier and less painful after that first time. So stay safe and have fun :)
2007-03-20 11:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by SweetPea 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
enjoy it and have fun dont let those things scare you if you are well protected
2007-03-20 11:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by lizziemoffles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it will not hurt so much the more you do it.
And use condoms
2007-03-20 11:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by defy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋