I have been married for 2 and a half years and I just dont know if he is the one. We went through so much to be togethe, but now it seems like there is nothing, especially on his part. He says he loves me, but we have different ideas on what we want from life and how to get it. I love him so much, but something niggles in the back of mind that he may not be the one.
Our marraige is going through a real up and down period. I feel so scared and lonely sometimes. I dont know where it all went wrong.
Is there anyone else out there who is going through something similar? we are from different cultural backrounds and I think this plays a major part. We were so in love and I feel I will never get that back.
2007-03-20 11:00:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is marriage. Work through it and believe in that magic that brought you together to begin with.
2007-03-20 13:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been married for 2 1/2 yr first couple of years of marriage is tough.. You really need to sit down with him and talk to him about how you feel and what your going through.
I went through the same thing 2yr into my marriage felt the same way (except I knew he was the one) marriage is tough its something you have to put 100% in and fight for, dont throw your arms up you love him and you need to work it out.
Talk with him......
2007-03-20 11:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marridges always have their bumps, whther it be in the first year, second year. people do change, however you should tolerate it because maybe you changed too. life changes after marridge. if the cultural back grounds make a big deal try talking to him about it. if he gets angry, then avoid the subject. go to the movies and watch a good movie. talk about life before marridge. talk about your memories. 2 years is nothing, my parents have been married for almost 25 and all they do is fight and not get along. YOU CAN DO IT! if you really love him that is
2007-03-20 11:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but the bible talks about not marrying out of your culture. The bible says that life will be difficult if you do it, but not impossible.
This is your life, and it doesn't look like you have any children, so do what you think is best. I wish you would have stated your cultures. That would have been a good help.
2007-03-20 11:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All marriages have good times and bad times, that how in the end you know if you and your spouse will stand the test of time. Sure, in 12 1/2 years of marriage, my husband and I have had our fights, and our disagreements. (99% of them over money) But we work on our problems, talk them out, and comprise, and have faith in eachother. I believe that's how we have lasted so long. Just keep working on it, and talk....It should work out...goodluck!
2007-03-20 12:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to him?? he could feel the same way......this could just be the late version/sorta newlywed cold feet. u have almost just started your life together so things should be fresh....i dont no...its a tough one. it could be one of those decisions in life that you just have to make on your own....i guess it just depends how both of you feel about each other. do u have children?? if so you have to really give them consideration also. well good luck to you. i really do hope everything works out between you guys. wish i could have been more of a help.
2007-03-20 11:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go to a therapist and start working on these questions and coming to answers or realizations for yourself. If you want to save or work on this marriage, I would suggest marriage counseling for you both. People and attitudes change, compromise is possible but must be worked on by both parties.
2007-03-20 11:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by curious74432 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
shouldn't you have thought about that before you married him??? grrrrr...why is it as soon as someone has a tough time they head to divorce court.....perhaps if you work through it you will come out stronger and deeper in love...
2007-03-20 11:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go seek cousneling before you give up. It may really help. He was the one once, so he probably still is.
2007-03-20 11:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juss sit down and have a talk because good communication always come in handy in a troubled relationship.
2007-03-20 11:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by boricua allz day ur day $$$ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋